Igcine ukubuyekezwa ngoFebruwari 26, 2023 ngu Roger Kaufman
Bambelela ebudlelwaneni noma uyeke uthando
Isisekelo kanye nemfuneko ebaluleke kakhulu yabo bonke ubuhlobo uthando. Kodwa kuthiwani uma umuzwa wothando ungasekho ngesikhathi esithile?
Ubudlelwano obuningi buphela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kodwa ngokuvamile okukodwa kokubili kungakwenza lokhu engamukeli, ngakho ufuna ngempela ukubamba ubuhlobo.
Ukwehlukana nomlingani wakho kungesinye sezigaba ezinzima kakhulu empilweni ukuphila.
Ezothando yekela, ngokuvamile kuvela isithiyo esibonakala singenakunqotshwa. Umhlahlandlela olandelayo uchaza ukuthi kanjani Yekela futhi isiqalo esisha singaphumelela.
Lapho ufunda ukwamukela iqiniso futhi ugxile kulo Ngokuzayo Ukuze ugxilise ingqondo, ungadedela futhi ugxile emandleni amasha.
Ukwamukela kukusiza ukuthi uhlukane nokwakudala futhi ugxilise amandla akho nokunaka empilweni yakho yamanje kanye nekusasa lakho.
Ngokwamukela ungathola ukuthula futhi ulungele ukuhambisa impilo yakho ngendlela eyakhayo.
Ukuyeka uthando - kwabaningi umuzwa wokuphelelwa ithemba
Uma imizwa yakho ingaphindiselwa isithandwa sakho futhi waliwe usahlanya othandweni, kubuhlungu kakhulu.
Es kunzima kakhuluukubheka phambili. Kodwa ngokuvamile into eyodwa kuphela esiza: kusukela Ukuyeka uthando futhi aphelelwe uthando.
Kwesinye isikhathi kumele uvumele omunye umuntu ukuthi enze isinqumo sakhe ukwamukela ukwehlukana futhi uzithole futhi.
Lokho kulula ukukusho kunokukwenza. Kodwa asikho isidingo sokucwila ngokuzidabukela bese ucasha embhedeni.
Ngokwemvelo Akusebenzi ukumane ucime imizwa yakho uyeke ukuba sothandweni. Kodwa kusukela Liebe dedela, lokhu kungenziwa ngamathiphu ambalwa.
Das Ukuyeka uthando kungaba nzima kakhulu futhi kube buhlungu, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kuyadingeka ukuqinisekisa injabulo yethu kanye nenhlalakahle yethu. Nazi ezinye izinyathelo ongazithatha ukuze uyeke uthando:
- Yamukela imizwa yakho: Kungokwemvelo ukudabuka futhi uphatheke kabi lapho kufanele ulahle uthando lwakho. Zivumele ukuthi uzwe le mizwa futhi uyamukele.
- Gwema Ukuthintana: Uma udinga ukuyeka uthando lwakho, kungcono ukunciphisa noma ukugwema ukuxhumana ngokuphelele. Lokhu kukusiza ukuthi ucacise imicabango nemizwa yakho futhi ugxile ezidingweni zakho.
- Gxila kuwena: Zitotose futhi ugxile kulokho okuthakaselayo kanye nezinjongo zakho. Yenza izinto ezikulethela injabulo futhi ezikusiza ukuthi uzithole.
- Gwema ukusola: Lapho udinga ukukhulula uthando lwakho, kubalulekile ukuthi ungasoli noma uwele ekuzisoleni. Gxila kokuhle futhi ukhumbule ukuthi wonke umuntu uzenzela izinqumo zakhe.
- Funa ukwesekwa: Thola ukwesekwa kubangani, umndeni, noma umelaphi ochwepheshe. Kungase kube usizo ukukhuluma nomuntu osiqondayo isimo sakho futhi angakusiza ukucubungula imizwa yakho.
- Bekezela: Lokhu Ukuyeka uthando kungase kuthathe isikhathi, ngakho yiba nesineke kuwena. Yenza ezincane izinyathelo futhi ugubhe intuthuko yakho, noma incane.
