U-Dale Carnegie ucaphuna ngempilo, uthando nenjabulo

Igcine ukubuyekezwa ngoMashi 26, 2023 ngu Roger Kaufman

UDale Carnegie wayengumbhali waseMelika owabhala ngokuwina abangani nokuthonya abantu. Wazalwa ngo-1887 futhi wafa ngo-1955.

Wabhala izincwadi ezimbalwa zokuzithuthukisa, kuhlanganise nethi How to Win Friends.

Isikhathi esiningi sicabanga ukuthi kufanele senze into enkulu ukuze senze... ukuphila ukushintsha.

Kodwa ngisho nezinguquko ezincane zingaba nomthelela omkhulu.

Eqinisweni, abanye babaholi abakhulu bake baba umlando Abantu abenze izinguquko ezincane ekuphileni kwabo kwansuku zonke.

"Kufanele sizimisele ukulahla imibono emidala, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingcwele kangakanani, uma amaqiniso amasha ezothatha indawo yawo." - Dale Carnegie

Izingcaphuno zikaDale Carnegie zizokukhuthaza ukuba umuntu ongcono

UDale Carnegie uthe "imfihlo yokudlulela phambili empilweni ukuqala".

Funda eyakhe lapha ukucaphuna ugqozi.

"Uma uzithola usemgodini - yeka ukumba." - Dale Carnegie

"Umuntu ongasenalutho ngeke akwazi ukuphila." - Dale Carnegie

“Ukuhlolwa kwentuthuko yethu akukhona ukuthi senezela yini enala yalabo abanokuningi; kumayelana nokuthi sinikela okwanele yini kulabo abanokuncane kakhulu.” - Dale Carnegie

"Kufanele sithuthukise ikhono lethu lokuthethelela abanye ngokushesha njengoba sizithethelela thina." - Dale Carnegie

"Umuntu ongakaze enze iphutha akakaze azame okusha." - Dale Carnegie

Kulula ukucabanga ukuthi impumelelo iza kuphela ngokusebenza kanzima nokuzinikela. Nokho, zikhona ezinye izindlela eziya empumelelweni. Enye yazo ukufunda emaphutheni. Uma wenze iphutha, funda kulo futhi uqhubekele phambili. Ungagxili kukho ngoba kuzokubamba nje.

“Ukuhlolwa kwenqubekela phambili yethu akukhona ukuthi sinomnotho ongaphezu kokhokho bethu; ukuthi ngabe singaphezulu ukuhlakanipha ukuba nayo." - Dale Carnegie

Kuningi Izilinganiso nguDale Carnegie ongakukhuthaza ukuthi ube umuntu ongcono. Nazi ezinye zakhe izingcaphuno ezidumile:

"Indoda akufanele neze isho lutho ngaphandle kokuthi kukhona okuhlakaniphile okumele ukukusho." - Dale Carnegie

“Ingcebo ayikona ukuba nemali eningi; wukukwazi ukwenza ngalokho onakho.” - Dale Carnegie

"Angazi okuningi ngomlando, kodwa ngazi into eyodwa: umuntu akakaze afunde lutho ngokuma anganyakazi." - Dale Carnegie

Encwadini yakhe ethi How to Make Friends, uDale Carnegie wathi:

“Ungalokothi utshele abantu ukuthi benzeni. Batshele ukuthi yini abangayenza. Bese ubabuka bezama ukuthola ukuthi bakwenza kanjani bona uqobo.” - Dale Carnegie

Lesi sisho sikhombisa ukubaluleka kokusiza abanye baphumelele kunokuba ubatshele ukuthi benzeni.

“Dala impumelelo ngamaphutha. Kokubili ukukhungatheka nokwehluleka kuyizinyathelo ezimbili eziqinisekile eziya empumelelweni.” - Dale Carnegie

“Akukhona lokho onakho noma lokho oyikho noma lapho wenza khona okukwenza ujabule noma ungajabuli. Yilokho okucabangayo ngakho." - Dale Carnegie

“Ungesabi ukuthi izimbangi zizokuhlasela. Ungangabazi phambi kwabangane abakuncomayo.” - Dale Carnegie

"Ungenza abangani abaningi ezinyangeni ezimbili ngokucabanga ngabanye abantu kuneminyaka emibili ngokuzama ukwenza abanye abantu bacabange ngawe." - Dale Carnegie

“Noma yisiphi isiwula singagxeka, sikhononde futhi sahlulele—futhi iziwula eziningi zenza kanjalo. Kodwa kudinga isimilo nokuzithiba ukuqonda nokuthethelela.” - Dale Carnegie

"Lapho usebenza nabantu, khumbula ukuthi awusebenzelani nezidalwa ezinengqondo, kodwa izidalwa ezigcwele ubandlululo futhi zikhuthazwa ukwaneliseka nobuze." - Dale Carnegie

“Impumelelo wukuthola okufunayo. Injabulo ifuna lokho okutholayo.” - Dale Carnegie

Ungawina kanjani abangani | 68 Izingcaphuno zikaDale Carnegie

UDale Carnegie ungumbhali nothisha waseMelika owavelela ekuqaleni kwekhulu lama-20.

UDale Carnegie wabhala izincwadi ezimbalwa, ezihlanganisa iHow To Win Friends nethi How To Influence Someone.

UDale Carnegie wayeyisikhulumi esihle nothisha okhuthazayo. U-Dale Carnegie unezingcaphuno ezinhle mayelana nokuphila lokho Liebe kanye nenjabulo ebhalwe ukuthi ngifuna ukwabelana nawe lapha.

