Igcine ukubuyekezwa ngoSepthemba 2, 2023 ngu Roger Kaufman
Isingeniso Amanga amazwi ukucabanga ngakho
Ugogo wanginika lokhu Esho ngafundisa ngisengumfanyana.
Angikaze ngiyikhohlwe futhi yinto engisacabanga ngayo nawo wonke umuntu engihlangana naye.
"Ungakhuluma iqiniso, kodwa uma ungumqambimanga, uyohlala ekhona ongeke akholwe."
Wayehlale esho kimi lapho ngenze okuthile okungalungile noma ngiqamba amanga.
“Akekho umuntu okholelwa umuntu onamanga. Noma ekhuluma iqiniso." – USara Shepard
"Amanga ahlala njalo, kodwa amaqiniso ahlala njalo." – Edgar J. Mohn
“Amazwi amanga awawona nje amabi ngokwawo, kodwa asulela umphefumulo ngonya.” - Plato
"Akungihluphi ukuthi ungiqambele amanga, kuyangikhathaza ukuthi kusukela manje angikukholwa." - Friedrich Nietzsche
Kuwo wonke amanga engiwezwayo, “I liebe wena" sithandwa sami. - Akwaziwa
"Ukuqamba amanga kuyisevisi yesikhashana eyinkinga engeke ilungiswe." - Akwaziwa
"Ayikho into eyihlazo emhlabeni njengokukhula emangeni nasezinganekwaneni." - UJohann Wolfgang von Goethe
"Iqiniso elingaphelele liyigwala kunawo wonke amanga." - Mark Twain
"Lapho iqiniso lithathelwa indawo ukuthula, ukuthula kungamanga." – Yevgeny Yevtushenko
"Izinto zishabalala ngokushesha uma sezihlanganiswe namanga." – Dorothy Allison
"Amanga angahamba emhlabeni wonke ngaphambi kokuba iqiniso lifake amabhuzu awo." –Terry Pratchet
"Kungcono ukungasebenzisi ukuthethelela kunokubi." - George Washington
"Kungcono ukulinyazwa iqiniso kunokududuzwa ngamanga." – Khaled Hosseini
"Amazwi Amanga Okufanele Ucabange Ngawo" ingosi yebhulogi ekhuluma ngesihloko izimiso zokuziphatha nezimilo ezihilelekile.
Kungani kubalulekile ukukhuluma iqiniso futhi imiphi imiphumela yokuqamba amanga?
44 amanga izingcaphuno ukuzindla
Ividiyo enama-44 amanga okufanele sicabange ngayo esizitshela yona nsuku zonke.
Kungani abantu beqamba amanga
Abantu baqamba amanga ngezizathu ezahlukene.
Ngokuvamile kulula ukusonta noma ukufihla iqiniso kunokubhekana nemiphumela yeqiniso.
Ngezinye izikhathi kuba nje indaba yokusinda. Kwezinye izimo, kungaba yindlela yokusebenzisa amandla noma ukulawula isimo.
Abanye abantu baqamba amanga kaningi kunabanye. Ukuqamba amanga kungashesha kube umkhuba, futhi abanye abantu baqamba amanga kangangokuthi abasakwazi nokulazi ukuthi liyini iqiniso.
Kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zamanga. Amanye amanga awanangozi kanti amanye angaba nemiphumela emibi kakhulu.