Ngokulandela lezi zinyathelo futhi ugxile kuwena, ungayeka uthando futhi uphile impilo ejabulisayo neyanelisayo.
Ukuyeka uthando: kusho ukuthini ngempela lokhu?
Menschen sabela ngendlela ehlukile ezinguqukweni ezinjengokwehlukana. Nokho, abantu abaningi abawathandi ngoba “siyizidalwa zomkhuba” futhi ngokuvamile lokho futhi URisiko kuyagwenywa. Esikujwayele kusinika ukuphepha nokuphepha.
Ukudedela kuyindlela yokusabela ngendlela efanele ekushintsheni izehlakalo nokuzivumelanisa nesimo esisha, ngisho noma empeleni ungafuni futhi awuzizwa kahle ngakho.
Phela, ekuqaleni kukhona igebe. Kwe Ukuyeka uthando, kusho ukwamukela ukwehlukana, ukubheka phambili nokuzihlela kabusha wena nempilo yakho. Ngoba lezi Ukuba nethemba nokuzethemba edingekayo.
Ukuyeka uthando - amathiphu angcono kakhulu:
* Bheka phambili
Ukuze uyeke ngempumelelo, kubalulekile ukwamukela ukuhlukana futhi ubheke phambili. Lokhu kulula ukukufeza uma wazi izizathu ezibangela lokho kunesikhathi esidlule kusukela emkhosini Ukufuna.
Ubudlelwano bohlangothi olulodwa abusebenzi. Ukwamukela njalo kuqala ekhanda bese kuphela lapho kudlulisela umuzwa. Yebo lokhu akusebenzi heute okwakusasa.
* ukuzethemba kanye nokuzethemba
WR ukuzethemba ngokuvamile kulula ukuyeka uthando. Uba lusizi kancane, uzethemba kangcono futhi uthandeka nakakhulu kwabanye.
Abantu abaphansi Ukuzethemba ngokuvamile bathola ukuzethemba kwabo kulokho abanye abangase bakucabange ngabo. Ngakho-ke, bahlupheka nakakhulu ngokuhlukana.
Abanye bangase bakuhumushe njengokusho ukuthi ababalulekile kangako. Yingakho kubalulekile ukuba ukuqinisa ukuzethemba.
* Susa konke futhi ungaxhumani nabo
Izinkumbulo zingaba buhlungu kakhulu. Ngakho-ke kuhle ukuthi ususe yonke into ehlobene ne-ex yakho, isibonelo Izithombe, inombolo kamakhalekhukhwini, othintana naye ku-Facebook noma ku-Whats App.
Ngale ndlela uzibekela isibonelo futhi awulingeka ukuthi uxhumane. Noma ngubani ongajabule othandweni akagweme noma yikanjani.
* Ukuphazamiseka noma shintsha
Ukuphazamiseka kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuvimbela imicabango zulazula kuye kuphela. Izinketho ziningi, isibonelo ukuhlangana nabangane, ukuhamba, ukufunda into entsha yokuzilibazisa noma ukuya ohambweni.
Imizwa engaziwa noma okuhlangenwe nakho kungasiza okudala Ukukhohlwa amaphethini. Enye indlela enhle iwukushintsha indawo ezungezile uma ihlotshaniswa kakhulu nezinkumbulo ze-ex yakho.
* Zibandakanye nabadlali bothando abasha
Ubani ovela ku Liebe Uma ufuna ukuyeka, kufanele uzame izinsuku ezintsha ngesikhathi esithile, njengoba lokhu kuzophawula isiqalo esisha ngemva kokuhlukana.
Ukungajabuli othandweni akusho ukuthi ngeke uphinde uthandane.
Isiphetho
Okwe- Ukuyeka uthando, kudinga, okokuqala nokubaluleke kakhulu, isineke, ithemba, isibindi nokuzethemba. Lokhu akusebenzi ngobusuku obubodwa.
Wonke umuntu unelungelo lokwaneliseka isikhathi ukudabuka ukuze unqobe ubuhlungu bokuhlukana. Uma, naphezu kwentando yakho, awukwazi ukwamukela ukuhlukana nokuyeka, kufanele nakanjani ufune usizo lochwepheshe.
