Igcine ukubuyekezwa ngoMashi 8, 2024 ngu Roger Kaufman
Uphawu ukudedela kungaba nezincazelo ezahlukene babe, kuye ngokuthi umongo namasiko.
Ngokujwayelekile imile Yekela nokho, ngokudedela nokungazibandakanyi ekulawuleni noma kubunikazi.
Kungaba wuphawu lwe inkululeko, impumuzo noma iziqalo ezintsha njengoba kudala isikhala soshintsho nokukhula.
Emasikweni amaningi angokomoya, njengeBuddhism, kunjalo ukudedela okubalulekile ingxenye yezimfundiso.
Kusho ukugqashula ekunamatheleni kwezwe nokungena endleleni yokukhanyiselwa.
Ukudedela kungase futhi kube uphawu lokunqoba ukwesaba noma usizi njengoba kusivumela ukuba sihlukane nokuhlangenwe nakho kwesikhathi esidlule futhi sigxile kokwamanje kanye nosizi. Ngokuzayo ukugxilisa ingqondo.
Ku I-Psychology ingakuyeka kubonakale njengesinyathelo esibalulekile sokubhekana nokulahlekelwa, usizi noma ukudumazeka.
Ngokuzivumela ukuba samukele imizwelo yethu futhi siyivumele ukuba siyilawule, singakwazi ukuzihlanganisa nathi ngendlela enempilo nenenjongo. Indlela thuthukisa futhi ukhule.
Nakuba lokho Kwesinye isikhathi kunzima ukukuyeka kungaba, kungaba futhi inkululeko kanye nophawu lwenqubekelaphambili kanye nokuthuthuka komuntu siqu.
Ikhandlela njengophawu lokudedela
Lapho sikhanyisa ikhandlela, siqaphela ukuthi ukuthula emphefumulweni wethu ukuphila ingena.
Ikhandlela njengophawu lokudedela
Kuhlakaniphe ukukhanyisa ikhandlela kunokuba ukhale ngobumnyama - Confucius
Ukudedela ngezinye izikhathi kuyinkinga empilweni yawo wonke umuntu
Ngisanda kukhuluma nomngane futhi ngiphinde ngaqaphela ukuthi abangani abasondelene kakhulu bebelokhu bebhekana nalesi sihloko emasontweni asanda kwedlula Yekela ukubhekana.
Kunezizathu eziningi ezahlukene noma izindaba ngemuva.
Kwangathi kungaba njalo Liebe hamba, ezinhlelweni esizenzile, ekudumazekeni, ekulinyazweni.
Nokho, ekugcineni singakufingqa ngamaphuzu amabili:
- Iphupho eliphelile.
- Okucindezelayo noma okucindezelayo Isipiliyoni esikhathini esedlule.
Ikakhulukazi ihlobene nabanye abantu ngaso sonke isikhathi
Lokhu kusho ukuthi kukhona okungenani amandla amabili ayimfihlo, imiqondo, lokusungula, izizinda, imigomo, izinjongo lapho.
- Umbuzo othi ukudedela njalo "kungani".
- Kungani mina?
- Kungani ekhethe mina kulokhu?
- Kungani kufanele ngibe nalokhu kuphahlazeka?
- Kungani wangifulathela?
- Kungani ngidinga lokhu ukugula ukuthola?
Ukube sinencazelo nje kungaba usizo kakhulu.
Uma kumayelana nomuntu, singathola impendulo, kodwa abanye abayitholi, nganoma yisiphi isizathu, asiyitholi.
Nokho, akukho lutho esingaluthola kulokho... asikuyeke lapho.
Sibhekana nezinto eziningi ngaphandle kokungazinaki ngokuqaphela.
Kodwa lapho into isho lukhulu kithi, kuba nzima nakakhulu.
Kungaba amasonto, izinyanga, iminyaka noma mhlawumbe yonke ukuphila okokugcina.
Nokho, lapho kufika isikhathi, sizizwa ngokucacile.
Lesi yisikhathi lapho kufanele silubheke lolu daba ngokukhulu ukucophelela, sibonge ngalokho esisiphathele kona, ngalokho injabulo, okusithathe isikhathi eside, esifundweni esasifundisa kona, noma ukusiqhubezela ukuba sidale into ebesingeke neze siphumelele ngaphandle kwayo.