Ungawina Kanjani Abangane Futhi Uthonye Izimpawu Zabantu - U-Dale Carnegie Ucaphuna Injabulo

• “Wonke umfana engihlangana naye ungowami ngendlela emangalisayo. Kuyo ngiyamthola.”
• "Ukuqonda nje ukuthi yini esetshenziswayo kuhlala ekhanda lakho."
• "Umuntu ongajwayelekile ofuna ngokuzinikela ukusebenzela abanye unenzuzo enkulu."
• "Ukuphela kwendlela engingakwenza ngayo ukuthi wenze noma yini ukukunikeza lokho okufunayo."
• "Igama lomuntu, kulowo muntu, liwumsindo omnandi futhi onqumayo kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lolimi."
• Vusa isifiso esilangazela komunye umuntu. Uma ungakwenza lokho, unomhlaba wonke nawe.”
• “Wonke umuntu ophumelele uyawuthanda umdlalo. Ithuba lokuzibonakalisa, ukugqama, ukunqoba.”
• "Impumelelo ekusebenzelaneni nabantu ngabanye ivela ekuqondeni okucabangelayo kombono womunye umuntu."
• “Khokha inzalo encane kakhulu ngalokho okushiwo ngamadoda. Bheka nje ukuthi benzani.”

• "Buza imibuzo esikhundleni sokunikeza imiyalo."
• "Umuntu ovamile unelukuluku kakhulu lokufuna ukwazi ngegama lakhe kunawo wonke amanye amagama ahlukahlukene adalwe emhlabeni."
• "Khumbula igama bese ulisho futhi empeleni unikeze ukuncoma okuyinkimbinkimbi nokusebenza kahle kakhulu."
• "Inye kuphela indlela yokuthola okungcono kakhulu ekulweni - futhi lokho ukukuvimbela."
• “Izingxenye ezintathu kwezine zabantu oqinisekile ukubajabulisa zilambele uzwelo. Banike njengoba ubapha lieben kuthanda."
• "Abantu kungenzeka bamukele i-oda uma sebebe nomthelela esinqumweni esiholele ekutheni kufakwe umyalelo."
• "Intshiseko evuthayo esekelwa ingqondo ehlanzekile nokuzimisela iyikhwalithi ephezulu kakhulu evame ukuholela empumelelweni."
• "Zibuze: yini embi kakhulu engenzeka? Bese ulungiselela ukukugunyaza. Bese uqhubeka nokuqinisa okubi kakhulu. ”
• "Injabulo ayincikile ezinkingeni zangaphandle, ilawulwa isimo sethu sengqondo."
• "Esinye isizathu esenza ukuthi izinyoni namahhashi bangajabuli ingoba abazami ukujabulisa ezinye izinyoni kanye namahhashi."

• "Ukuze ukhange, yiba nentshisekelo."
• "Bonke abantu banokwesaba, kodwa abanesibindi babeka phansi ukwesaba kwabo futhi baqhubekele phambili."
• "Inikeza ukwethembeka okuhle kwabanye abantu abahlukahlukene."
• "Khuluma nomuntu mayelana nabo futhi uzokulalela amahora amaningi."
• “Awukwazi ukufundisa umfana lutho; ungamsiza ukuthi akuthole kuye ngokwakhe.”
• "Ukugxekwa kusongela ngoba kulimaza ukuziqhenya komuntu, kulimaza umuzwa wakhe wokubaluleka futhi kuvuse intukuthelo."
• “Imisebenzi ikhuluma kakhulu kunamazwi. Ukumamatheka kuthi, 'Ngiyakuthanda. Ngiyajabula ukukubona.'
• “Awukwazi ukunqoba ukungaboni ngaso linye. Uma ulahlekelwa nguye, ulahlekelwa nguye; futhi uma uzinqoba, ulahlekelwa yizo.”
• "Uma ufuna ukuqoqa uju, ungakhahleli phezu kwesidleke."
• "Kuyaphakamisa wena mayelana nomhlambi futhi ikunikeza umuzwa izicukuthwane nobukhulu ekuvumeni amaphutha omuntu."

• "Abantu abaphumeleli neze uma bengakujabuleli abakwenzayo."
• "Ukugembula! Yonke impilo iyithuba. Indoda ehamba ibanga elide ngokuvamile iyona ezimisele ukuyenza futhi izame.”
• “Namuhla impilo - ukuphela kwempilo oqinisekile ngayo. Khulisa namuhla.” Yiba nentshisekelo kokuthile. uzithintithe Yakha isikhathi sokuzilibazisa.
• “Impumelelo wukuthola okufunayo. Injabulo ifisa lokho umuntu akutholayo.”
• “Uma ungakwazi ukulala vuka wenze okuthile esikhundleni sokucambalala ube nengcindezi. Ukukhathazeka okukuficayo, hhayi ukuntula ubuthongo.”
• “Qala wenze umsebenzi onzima. Umsebenzi olula uzozinakekela. ”
• "Khumbula, namuhla yilona kusasa owawuthukuthele ngalo ngolunye usuku."
• "I amaphuzu amaningi abalulekile emhlabeni empeleni afezwe abantu ngabanyeowazama kaningi lapho kubonakala sengathi alikho ithemba.”
• “Dala impumelelo ekuhlulekeni. Kokubili ukukhungatheka nokwehluleka kuyizinyathelo ezimbili ezingcono kakhulu zokuya empumelelweni.”
• “Ukungenzi lutho kudala ukungabaza nokukhathazeka. umsebenzi owenziwe ukuzethemba nesibindi. Uma ufuna ukulawula ukwesaba, ungaphumuli futhi ucabange ngakho."

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