Kugcine ukubuyekezwa ngoJulayi 27, 2022 ngu Roger Kaufman
Ngezinye izikhathi ekuphileni kunezinto esingenakuzishintsha noma ezingahambi ngendlela ebesingathanda zihambe ngayo.
Kulezi zimo, kungase kube nzima ukuyeka futhi uqhubeke.
Lokhu kungahlobana nobudlelwano, ubungane, umsebenzi noma ezinye izici zempilo.
Lapho sibambelela kulokho okungasekho noma lokho okungeke kube yikho, kusenza singagxili kulokho esingakushintsha.
"Kwesinye isikhathi kumele uyekele." Ngokuqinisekile sonke sisizwile lesi sicaphuno njengeseluleko esimweni esisodwa noma esinye sempilo.
Impela sivame ukuzwa umusho onjalo futhi asisabeli ngokuvunyelwa, kodwa ekuqaleni ngokwenqaba.
Ku isimo esifanele Kunzima kithina ukuthi ukudedela izingcaphuno ezinjalo akukona ukugxeka, kodwa iseluleko esinenhloso enhle efuna ukwenza kube lula ngathi ukubhekana nesimo esithile sempilo.
Nathi, sifuna ukuvuma ukunemba nokubaluleka kwesitatimende esithi “Ngezinye izikhathi kufanele Yekela.” umatasa futhi uyasebenza kakhulu amathiphu ungaphumelela kanjani ukudedela ekugcineni.
Ngokwenza kanjalo, sizongena enzuzweni ozoyithola uma ulandela isipelingi "Kwesinye isikhathi kumele uyekele."
Ufuna ukubambelela kwezinye izibonelo zokudedela izingcaphuno futhi uqhubeke amathiphu, esingathanda ukukunikeza yona mathupha.
Yokudedela nokuwina
Kunzima kangakanani kithina ngemuva kobudlelwano obungaphumeleli, ngemuva kobude isikhathi endaweni yokuhlala noma emsebenzini noma ngemva kobungane obude nobuqinile, iqiniso lesisho esithi "Ngezinye izikhathi kufanele uyekele." ukuqaphela.
Kufanele nakanjani sithathe isigaba sokuqala sokudabuka nentukuthelo, ngoba kunjalo wichtige ukuze kucutshungulwe isimo sethu somuntu siqu.
Ezimweni ezinjalo, zinike isikhathi sakho kanye nesikhathi nawe Menschen wokumethemba, ongaxoxa naye ngemizwa yakho ngentokozo nangokwethembeka.
Ngisho noma ungase ungakukholwa ekuqaleni, kuzofika isikhathi lapho usulungele ukuyeka.
Manje uyakuqonda lokho Quote "Ngezinye izikhathi kufanele uyekele." kulungile futhi ekugcineni kuzokusiza ukuthi unqobe isimo ngokwakho futhi uphume kuso unamandla.
Uma usufake lokhu ngaphakathi, kuzokucacela kakhulu ukuthi usulungele isigaba esisha sempilo noma ufuna ukushiya umnyango uvulekele kulokho okulahlekile.
Kubalulekile ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi konke okudlulile kuhlale kusho ithuba lesiqalo esisha, esizokunikeza amathuba amasha, amasha. abantu nezinto ezingavamile izonikela.
Kodwa empeleni uzuzani uma uphumelela ethi "Kwesinye isikhathi kumele uyekele." angakwazi ukwenza ngaphakathi kuwe?
Ngaphezu kwakho konke, wukuzethemba kanye nesiqiniseko sokuthi uzokwazi ukubhekana nazo zonke izimo emhlabeni. ukuphila ukwazi nokunqoba ngisho nezigaba ezinzima kakhulu ozobhekana nazo empilweni.
Ukuthola isimo sengqondo esisha ngempilo kanye nokusebenzelana nawe kuyasiza futhi ukuzibona wena ngokwengeziwe futhi ubone ukuthi izidingo zakho ziyini ezimweni ezithile zempilo.
a Yekela kuhlala kuwukugxila kuwena nokudedela ezinye izinto noma abantu okungenzeka ubeke ngaphambi kwenhlalakahle yakho.
Izingcaphuno zethu zokudedela: Ugqozi lwakho kanye nogqozi
"Uma uyeka, unezandla ezi-2." Lokhu ukusho kungenye yezingcaphuno eziningi eziyekelelayo, ezikhona.