Kuthathe kahle futhi ukubeke endaweni ethile emibonweni yakho noma empilweni yangempela ukuphumula.
Cabanga Ngayo njengembali ebunayo, ingene emhlabeni futhi ibuyise amandla ayo ukuze ivule amathuba okuthuthukiswa kwesitshalo esisha sha.
Noma ivumele indize njengenyoni futhi ikhulule amandla ayo wodwa.
Kodwa noma yini oyenzayo, yenze ngothando.
Kuphela lapho udedela zonke izitha zakho nokukhungatheka lapho uyothola khona ukuthula.
Kuyasiza kakhulu uma sinokuthile okukhazimulayo esingakuyeka njengesithonjana njengoba singakwazi ukubona noma yimiphi imizwa.
Kuyasiza futhi uma ungakwenzi wedwa.
Ukudedela - Isinyathelo sokuqala esiya ekuphileni okwanelisayo
i-manchmal kunzima kithiukudedela izinto, kungaba ubuhlobo, umsebenzi, umbono, noma umkhuba.
Sibambelela kokudlule ngenxa yokwesaba okungaziwa noma ngomuzwa wokulondeka.
Kodwa ukudedela kungaba yisinyathelo sokuqala a ukuphila okwanelisayo kube.
Ingasisiza Ukudala isikhala samathuba amasha namathubaukuzikhulula kulokho okungasasisebenzisi futhi sigxile kulokho okubalulekile ngempela.
Ngezansi kuneshumi Ukuyeka ukucaphunaongakhuthaza futhi akhuthaze.
“Uma udedela into bese ibuyela kuwena, ingeyakho kuze kube phakade. Uma ingabuyi, ayikaze ibe ngeyakho." - Akwaziwa
“Ukudedela kusho hhayi ukuthi uyadela. Kusho ukuthi uyazikhulula ezintweni ezingakuyisa phambili." - Akwaziwa
“Kwesinye isikhathi kumele uyekele, ukuze kuvuleke indawo yezinto ezingcono.” - Akwaziwa
“Ukukhipha akusona isiphetho, kodwa Ukuqala kwento entsha." - Akwaziwa
"Impilo iwuhambo kanti kwesinye isikhathi kumele silahle imithwalo esibuyisela emuva noma engasasiphathi." - USteve Maraboli
"Ukuyeka kusho ukuthi uyasamukela isiphetho, ugcine ukholo futhi ulungele okusha." - Akwaziwa
"Ukuyeka akulula, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kuyadingeka ukuthola injabulo yethu." - Akwaziwa
"Ngokuyeka sakha isikhala amathuba amasha namathuba.” - Akwaziwa
“Ukuyeka kuwukwamukela isipho sokuphila nokusamukela ngezandla ezivulekile.” - Akwaziwa
“Ukuyeka kudinga Isiqu, kodwa isinyathelo sokuqala sokuphila impilo esiyifunayo." - Akwaziwa
Izinsimbi, uphawu lokudedela
Izinsimbi, uphawu lokudedela, ziyakhala ethempelini lamaBuddha Chiang Mai
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Uphawu lokudedela kuBuddhism
Izimpawu zamaBuddha
izinsimbi
Ngokuvumelana nalezi zikhathi zasendulo, izinsimbi ezivela ezindaweni ezingcwele ziye zahlanganisa kokubili izindela nezindela ukuze zicabange futhi zibe nemikhosi.
Omnene ekhala insimbi ememeza isiza amaBuddha ukuba agxile esikhathini samanje futhi adedele ukwesaba kwansuku zonke.
Umuzwa wokuzola nokuthula ungathuthukiswa ngokuzwakala kwensimbi.
Ngakho-ke, izinsimbi zomoya zivame ukulengiswa ezindlebeni zama-stupas namathempeli ukuze kwakhiwe izindawo ezinokuthula nezicabangelayo ngamathoni azo okuchichimayo.
Umsindo wensimbi uwuphawu lwezwi likaBuddha.
Iphinde imele ulwazi kanye uzwela futhi isetshenziselwa ukuxhumana nezidalwa zasezulwini ukuze zivikeleke futhi zixoshe ububi.
Izingosi eziningi ezingcwele zasendulo zinezinsimbi emnyango okufanele azikhalise umuntu ngaphambi kokungena.
imbali ye-lotus
Im KuBuddhism, i-lotus iwuphawu lokuvuka kukaBuddha kanye nenkomba yokuthi zonke izidalwa zinekhono elilinganayo lokuthola ukukhanyiselwa.
