Igcine ukubuyekezwa ngoDisemba 24, 2022 ngu Roger Kaufman
Umuntu yekela omthandayo,kuzwakala kweyokuqala Moment akunakwenzeka.
Phela asikho isizathu. Kodwa ngokuvamile isinqumo senzelwe wena, ikakhulukazi uma umlingani wakho ehlukana nawe.
Kodwa ngokuvamile kufanele uvumele abangani noma ojwayelene nabo bahambe ngoba izithakazelo zakho ziyashintsha futhi alisekho ikusasa ndawonye.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kungaba futhi lowo kumele adedele umuntu ongasekho.
Kodwa ubhekana kanjani nalokhu kulahlekelwa?
Das yekela funda ngenhloso
Akekho ongenza uhlobo olunjalo lomuntu yekela omthandayo ube ungakaze ulahlekelwe kanje.
Yingakho kubalulekile yekela, okuhlosiwe ukuze ufunde ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nalokhu kulahlekelwa.
Das Ukudedela othandekayo kuqhubeke phambili okuhambisana nobuhlungu obuningi nokudabuka, okumele kuvunyelwe ekuqaleni. Kodwa okokuqala kufanele ulungele futhi uthathe ukweqa emakhazeni amanzi isibindi.
Ukuze singene ohlelweni ukudedela ukuza, umuntu kufanele acabange ngemiphumela engavela uma engakulungele ukuyidedela. Lapho kusobala ukuthi ufuna ukuphinde ujabule futhi ufuna ukuqeda ukudabuka nobuhlungu, inqubo yangempela ye yekela kuqalwe.
Dedela umuntu omthandayo
Inqubo ye ukudedela kuvuka, uma usukulungele ukuthatha lesi sinyathelo ngempumelelo.
I-mantra ingasiza kulokhu, ngoba uma uqaphela ukuthi usulungele ukuyeka ezimweni ezinzima futhi uqhubeke uphindaphinda amagama ekhanda lakho, uzosebenzisa ngempela lokhu.
Kuhlale kubalulekile ukufuna usizo.
Sonke siyasiza Menschenlapho sibabona besosizini noma ezimeni ezinzima.
Ngakho kungani ungalwamukeli usizo kube kanye?
Ngakho akunzima kangako ukukhuluma nomunye umuntu futhi uthululele isifuba kumuntu othembekile.
Bazobheka izixazululo ezivamile nawe futhi bangakwazi ukuzifaka ezicathulweni zakho, ngoba ungahlala ubheka izimo ngokungathathi hlangothi ngaphandle.
Gwema ukusolwa njengabantu abakubukela phansi
Ngeshwa, abantu abasesimweni esifanayo abakwazi ukukusiza ohlelweni ukudedela faka othandiweyo.
Laba bantu basenkingeni efanayo futhi ngokuvamile bakudonsela phansi futhi bangakusiza Yekela ayisekeli.
Ngokunjalo umuntu akumele azisole, ngoba umuntu uyazikhethela ukuthi kungani ehamba.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukugula okunzima noma isinqumo sokuqala esisha ukuphila ukuqala ngabantu abasha - awukwazi ukushintsha isimo noma ube nomthelela esinqumweni.
umuntu owenza Ukuzidedela ikunqobile futhi yakwenza, ingakusiza futhi ikusekele kangcono kakhulu esimweni esinjalo.
Laba bantu ngokuvamile banazo amathiphu amahle futhi uthole indlela yokubhekana nobuhlungu.
Kubuye kube njalo ukuthi kuyasiza ukukhumbula abahle Izikhathi ukuze ukwazi ukukhumbula futhi kanjalo uqedele.
Imiphumela Yokuboshwa
Ukudedela umuntu omthandayo kuyinqubo enzima futhi engaba isicefe. Kodwa hhayi imiphumela yalokho ukudedela zonke zibucayi kakhulu. Okwakho impilo yengqondo ngaphezu kwakho konke, uzolimala.
Imiphumela iqala ngokuqwasha, ukuphathwa yikhanda, intukuthelo nenzondo futhi kungaholela ekucindezelekeni nasekuzilahleni.
Sihlala sisesimweni esibonakala singenakugwenywa futhi ngaleyo ndlela sicekele phansi imizimba yethu.
Imicabango emihle yekusasa eliphumelelayo
Ngokuhlukana konke kuza eyodwa isiqalo esisha.
Ngakho, kubalulekile ukuqhubeka nokubuya amehlo ukuqinisekisa ukuthi konke esikwenzayo kuletha okuthile okuhle ngakho.
Uma wenza kanjalo amandla endleleni yakhe, uzoqaphela ngokushesha ukuthi akuyona yonke into ehlala ingalungile futhi inzima nokuthi konke kungase kube lula kakhulu.
Kubalulekile ukumane ube nesibindi wamukele okwenzekayo. Ukuyeka umuntu omthandayo kudinga, ngaphezu kwakho konke, intethelelo kanye nokuzamukela.