Kukukhombisa ngokusobala ukuthi ingakanani inkululeko kanye namandla okudala angavela kuwe uma usunqume ukuthi ufuna ukuba yinto noma umuntu. yekela kufanele. Manje usunethuba lokuziphonsa kumaphrojekthi amasha nasezimeni ezintsha futhi ubeke umzamo wakho wonke kulezo zimo.
Yeka ukusho, izisho ezithi "dedela"
ukudedela amazwi, ukudedela izingcaphuno, izisho, izaga nokuhlakanipha.
Roger Kaufman
"Ukuyeka kuyindlela elula yokushintsha."
Ngokuyisisekelo, ukuyeka kubonakala kulokhu Isilinganiso ukungenzi lutho. Lokho Isilinganiso ithi kufanele uvumele kuphela okuthile noma othile ukuthi anyamalale empilweni yakho ekhanda lakho futhi awudingi noma yisiphi isenzo esisebenzayo ukwenza lokho. Ngokwemvelo Siyazi.
Ukuthi ukudedela izinto ezibalulekile kuyisinyathelo esikhulu. Noma kunjalo, ekugcineni kuyindlela enkulu futhi enkulu shintsha ingakwenza kwenzeke kuwe.
ukufunda ukuyeka izingcaphuno
Yekela funda - izingcaphuno, yeka izingcaphuno, yekela. Ukuba ngumuntu njalo kusho njalo okuhlukile kungaba njalo.
Roger Kaufman
"Ubuciko bempilo eyanelisayo yikhono lokuyeka."
Kuyacaca kulesi sisho ukuthi isisho esithi "Kwesinye isikhathi kufanele uyekele." ngeke nje ifaneleke ezimweni ezimbalwa, kodwa izohlale idlala indima ebalulekile kuwe nasenjabulweni yakho AmaLebens ingadlala.
Ithuba lokujabula kanye nokufaka ngaphakathi ukuthi izinto eziningi zihambisana nawe phakathi nesigaba futhi kufanele ukwazi ukuzishiya kuwe uhlala unikezwa kuwe empilweni.
Uma usukwamukele lokhu, amathuba enjabulo enkulu akuvulekele ukuphila kanye nokuphila konke okungaphilwa ngaphezu kwakho konke ngaphandle kokucasuka.
Ukuhlakanipha okuhle - ukuhlakanipha - amazwi nezingcaphuno - Thatha lesi sikhathi futhi uzivumele ukhuthazwe "ukuhlakanipha okuhle". Kunobuhle obuningi obusizungezile, kufanele nje sivule amehlo futhi sibazise. Naba abanobuhle abangama-30 Ukuhlakanipha kwempiloukuthi ngihlanganise.
Umqeqeshi we-hypnosis uRoger Kaufmann
“Namuhla ekugcineni ngiyakufuna yekela. Hhayi ngoba ngicabanga ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle, kodwa ngoba ngifuna ukuziqedela mina."
Mhlawumbe kwenzeka izinto ongeke ukwazi ukuzamukela futhi oyozikhumbula isikhathi eside cabanga.
Zibuze ukuthi ngobani lokhu kucabanga nokungekho Yekela ekugcineni yingozi.
Uzobona ukuthi nguwe kuphela ohlushwa ukuthi isenzo noma inkinga ingeyakho heute Bamba kancane. Kubaluleke ngokwanele ukuba udedele manje futhi wamukele ukuthi yonke into ingeyesikhathi esedlule, kodwa ayisekho manje nekusasa lakho.
Amathiphu asebenzayo wokukhulula
Abanye amathiphu awusizo sifuna futhi ukukunikeza endleleni, okufanele ikusize ukwazi izimo zokudedela.
- thatha isikhathi sakho ngezinto ebezinganakiwe esikhathini esidlule: Sonke siyazi ukuthi ezimeni ezigoqekile sivama ukuthi singabe sisalondoloza imisebenzi nezenzo ezithile, nakuba empeleni zizosenzela okuhle.
- Kungaba mayelana nezemidlalo noma ukuvakasha okuvamile e-cinema noma i-sauna. Thatha le onayo manje isiqalo esisha njengethuba lokuthola kabusha lokho okukulungele wena mathupha.
- kumemeza okudala Abantu esibajwayele nabangane: Abantu abaningi banendawo ehlala njalo ezinhliziyweni zethu futhi ukuphila kwansuku zonke akukuvumeli ukuthintana njalo.