I-lotus ikhula odakeni futhi ikhuphukele phezu kwamanzi ukuze iqhakaze ngobuhle nobumsulwa, indoda futhi ithuthukise ukufaneleka kweBuddha futhi iphakame ngaphezu kwezidingo nokunamathela ukuze kwembule imvelo yomuntu yeqiniso.
Izinga lembali ye-lotus limelela amazinga ku- ngokomoya weg.
Isibonelo, ihlumela elivaliwe lihlotshaniswa nokuqala kohambo.
Imbali evuleke kancane ikhombisa ukuthi kuhanjwa isikwele.
Imbali eqhakaze ngokugcwele isho ukuphela kohambo - ukukhanyiselwa.
I-lotus iqhakaza kakhulu kuzo zonke izici zobuciko nezincwadi zamaBuddha kuyo yonke imiphakathi.
Isithonjana esisha sokuqala
Inkulumo ethi "isiqalo esisha” iwumfanekiso ongokomfanekiso wesiqalo esisha noma isigaba sempilo.
Kuwuphawu lokuthi kungenzeka okuthile Ama-Altes ukushiya ngemuva futhi wenze isiqalo esisha.
Isiqalo esisha singenzeka ezimweni ezahlukahlukene, kungaba ubudlelwano bomuntu siqu, imisebenzi, amaphrojekthi, noma indlela yokuphila.
Uphawu "lweziqalo ezintsha" lungaba nezincazelo ezahlukene kuye ngokuthi luhunyushwa kanjani.
Kungamela ithemba, ukuvuselelwa, isibindi, kanye nokuzimisela ukuqhubekela phambili emaphutheni adlule noma izinselele.
Ngokuvamile lifanekisela chanceukufunda kokuhlangenwe nakho futhi ulethe ushintsho oluhle.
Ngokulayisha ividiyo, wamukela inqubomgomo yobumfihlo ye-YouTube.
Funda kabanzi
Isiqalo esisha singabuye sihlotshaniswe nomuzwa wokuhamba, inkululeko, kanye nethuba lokuzisungula kabusha noma eyakho izinhloso futhi uchaze kabusha amaphupho.
Kungaba uphawu lokunqoba izithiyo, ukubhekana nokulahlekelwa noma isifiso ukukhula komuntu siqu ukumela.
Sekukonke, uphawu "lweziqalo ezintsha" lumelela amandla omuntu okuguqula nokushintsha.
Kukhuthaza ukuyeka imikhuba emidala namaphethini okucabanga futhi wamukele amathuba amasha namathuba.
Imele ukukholelwa emandleni omuntu kanye nekhono lokulolonga impilo yakhe ngenkuthalo.
Nazi ezinye izingcaphuno nezisho ezibonisa uphawu lwesiqalo esisha:
“Ngaso sonke isikhathi kuyisiqalo esisha.” - I-TS Eliot
"Kwesinye isikhathi into engcono kakhulu esingayenza wukuqala phansi." - Akwaziwa
"Iziqalo ezintsha zingamathuba afihliwe." - UToba Beta
"Nsuku zonke yithuba elisha lokuba yilokho esikufisayo.” - Akwaziwa
"Isiqalo esisha sivame ukufihlwa njengesiphetho esibuhlungu." - Lao tzu
"Kwesinye isikhathi kumele uzilahlekele ukuze uzithole." - Akwaziwa
"Isinyathelo sokuqala kunoma iyiphi i-adventure entsha ukuba nesibindi sokuyiyeka." - Akwaziwa
"Ikusasa lihlala liqala manje." - Akwaziwa
"Yonke into oyidingayo ukuze uqalise kabusha isivele ikuwe." - Akwaziwa
"Okukhulu kakhulu esikutholayo ukuthi singaqhubeka nokuzisungula kabusha." - Maya Angelou
Iluphi uphawu olumele ushintsho?
Uphawu oluvame ukuhlotshaniswa nalo shintsha elihlobene uvemvane.
I-butterfly ithola i-metamorphosis emangalisayo, ikhula kusukela ku-caterpillar kuya ku-chrysalis futhi ekugcineni iphuma ku-chrysalis njengovemvane oluhle.
