Igcine ukubuyekezwa ngoSepthemba 25, 2022 ngu Roger Kaufman
11 Amathiphu Enjabulo - Ukukhathazeka kugcwele ekuphileni kwethu kwansuku zonke futhi kudingeka sifunde ukugcina isimo sengqondo esihle.
Abacwaningi bathola ukuthi "umjikelezo wokwesaba ohambisana nokudedela unganqanyulwa ngokufunda ukukwenza kancane kancane."
Ukuze senze lokhu, kufanele sifunde ukugoqa amathemba ethu aphezulu emiphumeleni yansuku zonke.
“Uma sicabanga ukukuyeka, sivame ukugxila kulokho esikuyekayo. Kodwa kukhona omunye futhi olunye uhlangothi lwale ndaba. Kufanele futhi sicabangele esikuzuzayo ngokuxegisa izintambo zethu.” - Akwaziwa
Ukufeza lokhu, ngincoma ukwenza lokhu Yekela ukuzijwayeza emazingeni ayishumi nanye ahlukene:
1. Thola kancane unamathisele ekuqinisekeni kwakho kanye nokuqagela - 11 amathiphu enjabulo
"Yekela akusho ukulahlekelwa lutho; kusho ukunqoba okuningi.” - Akwaziwa
Lapho sizithola sephula imicabango yethu kanye neziqinisekiso zethu kusukela emkhosini, singaqala sibabuze.
Singase sizibuze ukuthi sazi kanjani ukuthi ziyiqiniso nokuthi ziyiqiniso yini ezinye izinketho inikeza ukubona izinto.
Lokhu kungasisiza ukuba sandise umbono wethu futhi sipholise thina.
2. Yamukela ngokuqaphela ukungaqiniseki futhi ushintshe njengengxenye evamile yokuphila
“Kwesinye isikhathi kumele senze njalo yekela okwedlule, ukuze siqhubekele phambili.” - Akwaziwa
Uma sibhekene nokungaqiniseki, ngokuvamile sibhekana nokulahlekelwa amandla okubangelwa ukungazi ukuthi kuzokwenzekani ngokulandelayo.
Isinqumo, ukungaqiniseki kwethu ukuphila ukukwamukela ngokuqaphela kungashintsha kakhulu indlela esizibheka ngayo.
Abanye bangase baphikise ngokuthi baphila ukuphila kwabo ngendlela engalindelekile Ngokuzayo hola njengoba befunda ukudedela futhi bamukele ukwesaba.
Ukungabikezeli kwekusasa lakho ukomela komuntu imfihlakalo nomzabalazo ongaxazululiwe wokulawula mayelana nakho.
"Angiphelele, kodwa ngingokoqobo." - Akwaziwa
Kunabantu abangasoze yekela futhi ayikwazi ukulungiselela ikusasa elingaziwa.
Babhajwa esimeni sempilo esimile lapho umhlaba usunqunyelwe bona.
Lokhu kungabonakala ngokwengqondo noma sekuphenduke indlela yokuphila egxilile.
Ukuqwashisa kuyisihluthulelo, ukucabangela nokuzindla kungasiza umuntu ukuthi amukele ingxenye yendawo yonke shintsha ukuqonda nokuyeka ukubambelela ngendlela engafanele esimweni - esidlule, samanje noma esizayo.
3. Nciphisa okulindelekile kokulungile
"Kulula ukubambelela ezintweni ezingasilungele." - Akwaziwa
Es kunzima kubantuukuze bazikhumbuze ukuthi umphumela omuhle kakhulu, noma ngisho nalokho abakulindele ngomphumela omuhle kakhulu, ngeke kwenzeke njalo.
Ubuchopho buvama ukukhohlisa abantu ukuthi bacabange ukuthi banaye ophelele ukuphila bazozuza uma besebenza kanzima ngokwanele.
Lokhu akulona iqiniso futhi kungaholela ekudumazekeni kokuzethemba nokulahlekelwa ugqozi.
Ukulindela ukuthi yonke into kufanele iphelele noma ukuthi izinto zizohlala zihamba ngendlela yethu kungasenza singaphili okwamanje.
Kunalokho, sivame ukuba matasa sifuna isimo esihle kakhulu noma sicabanga ukuthi sizokwenza kanjani lapho izinto zingahleli.