Ezikhathini eziningi, sibonisa ukuzisola esimweni ngenxa nje yokuthi silimele.
Kulungile ukuphoxeka nokucasuka.
Okubalulekile wukwamukela okwenzekile bese uxolela.
Shiya ukudabuka nobuhlungu ngemuva
Sonke sidlula ohlelweni lapho sidedela umuntu esimthandayo.
Kuvamile ukuba lusizi futhi uzwe ubuhlungu bokuhlukana.
Ngakho ngokuvamile bayadlula abantu izigaba 5 zosizi.
Bese kufika iphuzu lapho uvuma usizi lwakho. Lokhu akukubi futhi ngokuvamile kuyasiza ukwazi ukubhekana nakho kangcono.
Lapho usuluvumile usizi lwakho, isikhathi sesifikile futhi nawe Anderen Ukukhuluma nabantu ngakho futhi uphathe usizi lwakho ngendlela ehlosiwe ngokukhuluma ngakho.
Ngemva kwalokho uyalinda futhi ubone, ngoba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi izinto eziningi zizozixazulula futhi ubuhlungu buzoba lula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Kulesi sigaba, akufanele nanini uziphushe ukuze uvale ngokushesha futhi uyeke.
Wonke umuntu unesikhathi esihlukile asithathayo ukucubungula ubuhlungu bokuhlukana.
Ngakho-ke kufanele uziqhenye ngawe lapho ufinyelela izinto ozimisele ukuzenza futhi uqale ukubuyisela isimiso esivamile ekuphileni kwansuku zonke.
Uma lesi sinyathelo sisesigabeni se ukudedela kufinyelelwe, ukubheka okwenzekile kungaphonswa.
Lapho ubambeke esimeni esinzima, wahlulela izinto ngokhahlo kakhulu noma unombono osontekile.
Ngakho uma ngemva kwesikhathi esithile ubheka okwenzekayo futhi ukude, uzophawula ezinye izinto obungacacelwa ngazo ngaphambili.
Ngokwenza kanjalo, kubalulekile, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukwethembeka glücklich ukuba. Ukuyeka umuntu omthandayo iyona ndlela kuphela yokwenza.
gcina izinkumbulo
Ukudedela umuntu omthandayo kuyinqubo ende engenziwa yinoma ngubani.
Ngemva kwesikhathi eside sokucutshungulwa, kuhle ukubheka emuva kokwenzekile.
Am ukuqala kokuphuma ngeke kwenzeke, kodwa uma ubheka emuva ngenjabulo, uyazi ukuthi ukwenzile futhi waqeda ngempumelelo inqubo yokudedela umuntu omthandayo.
Ukudedela akulula neze - ukudedela umuntu omthandayo
Ngemva kokuhlukana, ingqondo yakho iyazulazula.
Udlula kukho konke 'okufanele ube nakho', 'okufanele ube nakho', 'ukuthi-ukube' futhi uyazihlanyisa.
Uyamkhumbula, kodwa uzama ngamandla ukuqhubeka.
Uyaqonda ukuthi kungcono kakhulu, kodwa nokho usangabaza.
Phela ingqondo nenhliziyo yakho kuwukuxokozela.
Nokho, ngezinye izikhathi into enzima kakhulu ukuyiqonda ukuthi impilo ayihambi ngokwesu lethu.
Kwezinye izimo, ukudedela kuwukuphela kwesinqumo, ukukhetha okufanele ukuze sizithole thina kanye nalabo esiziqhelelanise nabo.
Nazi ezinye Izingcaphuno zothando kanye nokuyeka
Ukukusiza ukuthi uhlanganise izingcezu zakho eziphukile ukuze uqalise esifundweni esisha sha kanye nokukukhumbuza ukuthi ukuyeka akusho ukuthi ubuthakathaka.
"Uma uthatha okwanele ukuvalelisa, impilo izokuvuza ngokubingelela okusha." - Paulo Coelho
"Kwesinye isikhathi kuthatha usizi ukusinyakazisa futhi kusikhombise ukuthi sibaluleke kakhulu kunalokho esikufisayo." – Mandy Hale
"Yekela kusho ukuqaphela ukuthi abanye abantu bayingxenye yokuphila kwakho kodwa abayona ingxenye yesiphetho sakho.” - USteve Maraboli
"Isinyathelo esikhulu kunazo zonke sokuphila impilo elula ukuthola ukuthi ungakuyeka." - USteve Maraboli
“Uma ungafuni ukukhumbula okuthile noma othile, ungalokothi ukuzonde noma umdelele. Konke kanye nabo bonke abakuzondayo kulotshiwe enhliziyweni yakho; lapho ufuna ukudedela okuthile, lapho uhlose ukudebesela, awukwazi ukuzonda." – C. JoyBell C.