Le nqubo imele ngokomfanekiso uguquko, ukukhula, uguquko kanye neziqalo ezintsha.
Uvemvane luphinde lufanekisele ushintsho nentuthuko engenzeka kukho konke ukuphila.
Ngaphezu kovemvane, ezinye izimpawu nazo zingamela ushintsho, njenge:
- Umcibisholo: Umcibisholo obonisa isiqondiso esisha noma ukuqhubeka ungamela ushintsho.
- Ukuphuma kwelanga: Ukuphuma kwelanga kungaba ngesiqalo esisha nethemba lekusasa elingcono.
- Amahlumela noma izithombo: Ihlumela elincane noma isithombo lifanekisela amandla nokukhula okuza noshintsho.
- I-Yin ne-Yang: Uphawu lwe-yin ne-yang olusuka kufilosofi yamaShayina lumelela ibhalansi phakathi kokuphikisayo futhi lubonisa ukuthi ushintsho luyi-a imvelo namandla angenakugwemeka endaweni yonke.
Ekugcineni, uphawu loshintsho lungahluka kumuntu nomuntu, futhi ngokuvamile luncike encazelweni yesiko noma yomuntu siqu umuntu anamathisele kulolo phawu.
22 ukudedela amazwi
Ukudedela akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Sibambelele kubantu, izinto nezinkumbulo futhi kunzima ukubayeka bahambe.
Nokho, ngezinye izikhathi kungcono ukuyeka futhi uqhubeke.
Kuningi izinhlobo ezahlukene yokudedela izisho, kodwa zonke zisikhuthaza ukuba sikhohlwe okwedlule futhi sigxile esikhathini esizayo.
Kulokhu Ividiyo ngina-22 ehamba phambili Kuhlanganiswe amazwi okudedela. Wonke umuntu Ukusho kuvidiyo emfushane etholakalayo ukuze ukwazi ukubukela amazwi noma nini ufuna.
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FAQ mayelana nophawu lokudedela
Luyini uphawu lokudedela?
Uphawu lwe-Letting Go yisithombe esibukwayo noma isingathekiso esimele umqondo wokudedela. Kungathatha izinhlobo ezihlukahlukene, njengesundu elivulekile, inyoni endizayo, noma ibhaluni eliphakamayo.
Lusho ukuthini uphawu lokudedela?
Uphawu lokudedela lumele umqondo wokuthi kufanele udedele okuthile noma othile ukuze uqhubeke futhi uvule indawo entsha. Kungasho futhi ukuzikhulula kokuthile okungasakusizi noma okukuthwalisa kanzima.
Luphi uphawu lokudedela lusetshenziswe?
Uphawu lokudedela lusetshenziswa ezimeni ezahlukahlukene ezifana nokwelashwa kwengqondo, ingokomoya, ubuciko kanye nesiko le-pop. Ingasetshenziswa futhi njengophawu lomuntu siqu ukuze ifanekisele ushintsho empilweni.
Lungasetshenziswa kanjani uphawu lokudedela?
Uphawu lokudedela lungasetshenziswa njengethuluzi lokuqala ushintsho noma ukufeza umgomo. Kungase futhi kube yisikhumbuzo sokuthi uguquko nokudedela kuyadingeka ukuze kucebise futhi kwandiswe impilo.
Ingabe akhona amasiko athile noma amasiko asebenzisa uphawu lokudedela?
Yebo, uphawu lokudedela lusetshenziswa emasikweni nasemasikweni amaningi. Ngokwesibonelo, ngesiJapane isiko isebenzisa umqondo we-“mottainai”, okusho ukungachithi izinto futhi esikhundleni sokuzisebenzisa noma ukuzidlulisa ukuze zifanekisele ukuziyeka.
Ngingalusebenzisa kanjani uphawu lokudedela ekuphileni kwami?
Ziningi izindlela zokusebenzisa uphawu lokudedela empilweni yakho. Isibonelo, ungakha ukumelwa kokudala kophawu ukuze ubakhumbuze ukuthi ukuyiyeka kuyadingeka. Ungenza futhi isinqumo esiphusile sokudedela okuthile noma othile ongasakusizi noma oyingozi kuwe. Noma ungasebenzisa uphawu ukuze ubonise ushintsho empilweni yakho, njengokuqala kwesahluko esisha noma ubudlelwano obusha.
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