Lokhu akuhlangene nobuthakathaka, kodwa kunalokho kuwuphawu lwamandla okuvuma ukuthi awukwazi ukukwenza uwedwa futhi ngenxa yalokho wamukele usizo. Ukwelashwa ngenkulumo kungakusiza ukucubungula okwenzekile futhi ukushiye ngemuva.
Ukudedela izisho kwamukela ukwehlukana
Nazi ezinye izisho ezingakusiza ukuthi wamukele ukwehlukana:
- “Ukudedela kusho Ungalahli ithemba, kodwa yemukela ukuthi ezinye izinto azihloselwe ukuba zibe njalo.
- Kwesinye isikhathi kumele uyekele Ukuvula indawo yokuthile okungcono.”
- “Ukudedela kufana nokudedela ilanga lilunguze ngemuva kwamafu. Uzokhanya futhi maduze nje.”
- "Akukho okukuvimbelayo ngaphandle kokwesaba kwakho ukukuyeka."
- “Kwesinye isikhathi kumele uyekeleukuze uzisindise.
- “Impilo iyaqhubeka, noma ngabe kukhona okumele uyekele. Uzokwenza kanjalo kakhulu phuma kuyo.
- “Ukudedela kunzima, kodwa hhayi kanzima njengokubambelela entweni engasekho.
- "Ukuyeka kungaba buhlungu, kodwa futhi kungaba inkululeko."
- “Okwedlule akukwazi ukukuvimba ngaphandle kokuthi ukuvumele. Asihambe siye phambili.”
- "Ukuyeka akuyona ukuphela, kodwa ukuqala kokuthile okusha nokuhle."
uthando dedela amazwi
“Ngiyaqonda ukuthi izihlahla ezikhona Winter banokuthile okulula ngendlela emangalisayo ngoba bangochwepheshe ekudedeleni amaphuzu.” - UJeffrey McDaniel
"Isenzo esingcono kakhulu sokwenza lula AmaLebens wukuthola ukudedelwa.” - USteve Maraboli
“Zamukele, liebe wena futhi uqhubeke uhamba. Uma ufuna ukundiza, kufanele uyeke okukusindayo.” - URoy T. Bennett
“Izindlela zokudedela, ukubona ukuthi abanye abantu bayingxenye yakho umlando ziyi, kodwa aziyona ingxenye yesiphetho sakho.” - USteve Maraboli
“Akekho okungenzeka ezahlukene, ukugcina okuthile okuhlela ukuhamba, uyazi? Ungavele uthande lokho onakho ngenkathi ukutholile. " – Kate DiCamillo
“Khala. Thethelela. Thola. Qhubeka. Izinyembezi zakho mazibe yimbewu yekusasa lakho unenhlanhla ukuqhuma." - Steve Maraboli
Kwezinye izimo, kuthatha usizi ukusivusa futhi usisize sibone ukuthi sibaluleke kakhulu kunalokho esikulwela.” – Mandy Hale
""Yekela akusho ukuthi awusenandaba nomuntu. Kusho nje ukuqonda ukuthi okuwukuphela komuntu okwazi ukumlawula nguwe ngempela.” - UDeborah Reber
"“Ukuthula kwangaphakathi singafezwa kuphela uma senza ukuthethelela. Umusa ukhulula okwedlule kanye nezindlela zokulungisa imibono yethu eyiphutha. ” – Gerald G. Jampolsky
"Uma kunjalo Yekela"Uma ukwenza abantu nezinto ukuthi zisebenze ngendlela abebefuna ngayo ngaphandle kosizo lwakho bekungelinye lamaphuzu abaluleke kakhulu, bekubuye kube nzima kakhulu." -Deborah Caletti
“Lindela into enkulu ezokwenzeka kuwena namuhla, noma ngabe kwenzekeni ngolunye usuku. Qonda ukuthi okwedlule akusakubambi. Kungakulimaza ngokuqhubekayo kuphela uma ubambelela kukho. Yeka okwedlule. Umuntu ophanayo nje ukuphila ikulindele." – Sarah Breathnach
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