Nokho, lapho sigxila kakhulu ekusaseni futhi sikhathazeka ngokuthi yini engase yonakale, siphuthelwa ithuba lokujabulela okwamanje.
Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Imvamisa kungenxa yokuthi sibeka esikulindele phezulu kakhulu.
Sakha okuthile emiqondweni yethu ukuthi kube yileyo nto ephelele, futhi uma ingaphili ngokufinyelela uphawu, siyadumala.
Nokho, singakwazi ukufunda ukudedela nokuthatha izinto njengoba ziza, esikhundleni sokuhlala ubheka umphumela ophelele.
Ich kufanele futhi idedele okulindelweesinawo wonke umuntu ngoba ngezinye izikhathi asikwazi ukulawula ukusabela noma izenzo zabo.
Ekupheleni kosuku, kudingeka sikhumbule ukuthi akekho umuntu ophelele nokuthi abantu benza amaphutha endleleni eya ekupheleleni.
4. Yiba nezifiso nemibono engokoqobo
“Uma into ongayithandi, yishintshe; uma ungakwazi ukukushintsha, shintsha isimo sakho sengqondo." - Maya Angelou
Ukufeza iphupho kunzima futhi kungase kube nzima ngezinye izikhathi.
Kodwa indlela engcono kakhulu yokuhlala ukhuthazekile ukugcina imigomo yakho ingokoqobo.
Uma ubeka okulindele phezulu kakhulu futhi kungafezeki, ungase udikibale noma uyeke ngokuphelele umgomo wakho.
5. Yeka ukunamathela kukho konke okungokwakho | impahla noma abantu
"Akudingeki ukuthi uhlale unamathele kukho konke onakho." - Akwaziwa
Uma singabanikazi bento, ngezinye izikhathi sizizwa sixhumene nayo.
lokhu izinto kungaba ngokomzimba njengendlu, imoto, noma ngisho nezingubo.
Kodwa futhi kungaba abantu esibambelele kubo.
Singakwazi ukunamathela emndenini wethu, kubangane bethu, noma ngisho nomlingani wethu.
Kodwa kuthiwani uma kudingeka sifunde ukuyeka lezi zinto?
Kubalulekile ukuthi ufunde ukudedela izinto ezikubuyisela emuva.
Indawo ehlanzekile ekuzungezile iba ngaphezulu lokusungula, positivity futhi unike amandla ubudlelwano obungcono.
6. Yeka imisebenzi ongeke ukwazi ukuyenza
"Kumele uyekele lokho okusaba kakhulu ukuze uzuze lokho okufisa kakhulu." - Lao tzu
Kunemisebenzi eminingi eyehlayo futhi okungalindelekile ukuthi ithuthuke maduzane isikhathi uzolulama.
Ngokocwaningo, kucatshangwa ukuthi, ngokwesibonelo, isibalo sabasebenzisa izingcingo sisazoqhubeka sincipha njengoba abantu abaningi bethembele kumaselula nasezingxoxweni ze-inthanethi.
Okokuqala ngenela ngidedele wezinto ukuqaphela ukuthi awekho amandla angokoqobo.
Abantu abaningi babambelele emisebenzini ngoba benethemba lokuthi isimo sizogcina sishintshile. Kodwa uma uthembekile kuwena, kuyacaca ukuthi akunjalo.
Leli thiphu lingakusiza ukuthi uhlukane nezinto okufanele uziyeke.
- Zibuze ukuthi akhona yini amandla angokoqobo.
- Thembeka kuwena.
- Thatha igxathu udedele.
7. Beka phambili imigomo yakho futhi wenze ngokuvumelana nayo
"Akudingeki ukuthi ube mkhulu ukuze uqale, kodwa kufanele uqale ube mkhulu." - Zig Ziglar
Kubalulekile ukugxila emigomweni ebaluleke kakhulu kuqala bese udlulela kweminye engabalulekile kangako.
Ukuze ubeke phambili imigomo yakho, hlela ukuthi yikuphi okuphuthumayo nokungafanelekile.
- Thola umuntu ongaveza imizwa yakho naye ngaphandle kokwahlulela.
