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Ukuthinta umuzwa wokuqala futhi kuyindlela eyinhloko yokudala usana Liebe ukunikela.
Manje sesiyazi ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuthintana ngokomzimba ekukhuleni kwengane enempilo.
Ukuthinta kufana nothando - ukuthinta okuphilisayo
Ngaphandle kokuxhumana ngokomzimba umuntu angakwazi Kind shona noma zonke ezinye izidingo zihlangatshezwa.
U-Alberto Gallace noCharles Spence (2010) bachaza imiphumela enenzuzo yokuthinta ebufakazini mayelana nocwaningo lokuthinta:
Izakhamuzi ezihlala ezindlini zomhlalaphansi ngokuvamile zizizwa zingafunwa noma zidelelekile ngenxa yokuthi azihlangani nabanye ngokomzimba.
Amakhasimende asabela kahle kakhulu eshekeni lendawo futhi aphinde athenge esitolo segrosa lapho ethintwa umthengisi ozenza umdayisi.
Abantu kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi babuyisele i-dime esele endaweni yocingo lapho "oshaya ucingo" engenayo eyithintile.
Abashayeli bamabhasi maningi amathuba okuthi banikeze isivakashi uhambo lwamahhala uma sibathinta ngesikhathi sesicelo.
Kungenzeka ukuthi Menschen nikeza othile ugwayi wamahhala uma isicelo sivela kumuntu owasithinta ngesikhathi esifanayo.
UGallace noSpence baphikisa ngokuthi ngisho nokuthinta kafushane omunye umuntu kunethonya eliqinile elingokomzwelo isipiliyoni kungabangela.
Baveza nakakhulu ukuthi kokubili inani kanye nohlobo lokuthinta kuyahlukahluka emphakathini kuya emphakathini:
E-Italy, ukwanga nokuqabula esihlathini ngasinye kubhekwa njengendlela evamile nefanelekile yokubingelela.
In Japan Ukubingelela okufanele kuqukethe ukukhothama okucabangelayo kanye nokungabikho kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuthinta.
Ngokuvamile, abantu abavela eGreat Britain, ezingxenyeni ezithile zaseNyakatho Yurophu futhi I-Asia ngaphansi kakhulu kunabantu abavela eFrance, e-Italy noma eNingizimu Melika.
Ukuntula ukuthinta ngokuvamile kuletha imiphumela engemihle, njengasenkulumweni ethi “ukungafinyeleleki eqinisweni,” kuyilapho umuzwa ojulile. Isipiliyoni okuvame ukubizwa ngokuthi “ukuthinta”.
Encwadini yakhe ethi Touch (2001), uTiffany Area uchaza lokho kuthinta ezimeni ezahlukene kakhulu kunjengokukhulunywayo noma ngokomzwelo.
Ukuthinta kubalulekile ekukhuleni, ekukhuleni nasekuphileni kwayo Izingane kanye nempilo engokomzimba nengokwengqondo yabantu abadala.
Kodwa-ke, i-Fields iphakamisa ukuthi amasiko amaningi, njengeyamanje yaseMelika isiko, azithinteki ngendlela engafanele - lapho kudingekile, abantu abaningi namuhla bahlushwa ukuntula inkanuko, alibiza ngokuthi “indlala yokuthinta.”
Ukuthinta okungafunwa
"Yiba nenhliziyo engapheli, kanye nentukuthelo engakhathali, nokuthintwa okungalimazi." - UCharles Dickens.
Kunezimo lapho ukuthinta kuthathwa njengokulimazayo futhi ukuthinta ngokweqile noma okungafuneki nakho kungaholela emacaleni obugebengu.
Ngokungangabazeki, ngenxa yethonya elinamandla elingokomzwelo lokuthinta, abantu babheka ukuthintana komphakathi njengokuhlukumeza kakhulu kunezenzo zamazwi.
Umbono wokuthinta njengokulimaza uncike engxenyeni ethile yomzimba ethintiwe kanye nasezicini ezithile zomuntu oyithintayo (ubulili, Shintsha kanye nokubambisana nomuntu othintwayo).
Qaphela ukuthi ukuthinta ubuso kuthathwa njengokungafaneleki kakhulu futhi kuphazamisa, kuyilapho ukuthepha noma ukuthepha ehlombe kuthathwa njengokuziphatha okuhlukumeza kancane.
