funda ukuyeka uthando

Igcine ukubuyekezwa ngoJuni 8, 2022 ngu Roger Kaufman

Izinketho ezahlukene - ukukhulula amaphutha namaphutha othandweni

Ngikuvumele ukuthi uhambe emhlabeni ngaphandle kokwahlulela izenzo zakho.

Izinto ozishoyo noma ozenzayo angiziboni njengamaphutha noma amaphutha, ngibona ukuthi ziningi izindlela zokubuka nokubona umhlaba wethu.

Angazihluleli - ngoba uma ngikwenqabela ilungelo lakho lokuthuthuka, ngizokwenza okufanayo kimina nakubo bonke abanye.

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Ukuyeka uthando

Uma ubudlelwano buphela, kujwayelekile ukuthi ushiye owakho Uthando lwangaphambili ube nobutha obungajwayelekile kubo - ikakhulukazi uma bekungewena obuzimisele ukukuqeda.

Mhlawumbe wazizwa ujabule ngempela ekuqaleni, njengaye ubuhlobo Kukusize ukuthi uye phambili.

Noma kunjalo, ngemva kwesikhathi esithile uyabona ukuthi lokhu akusenjalo kuwe, futhi awuqiniseki ukuthi ungamshiya kanjani umuntu omthandayo. yekela futhi ufuna ukuqhubeka nempilo yakho.

Imizwa engadingeki ithinta inhlalakahle yakho engokwengqondo nengokwenyama - I-Wut kuhlobene nesifo senhliziyo - futhi kuzoba nomthelela ebudlelwaneni bakho besikhathi esizayo.

Ukuqaphela lezi zenzo njengezingenampilo ngokokuqala Ngena ohlelweni lokudedela.

Uma uzama ukuthola impendulo ehlobene nokuthi yini okumele uyenze ngokulandelayo, okwamanje usendleleni efanele.

Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi njengoba uthola ukuthi ungayiyeka kanjani i-ex yakho, ungathola nokuthi ungayilawula kanjani imizwa yakho kanye nawe. ngijabule kakhulu uyakwazi ukuzwa.

Uma ufuna ukufunda ukudedela othile, ungathola abanye zikhathi nezimo lapho ungakwazi ukuqhubeka khona.

Izinyathelo ezingu-6 zokukhulula uthando lwakho lwangaphambili

1. Khuluma nomuntu omethembayo

Ukugcina imizwa yakho kuwena kuzokugcina unamathele futhi kungase kukuphendule ukwesaba.

Khuluma nomngane osekelayo, ilunga lomndeni, noma umelaphi mayelana nendlela ozizwa ngayo ngempela futhi umvumele abe khona lapho kuwe ngesikhathi sokudinga kwakho.

2. Thola izinkolelo ezizibekela imingcele

Uma imibono njengokuthi "Angikwazi neze ukuba ngedwa" noma "Angisoze ngithole umuntu ozongithanda" edlula ekhanda lakho, uyaqonda ukuthi ukhawulela imibono eyokuvimbela ngokuqinisekile ekutholeni okuthile okusha.

Shintsha ngemibono enikeza amandla efana nokuthi "Ngivulekele ukuthi yini indawo engigcinelwe yona" kanye nokuthi "Ngiyazithanda futhi ngifaneleka okungcono kakhulu."

Lokhu ngokuqinisekile kuyokusiza ukuba uyeke ngaphandle kokwesaba.

3. Ungahlali ezinkundleni zokuxhumana

Ukufunda ukudedela umuntu omthandayo kuba nzima kakhulu uma uhlala uthola ngaye.

Yize izinkundla zokuxhumana kungenye yezindlela zokuxhuma ne-ex Liebe Ukuhlala nithintana kuphambene nalokho okudingayo lapho nehlukana.

Ukuhlala kude nenkundla yezokuxhumana ngesikhathi senqubo yakho yokuphulukisa kuzokuvumela ukuthi uphumule futhi ungakhunjuzwa njalo nge-ex yakho Liebe khumbuza.

4. Hamba wedwa

Das Yekela futhi ukushiya ubuhlobo kungase kucindezele.

Lesi akusona isikhathi sokuzishaya wena noma ukuziba izifiso zakho.

Uma uziphatha kahle futhi uzinika isikhathi sokuzithanda, uzolulama ngokugcwele futhi ungase ube nempilo engcono kunangaphambili ngaphambi kokuba ubudlelwano buqale.

Jabulela ukwelapha ngokubhucunga umzimba noma omunye umsebenzi ophumuzayo, yenza izinto zokungcebeleka ezi... glücklich yenza, futhi ugxile ekutholeni ukwaneliseka ngaphandle kokuba yingxenye yombhangqwana.

5. Yiba matasa

Ukuhlala embhedeni usuku lonke nokuhlala kude nabangane abahle nababathandayo kwenza lokho Yekela futhi ukuqhubeka kunzima kakhulu.

Qala usuku lwakho ngomkhuba wasekuseni okhuthazayo ohlanganisa imisebenzi efana nokuzindla, i-yoga, noma i-juggling.

Vuka uzivumele utotoswe.

Volontiya ngomsebenzi omusha sha emsebenzini. Mema umngane oseduze esidlweni sasemini noma esiphuzweni.

Ngokuhlala usebenza, ungaziphazamisa ngokuphephile ekuhlukaneni futhi uvumele amanxeba akho aphole.

6. Zinike isikhathi sokuyeka uthando lwakho lwakudala

Noma ngabe uyayiqonda indlela ophatha ngayo umuntu yekela Uma ungathola omthandayo futhi ulandele zonke izinyathelo, ungalindeli ukuzizwa ungcono kakhulu ngaso leso sikhathi.

Usizi luvamile futhi udinga ukuzivumela isikhathi esidingekayo ukuze uzwe imizwa yakho.

Ziphathe ngozwela futhi ungavumeli noma ubani ukuthi akucindezele ukuthi "uvele uphumelele."

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