"Ngamanga ungaqhubekela phambili emhlabeni, kodwa awukwazi ukubuyela emuva." - Isaga sesiRashiya
"Noma yini engcono kakhulu kunamanga nenkohliso!" - Leo Tolstoy
"Amanga awodwa anele ukuhlola lonke iqiniso." - Akwaziwa
"Wonke umuntu unelungelo lombono wakhe, kodwa hhayi amaqiniso abo." – Daniel Patrick Moynihan
"Amanga aphindwa kaningi awashintshi iqiniso." – UFrank Sonenberg
“Noma yikuphi ukwephulwa kweqiniso akulona nje uhlobo lokuzibulala ngokwenza umgunyathi, kodwa kuwukugwaza empilweni nasenhlalakahleni yabantu. isiko. " - URalph Waldo Emerson
“Xolela ukhohlwe. Ingase ingashintshi okwedlule, kodwa inikeza ithuba lekusasa." - Akwaziwa
"Uma uqamba amanga, weba okuhle kakhulu kothile eqinisweni." – Khaled Hosseini
“Sonke sikuziqhingi izilwandle ukumemeza kokungaqondi omunye komunye." - URudyard Kipling
"Abantu abalokothi baqambe amanga njengoba benza ngaphambi kokhetho, ngesikhathi sempi, noma ngemva kokuzingela." -Otto von Bismarck
“Abantu abaningi bazobe besaba kakhulu uma bebhekana nakho isimilo sakhe sangempela ngizozibonela esibukweni." - Akwaziwa
"Ukungaguquguquki kufana nokudla ushevu wamagundane bese ulinda ukufa kwegundane." - Anne Lamott
“Amanga awabi futhi awalungile. Njengomlilo bangakuthatha nawe ethokomele zikubambe noma zikuchithe ufe, kuye ngokuthi zisetshenziswa kanjani. – UMax Bach
“Uqamba amanga kumuntu wakho uthando, hhayi ku. Kungenye yezinto ezithusa kakhulu isithandwa esingayenza." - Akwaziwa
"Lapho uvikela amanga, uthukuthele kakhulu ekugcineni." – Mitch Albom
Imiphumela Yamanga
Ukuqamba amanga kungasisindisa emiphumeleni engathandeki esikhathini esifushane, kodwa imiphumela iba mibi kakhulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Lapho sesijwayele ukuziqambela amanga noma ukuqamba amanga kwabanye ubuhlungu Ukuze sizivikele noma silahlekelwe, sakha udonga lokungathembani okwenza kube nzima ukwazi imizwa yethu yangempela
ukuziveza noma ukwakha ubudlelwano bangempela.
Amanga angasidukisa futhi abe yingozi ebuhlotsheni bethu.
Uma uqamba amanga, uzakwenu uba nezinsolo futhi ungalahlekelwa ukumethemba.
Ukuqamba amanga nakho kungaholela ekutheni uqambe amanga kuwe nakwakho ukuzethemba lahlekelwa.
“Siqamba amanga uma sithandabuza, sisaba esingakwazi, sisaba ukuthi abanye bazosithatha kanjani, ngenxa yokwesaba okuzotholakala ngathi. Kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho sikhuluma amanga anolwazi, into esiyesabayo, iba namandla kakhulu. " - Akwaziwa
"Amanga, ikakhulukazi lawo owakholelwayo, angathonya." – Lisa Wittle
"Izithembiso zakho ngizozifaka emlonyeni wakho ngizijabulele lapho usuzikhafule ebusweni bami." - Anne Kuester
"Ngamanga ungaqhubekela phambili emhlabeni, kodwa awukwazi ukubuyela emuva." - Isaga sesiRashiya
“Owokuqala ocela intethelelo unesibindi. Owokuqala othethelelayo unzima kakhulu, futhi owokuqala ongawukhumbuli ojabule kakhulu." - Akwaziwa
"Ngoba ngenkathi amanga emuhle, iqiniso yilokho okubalulekile kuwe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi." – Lauren DeStefano
"Amagama akhathalelayo amane nje awuchungechunge lwemihlobiso ejabulisayo ekhulunywayo uma engasekelwa umsebenzi wothando." – Karen Salmansohn
"Amanga kwesinye isikhathi anganemba ukwedlula iqiniso, yingakho kubhalwa inganekwane." – Tim O'Brien
“Kusho ukuthi abantu abangihluphi. Kusho ukuthi abantu abazenza abantu abalungile bayangikhathaza kakhulu." - UCindy Cummings-Johnson
“Amanga ayingozi njengenkemba. Ungasika uze ufike ethanjeni." – Dhonielle Clayton
"Amanga anonya kakhulu avame ukukhulunywa kuthuleke." - URobert Louis Stevenson
"Ukubekezela akulona yini ikhono lokudela konke okuncike enhliziyweni yakho?" – Bisco Hatori
"Imvamisa amanye amanga akhuluma ngokuzethemba okukhulu angakhanga kakhulu kunamaqiniso akhuluma ngokungangabazeki." – Toba Beta
“Uma unenketho phakathi ukuphila futhi babe nokufa, khetha ukuphila. Uma unenketho phakathi kokulungile nokungalungile, ukhetha okulungile. Futhi lapho unikezwa ukukhetha phakathi kweqiniso elibi namanga amahle, ukhetha iqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi." - Mira Grant
Khuluma iqiniso
Akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukhuluma iqiniso.