Encwadini yakhe ethi Bad for Us (2004), u-John Portmann ukhuluma ngomdansi we-pole owayengavumi ukuba abafana bamthinte, egcizelela ukuthi igebe phakathi kokubuka nokuthinta lenza imbulunga yokwehluka kokuziphatha ngaye:
Kwakungesona isenzo ngokwaso; wayebhekisele kukho ndawo ndawo Imikhawulo kangangokuthi awuzange ngempela uzizwe sengathi ubuwena bugeleza. “
Ukuthinta okuthandekayo - ukuthinta okuphilisayo - ukulangazelela ukuthinta
“Ngiqabuleni ekamelweni lonke...ngithinte izinwele zami njengoba udlula esihlalweni sami, izinto ezincane zisho lukhulu.” – Kallen Feline.
Ukuthinta kubalulekile ekudaleni nasekuqiniseni ukuxhumana kwezothando.
Okuthintayo ngokomzimba Liebe ihlotshaniswa kakhulu nokubambisana okuphelele kanye nokwaneliseka okuphelele komngane.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuxazulula izinkinga kungokomzimba Liebe kulula - izinkinga zixazululeka kalula uma kubanda kakhulu, ukugona/ukubambana kanye nokuqabulana ezindebeni (Gulledge et al., 2003). Ukulangazelela ukuthintwa
U-Gallace kanye no-Spence (2010) babika ucwaningo olubonisa ukuthi abantu abaye bathintana nomlingani ngaphambi kwengcindezi banomfutho wegazi ophansi kakhulu we-systolic kanye ne-diastolic kanye nokushaya kwenhliziyo okukhuphuka kunomzimba ongathinteki.
Uthando olungezona ezocansi olunokusabela okuvusa inkanuko njengo Ukubhucunga emuva nokugona kubonakale kubalulekile:
Abesifazane abathi empeleni bathole ukwangiwa okuningi ngabalingani babo esikhathini esedlule babonakale benomfutho wegazi ophansi kunalabo besifazane abangakaze bathole ukwangiwa ngabalingani babo phambilini.
Ngakho-ke, ukuziphatha ngokomzimba okunothando kunganciphisa ukusabela ezenzakalweni zokuphila eziyinselele.
Izinga lokuzwela kwempendulo lithi natürlich futhi kuhlotshaniswa nokuvusa inkanuko yobulili, futhi izinguquko ekuzweleni kokusabela zingathinta isici socansi.
Ukukhuthazwa okujwayelwe kudlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu ekusebenzelaneni komphakathi ubulili kanye nokuthuthukiswa kwezibopho phakathi kwabantu ngabanye.
Abantu abashadile ngokuvamile babheka ukuthintana njengento eyakhayo, ikakhulukazi enothando futhi enobungane, futhi bakhulumisana ngokukhululekile kunabantu abangashadile.
Ukuthintana kwamehlo kubalulekile, futhi ngokuthinta ithonya layo elimangalisayo liyaphindaphindeka.
Uma abantu bengakaqiniseki ukuthi isiphi isimo esihehayo esisanda kubagcwalisa, ukuthintana kwamehlo ngokuthinta isandla “ngengozi” kungasusa noma yikuphi ukungabaza.
Thinta ku-inthanethi - isidingo sokuthintwa
“Ngokujwayelekile ukuba nje nomuntu kwanele. Akumele ngimthinte. Ungaze ukhulume. Kudlula umuzwa phakathi kwenu nobabili. Akuwena wedwa.” - Marilyn Monroe
Ukuduma kwe Ubudlelwano be-inthanethi kungase kubangele ukungabaza mayelana nokuthintana kothando njengoba ukuxhumana okunjalo akubandakanyi ukuthintana ngokomzimba.
Noma kunjalo, ukuxhumana ku-inthanethi kungathinta izici ezintekenteke kakhulu, ezikhangayo: abantu ngezinye izikhathi bathi bazwa sengathi amagama esibonisiwe ayabathinta ngempela.
Enye intokazi yabhala: “Angiqondi ukuthi kunjani ukuthinta le ndoda, kodwa uye wangithinta izikhathi eziyinkulungwane emaphusheni ami.
Omunye wesifazane wathi kumngane wakhe we-Internet: “Wangena ekujuleni kwenhliziyo yami futhi wathinta lapho kungakaze kudlule khona ndoda ngaphambili.”
Omunye wesifazane owayenobudlelwano bocansi ku-inthanethi uthe isithandwa sakhe esiku-inthanethi, “esingakaze singibone noma singithinte, siwuqonda kangcono umzimba wami nezenzo zawo ukwedlula noma yimuphi wabayeni bami ababili bangaphambili.”
Inani elikhulu lokuthintana ngokomzimba ebudlelwaneni obukhangayo lidala umuzwa oqinile wokuthintana ngokwengqondo kubathandi be-inthanethi, ngisho noma ukuthinta ngokomzimba kungekho futhi kuboniswa kuphela ngeso lengqondo.