- Yenza okuthile okwakhayo nobuciko okungenani kanye ngosuku, kungaba ukupheka, ukubhala, ukwenza ama-jigsaw puzzle - hhayi nje izinhlelo ze-TV noma inkundla yezokuxhumana
"Awungazi ukuthi nginamandla kangakanani uze ungibone ngibuthakathaka." - Muhammad Ali
8. Yijabulele ngempela yonke imizuzu, ngisho naleyo enzima
"Uma uvuka ekuseni uchitha isikhathi esingakanani ucabanga izolo?" - UCharles Swindoll
Kwesinye isikhathi kulula ukukhohlwa ukuthi izikhathi ezinzima empilweni zingabaluleka njengezo eziphumelele.
Ngokwesibonelo, lapho sibhekene nesikhathi esiyinselele noma esiyinselele Isipiliyoni ezibhekene nazo, singathola incazelo nenjongo endleleni ezisenze ngayo.
Lokhu kuvame ukubangelwa ukuthi ubuchopho bethu buhlelwe ukuthi bubheke amaphethini futhi bunamathisele incazelo ezenzakalweni (ngisho nezinzima).
"Ngeke uye ndawo uma wesaba ukuthatha izingozi." - Michael Jordan
9. Bonisa uzwela kwabanye | Amathiphu angu-11 enjabulo
"Umuntu kuphela okufanele uhlabe umxhwele nguwe kuphela." - Akwaziwa
uzwela yikhono lokuzibeka ezicathulweni zomunye umuntu nokuqonda imizwa yakhe. Kuyikhono elibalulekile lokuxhumana nabantu elisivumela ukuthi siqonde kangcono futhi sisekele labo abasizungezile.
Ngeshwa, uzwela ngokuvamile ludidaniswa nozwela.
Ububele yikhono lokuhlanganyela emizweni nasezinhlungwini zomunye umuntu.
Uzwela, ngakolunye uhlangothi, yikhono lokuzibeka ezicathulweni zomunye umuntu futhi uqonde imizwa yakhe ngaphandle kokuthi wena uthinteke.
Ukuzwelana kuyikhono elibalulekile lokuxhumana nabantu elisisiza ukuthi siqonde kangcono futhi seseke labo abasizungezile.
10. Dala ijenali yokubonga
"Uma ukhulula, kukhulula enye into ngaphakathi kuwe." - ULao Tzu
Kunamathiphu amaningi we Yekela. Ukugcina ijenali yokubonga kungenye yezindlela zokugcina umbono wakho umuhle.
Ukubhala ijenali yokubonga kuyindlela enhle yokuletha ukuqiniseka okwengeziwe empilweni yakho.
Ngokubhala izinhlu zokubonga, uzozikhumbuza ngalokho onakho empilweni okufanele ubonge ngakho.
Lena indlela enhle yokuthola okwengeziwe Ukuletha izinto ezinhle empilweni yakho kanye nokuzethemba kwakho Yakha.
11. Umsebenzi omusha nsuku zonke
"Into kuphela engashintshi ukushintsha." - UJohn Lennon
Elinye icebiso liwukubamba usuku: ziphushe wenze umsebenzi omusha njalo ekuseni futhi uqiniseke ukuthi uyawuqonda umehluko phakathi kokungakhululeki okuhle nokubi.
Lokhu kukugcina ukhuthazekile futhi mancane amathuba okuthi uthathe imikhuba engalungile.
amazwi funda ukudedela
"Uma u thanda umuntu, amkhulule. Uma ebuyela kuwena, kufanele ahlale engowakho.” - Akwaziwa
“Ukuphela kwento esiphume kuyo umlando ukufunda ukuthi asikaze sifunde." - UWill Durant
"Uma udlula esihogweni, qhubeka." - Winston Churchill
“Akuyona iminyaka yokuphila kwakho ebalwayo. Kuyimpilo eminyakeni yakho." - u-Abraham Lincoln
"Kumele ufunde ukuhlulwa ngaphambi kokuthi uwine." - UMark Twain
"Umuntu ongalenzi amaphutha yilowo ongenzi lutho." - Albert Einstein
"Kumele ufunde ukwehluleka ngaphambi kokuthi ufunde ukuphumelela." - Michael Jordan