Kwesinye isikhathi kulula kakhulu ukuqamba amanga ngoba iqiniso lingaba buhlungu noma wesaba ukwahlulelwa.
Kodwa kuthiwani uma iqiniso liwukuphela kwenketho efanele?
Akufanele ngabe ukhuluma iqiniso-ke?
"Abantu baqala ukuba khona nakakhulu lapho beqala ukukhathalela kancane." - Rainfall Cooper
"Ngicabanga ukuthi into embi kakhulu eyake yashiwo ukuthi ubuhle nokusebenza kuhambisana." – Daniel Nayeri
"Hawu, yeka iwebhu ephitheneyo esiyiluka lapho siqala ukuzilolonga ukukhohlisa." - UWalter Scott
“Kungenzeka into ethile futhi kube amanga aphelele; elinye iphuzu alinakwenzeka futhi libe yiqiniso kuneqiniso. " – Tim O'Brien
“Amanga ayingxenye yezwe langempela. Azikwazi ukuba khona endaweni yomoya." – Nnedi Okorafor
"Ngicabanga ukuthi kwezinye izimo kufanele ube khona ukuze uthole iqiniso." – Scott Westerfeld
"Kuzodingeka sivumele iqiniso ukuthi likhale kakhulu ezingqondweni zethu kunamanga asithelelekile." -Beth Moore
“Ukuzama ukuqonda ukuthi uyahlanya kuzovele kukuhlanyise. Kuyeke kuhambe." – Karen Salmansohn
"Kunezizathu ezimbalwa zokulinganisa, kodwa inombolo yokuqamba amanga nayo ayinamkhawulo." - UCarlos Ruiz Zafon
“Iqiniso lingcolile. Iluhlaza futhi ayizwakali. Awukwazi ukusola abantu ngokukhetha amanga.” – Holly Black
Ama-borderliners aqamba amanga sengathi aphrintiwe
AbakwaBorderliner banomkhuba wokuqamba amanga sengathi ahlelwe ngamanga.
Lona ojwayelekile ethi, esetshenziswa ezingxoxweni zansuku zonke.
Umuntu one-borderline personality disorder uvame ukuqamba amanga ukuze agweme ukungqubuzana futhi ajabulise omunye umuntu.
Umbhali walesi sisho akaziwa, kodwa baningi amazwi mayelana amanga neqiniso.
Umshwana odumile uthi: "Amanga awazimeli." Lokhu kusho ukuthi amanga ngeke akholwe ngaphandle uma kusekelwe obunye ubufakazi.
Omunye umusho odumile uthi: "Iqiniso lizovela." Lokho kusho ukuthi iqiniso liyogcina liphumile, ngisho noma kufanele likhishwe kumuntu ongafuni ukulidalula.
Isaga "Ama-Borderliners aqamba amanga sengathi aphrintiwe" wayevame ukuchaza umuntu onekhono lokuqamba amanga kuze kube sengathi ukhuluma iqiniso.
Amanga anemilenze emifushane
Lesi sisho sivame ukusetshenziswa ukukhombisa ukuthi amanga abonakala kalula futhi ngeke ahlale isikhathi eside. Ezikhathini eziningi lisetshenziswa lapho othile eqamba amanga futhi lowo amqambela amanga uyakwazi lokho.
Umusho "Amanga anemilenze emifushane" sekungamakhulu eminyaka ikhona. Yaqoshwa okokuqala ngesiNgisi ngekhulu le-16 lapho ihunyushwa isuka esaga sesiNtaliyane.
"Imilenze emifishane" kulesi saga kusho ukuthi amanga awahlali isikhathi eside ngoba azobonakala maduze.
Amazwi amafushane amanga
Ngaphansi kwamanga amafushane Izisho zisho izisho nezingcaphuno ezimfushanelokho kungashiwo ngamanga.
Ukuqamba amanga kuyingxenye yokuphila komuntu futhi kuza ngezindlela eziningi.