Abantu abasebudlelwaneni be-inthanethi bathintana ngentshiseko nangokocansi ngaphandle kokushaya izingcingo eziqondile.
Amandla okuthinta | ukuthinta okuphilisayo
“Ngokuthintwa kothando wonke umuntu uba indoda kwimbongi.” – uPlato.
Ukuthinta kunomphumela osebenzayo, inani elikhangayo.
Ukusetshenziswa kwayo okuhlukile kungavusa imibono ehlukahlukene yemizwa kwabathandekayo.
Ezinganekwaneni zamaGreki, ukuthinta kweNkosi uMidas kwakubala yonke into ayithinta ngokuqondile ibe igolide.
Menschen bangaguqula labo ababazungezile babe abantu abanomdlandla ngokuthinta igolide ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Njengoba uMelanie Griffith akubeka kahle: “Uyazi ukuthini? Kunendawo eyodwa lapho ongathinta khona owesifazane okuqinisekile ukuthi uzomhlanyisa - inhliziyo yakhe."
a isimemezelo sothando ngaphandle kokuthintwa akugculisi.
Ukulangazelela ukuthintwa - ukuthinta okuphilisayo
Ukuthinta kubalulekile kithina bantu. Kepha ngezikhathi zeCorona kufanele siqhelelane.
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Ngithinte - Kungani ukuthinta kubaluleke kakhulu
Ingabe kukhona ukuntuleka kokuthintana emphakathini wethu? Kanjani wichtige ingabe ukuthintana ngokomzimba kungokwenhlalakahle yethu? Umbhali we-ZDF uPaul Amberg wenza isivivinyo.
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Amandla Okwelapha Okuthinta - Kungani Ukuzihlukanisa Kusenza Sigule
Isikhumba sethu silambele ukuthintwa futhi ukuntuleka kokuxhumana kusenza sibe nesizungu futhi sigule.
Kodwa ngokweqiniso, ubani esimfuyile kaningi - i-smartphone yethu noma uzakwethu ongumuntu? Umongameli u-Angela Elis ukhuluma ngalokhu noProf. UBruno Müller-Oerlinghausen noGabriele Kiebgis.
Isikhumba sethu siyisitho sokukhuluma, esizibonakalisa lapho sihlaza inkathazo noma amahloni lapho sithuthumela noma siphaphatheka ngenxa yokwesaba noma sithola ama-goosebumps.
Imizimba yethu ingasetshenziselwa abantu abaqeqeshiwe amehlo funda ngisho nendaba yethu yokuphila kanye nesimo sethu sengqondo ekuphileni.
Umzimba wethu kanye nesikhumba sethu nakho kuthola izitho. Ukuthinta nokubhucunga kungasinika inhlalakahle eningi futhi kungaphulukisa.
Ikhwalithi nokuzwela kokuthinta kubalulekile lapha. Kakade izingane qonda ngokuthinta, ukuthinta noma ukuzwa okuthile. Sibhekene nezikhathi zokuthintwa okuphansi, okungenzeka ukuthi amarobhothi okubhucunga angeke asize ngakho.
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Ngemasaji enothando ungasiza ingane yakho ukuthi ijwayelane nomzimba wayo. Sinezeluleko zokuthi kanjani eyodwa udoti kanye ne-massage enothando yengane.
Ungakwazi ukwenza ngendlela oyifisayo noma uhlanganise amathiphu wokubhucunga. Uma uqaphela ukuthi yakho Baby Uma ufuna ukwenza enye into futhi, awusaqaphile noma usuqala ukungahlaliseki, lesi yisikhathi esifanele sokuqeda ukubhucungwa.
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I-Shiatsu yokuphulukisa ukuthinta komzimba
Ngaqala ukuqeqeshwa kwami kweShiatsu e-ESI eVienna ngo-Okthoba 2009.
I-Shiatsu, le ndlela emangalisayo yokuthintwa okujulile, yangithakasela ekwelashweni kwami kokuqala.
Ngokushesha nganquma ukuthola okwengeziwe ngeShiatsu futhi ngaqala ukuqeqeshwa, ngabheka izikole eziningi ngase nginquma ngokusekelwe emuzweni wami wamathumbu nenhliziyo.
URoberto Preinreich wayengomunye wothisha bami e-ESI eVienna iminyaka eminingi, wahamba nami endleleni yami, futhi kuyinjabulo enkulu ukukwazi ukwenza le ngxoxo naye namuhla!
Sikhuluma ngokuthi iyini iShiatsu, kungani imangalisa kangaka kithina bantu ngakho konke ukukhathazeka kwethu okuhlukene, ukuthi iShiatsu iba kanjani ithuba lesibili lemfundo kwabaningi - ikakhulukazi manje.
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