“Izinguquko ezingavamile zenzeka empilweni yakho lapho uthatha isinqumo sokulawula lokho onamandla kukho, kunokulawula lokho onakho. ufisaongenayo." - USteve Maraboli
“Ukuphela kwento umuntu angayenza ngempela ukuqhubeka. Thatha lokho kugxuma okukhulu phambili ngaphandle kokungabaza, ngaphandle kokukhumbula nokukhumbula. Vele ukhohlwe okwedlule bese uphokophele kwelizayo.” – Alyson Noel
“Uma ubamba amagqubu ngomunye, uxhumeke kulowo muntu noma inkinga ngoxhumano olungokwengqondo kakhulu injengensimbi. Ukuthethelela kuwukuphela kwendlela yokuncibilikisa nokugqashula leso sibopho." - UCatherine Ponder
"Lapho ngiyeka lokho engiyikho, ngiba yilokho engingaba yikho." - Lao Tse
"“Ukudedela akuyona into eyenzeka kanye nje Into, yinto okufanele uyenze nsuku zonke, ngokuphindaphindiwe. " - Dawson's Creek
"Uma uhlose ngempela ukwazisa abantu obathandayo, udinga ukubaqinisekisa ukuthi ungenza ngaphandle kwabo." - UMichael Bassey Johnson
"Uhambo oluhehayo lwalezi zinsuku lungaqala njengoba sizithola sesidedela izolo." - USteve Maraboli
“Singathola ukuthula kwangaphakathi kuphelalapho sibonisa umusa. intethelelo yilokho ukudedela okwedlule futhi ngenxa yalokho kuyindlela yokulungisa imibono yethu eyiphutha.” – Gerald G. Jampolsky
"Ukungakhululeki kuzokushiya impela lapho uyeka" - UJeremy Aldana
“Uzothola ukuthi ukudedela izinto kuyadingeka; ngoba nje zisindwa. Ngakho myeke ahambe." - C. JoyBell
“Lindela heuteukuthi ungacabanga into enhle kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekeni izolo. Awusaqondi okwedlule, akusakubambi. Kungakulimaza kakhulu uma ubambelela kukho. yekela okwedlule Umhlaba onobulungiswa ukulindile." – Sarah Breathnach
“Ingabe uzowuvumela umhlaba okuzungezile ukuthi uguquke ube umile? Yenza lokhu ngesikhathi ususa imikhuba yakudala eqeda injabulo nenjabulo yakho Erfolg empeleni ukhubazekile, futhi ekugcineni uvumele ubuwena obukhulu ukuthi bukhule." - USteve Maraboli
“Uma ukhuluma ngezulu Fliegen Uma ufuna, kufanele ushiye iplanethi. Uma ufuna ukuthuthuka kuzomele uyekele okwedlule okuhudulela phansi." – Amit Ray
"Lapho ushiya lokho okulindele, lapho wenza lokho ukuphila yemukele njengoba injalo, ukhululekile. Ukuphikelela kusho ukuba nenjongo nokumpintshana.” - URichard Carlson
“Yekelani impi. Phefumula kalula futhi uvumele kube njalo. Vumela umzimba wakho uhlale emuva futhi uthambise inhliziyo yakho. Itholakalela noma yini ohlangabezana nayo ngaphandle kokulwa.” - UJack Kornfield
"Zama ukulalela ukudedelwa." – UTom Althouse
“Ukuyeka akusho ukuyeka, kusho ukukhetha ukugxilisa intshisekelo yakho kokuthile okubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuyeka akusho lokho ukuzethemba ukulahlekelwa, kodwa ukuqaphela ukuthi kunezindlela ezingcono zokuchitha isikhathi sakho. Ukuyeka kusho ukungazitholi izizathu, kodwa ukufunda ukusebenza kahle kakhulu, nempumelelo kakhudlwana.” - Akwaziwa
“Ziqinisekise nsuku zonke ukuthi umuhle ukuphila ukufaneleka. Yehlisa ingcindezi, ukuphefumula. Hlala unethemba, konke kuhamba kahle." - EJalimane Kent
“Ukudedela labo esibathandayo yinto enzima kunazo zonke esiyoke siyenze. Abanye abantu abapheli amandla Liebe phansi ngoba bekhathazekile ngokulimala. Kungaba ukufa okubi nakakhulu." - Goldie Hawn
Yekela - isebenza kanjani? ithiphu yevidiyo
Ku Okungokomoya njengasezincwadini zengqondo kuningi mayelana nokuyeka inkulumo.
Leli gama aliqondwa kabi abantu abaningi kuze kube namuhla.
uma kukhona ufuna ukuyeka empilweni yakho, kungaba isahluko esidala noma ubuhlobo nanoma yiluphi olunye ushintsho, zibuze kuqala ukuthi ngabe usuyivumile yini into oyiphilayo kuze kube manje.
Ingabe uye wakwamukela futhi wakwazisa okwakukhona nalokho manje?
Ukudedela kungokwamukeleka.
I-BETZ MOVES - Robert Betz