Amazwi amafushane amanga kufanele asize ukuqonda amanga kangcono futhi asebenzise izinjongo ezahlukene.
Izisho ezimbalwa ezingamanga zingasiza ekuboneni nokwamukela iqiniso lakho. Amanye amanga amafushane angasiza ukusebenzisa amanga ukuze akhohlise noma akhohlise abanye abantu.
Amazwi amafushane amanga angasiza futhi ukubona nokugwema amanga.
Amanga ukukhohlisa noma ukukhohlisa okwenziwe ngamabomu ukukhohlisa umuntu.
Ukuqamba amanga kungase kubonakale kungenangozi njengokushiya ulwazi lweqiniso noma ukwakha ulwazi olusha.
Abantu baqamba amanga ngezizathu eziningi, kodwa okuvame kakhulu mhlawumbe yingoba bacabanga ukuthi kuzuzisa bona.
Uma uqambela umuntu amanga, ungase uphumelele esikhathini esifushane, kodwa cishe uzolahlekelwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Isisho sokuqala sithi: "Isondo elikhalayo lithola amafutha." Lesi isisho esidumile esisho ukuthi uma ukhononda noma ukhuluma umqondo wakho, uthola okufunayo.
Isisho sesibili sithi: "I-dime elondoloziwe iyi-dime ezuziwe." Lesi isisho esidumile esisho ukuthi uma ungasebenzisi imali manje, yonge bese uyisebenzisa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
- "Ngiyaxolisa."
- "Okubi kakhulu ngokuqanjelwa amanga ukwazi ukuthi ubungekho iqiniso kulowo muntu."
- "Kube yingozi."
- "Umuntu othi akasoze akuqambela amanga mhlampe usenamanga."
- "Iqiniso lingase libe buhlungu okwesikhashana, kodwa amanga abuhlungu kuze kube phakade."
- "Bengingaqondile lokho."
- "Amanga angakwazi ukunakekela okwamanje, kodwa awanakusasa."
- "Amanga amakhulu noma amancane angamanga."
- "Angikuqambi amanga."
- “Ukuqamba amanga kwenzeka ngamazwi nangokuthula.”
- "Akuwona amanga."
- "Ungangiqambi amanga ngaphandle uma unesiqiniseko sokuthi ngeke ngilithole iqiniso."
- "Bekungemina lowo."
- "Awukwazi ukuqamba amanga ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi ulindele ukuthi abantu bakwethembe."
- "Uma ukhuluma iqiniso, asikho isidingo sokukhumbula lutho." - UMark Twain
- "Njalo uma uqamba amanga, kungisondeza kancane ukuthi ngivalelise."
- "Khuluma amanga kanye futhi lonke iqiniso lakho liyangabazeka."
- “Ungalinge uqambe amanga kumuntu okuthembayo. Ungalinge uthembe umuntu okuqambela amanga."
- "Kuwo wonke amanga engiwazwile, 'ngiyakuthanda' kwakuyintandokazi yami."
- Angicasuki ukuthi ungiqambele amanga, ngiyacasuka ukuthi angikukholwa kusukela manje kuya phambili." - Friedrich Nietzsche
- "Ukukhuluma iqiniso nokukhalisa umuntu kungcono kunokuqamba amanga nokwenza umuntu amamatheke."
- "Engingakuqondi ukuthi umuntu oyedwa angakutshela kanjani amanga angaka ngaphandle kokuphatheka kabi ngawo."
Isiphetho singamanga
Ukuqamba amanga akukhona nje ukukhohlisa abanye, kodwa ngokuyinhloko kuwukuzikhohlisa wena.
Umuntu oqamba amanga uhlala ezweni lezimanga nezimangaliso futhi uya ngokuya eba kude neqiniso.
Ukuqamba amanga kuyindlela yokugwema ukwesaba nobuhlungu.
Kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi ukuqamba amanga kusilethela ukwesaba nobuhlungu ngaphezu kwalokho esingakucabanga.
Uma sifuna ukufunda ukunqoba ukwesaba kwethu futhi sizethembe, kumelwe sifunde ukukhuluma iqiniso.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele sikhulume iqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa kumelwe sifunde ukwethembeka kithi ngokwethu.
Lapho sifunda ukwethembeka, siyokwazi nokwethembeka ngokwengeziwe.