- Uma impilo yakho isizoqala kabusha nganoma iyiphi indlela, manje isikhathi esingcono kakhulu sokuba okudala Shayela abangani nojwayelene nabo bese uhlangana nabo futhi.
- Ngokuvamile bangakwandisa umkhakha wakho wokubona kanye nezinzwa kuwe ezingxoxweni ezihlangene nemisebenzi Ngokuzayo lola.
- Qala iphrojekthi entsha: Ngaphezu kwemisebenzi yokuzilibazisa, uchwepheshe noma umndeni izinto singanakwa lapho into noma umuntu okhululiwe manje esekhona kithi.
- Manje yisikhathi lapho ungabuyela khona kumaphrojekthi amasha nemibono futhi uzithathele ithuba ukusetshenziswa ukwazi ukuzibandakanya ekuthuthukisweni komuntu siqu.
Kwesinye isikhathi kumele udedele into oyithandayo
Lapho udedela ubuhlobo obuyingozi, ungadlulela ekusasa elingcono.
Khumbula isisho sakudala esithi, "Uma uthanda umuntu, myeke ahambe?"
Uma uzibuka ujule ngaphakathi kwakho, uthola ukuthi ngokuzikhulula wena kanye nomunye umuntu ebudlelwaneni obunibambezelayo nobabili, usiza abantu ababili, oyedwa. impilo ejabulisayo neyiqiniso ukuyifeza.
Ngale ndlela kungaba Yekela kumuntu omthandayo kuyisenzo sokucophelela kanye nomusa.
Bonke ubudlelwano bunesifundo okufanele sisifundise, futhi ngezikhathi ezithile injongo egcwele yobudlelwano ingenzeka kuphela lapho buphela.
Nakuba kuzwakala sengathi umhlaba wakho usuzophela lapho uhlukana nomuntu omthandayo, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzothola ukuthi uthola umuntu omusha. I-Anfang qala
Vumela izifundo ozifundile ekusebenzelaneni kwakho nalo muntu zikuqondise ekwakheni ubudlelwano obunempilo ngokuzayo, futhi qiniseka ukuthi uzobuya. Liebe angathola. Bheka lesi sikhathi esibuhlungu njengesinyathelo esisodwa sokusondela ekutholeni lokho okudingayo ngempela ekuphileni.
I-FAQ - Kwesinye isikhathi kufanele uyeke
Kungani ukudedela kubaluleke kangaka?
Uma ungakuyeki, ukwesaba kuyanqoba: ukwesaba ubuhlungu, ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa, ukwesaba ukwaliwa, nokwesaba ubuhlungu.
Lapho uzivumela ukuthi uhambe, ulawula imibono yakho, imizwa, izenzo, kanye nemiphumela yesiphetho.
Ingabe kufanele uyekele lapho uthanda?
Uma umthanda ngokweqiniso umuntu ngenhliziyo yakho yonke futhi uhlose ukuthi kokubili kuphumelele, khona-ke iphuzu elingcono kakhulu ongayenza ukumyeka ahambe. Lapho unokubili isikhathi nendawo yokukhula njengomuntu oyedwa, ungakwazi ukuphinde uzihlanganise ngendlela enempilo nelinganiselayo, noma ungathola kabusha ukuthi uthanda ukuba wedwa kanjani.
Kusho ukuthini ukudedela ebudlelwaneni?
Ukudedela umuntu omthandayo kusho ukuxegisa ukunamathela kwakho eqinisweni lempilo yakho. Ngeke ukwazi ukudedela uma ubambelele kumuntu ongasekho noma ubudlelwano obuphelile. Ingxenye yokuqala yencazelo yokudedela ukuzinikela emaqinisweni.
Kusho ukuthini "ukukhulula"?
Ukuyeka okwedlule kusho ukuzivumela ukuthi uthathe impilo yakho uyiyise endaweni entsha sha, ngisho nokujula, ukuzimelela kwangempela okwengeziwe kwakho.
"Ngingamyeka kanjani" umuntu?
Mhlawumbe usesimweni lapho udinga "ukudedela" othile. Mhlawumbe umngane, ilungu lomndeni, osebenza naye, noma intshisekelo yothando. Akulula neze ukukuyeka, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kulungele wonke umuntu ohilelekile. Uma ungazi ukuthi udedele kanjani, nanka amathiphu ambalwa.
