Igqityelwe ukuvuselelwa ngoSeptemba 25, 2022 ngu URoger Kaufman
Iingcebiso ezili-11 zolonwabo- Amaxhala axhaphakile kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla yaye kufuneka sifunde ukuhlala sinesimo sengqondo esihle.
Abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba "umjikelo woloyiko oluhambelana nokuyeka ukuhamba unokwaphulwa ngokufunda ukwenza ngokunyuka okuncinci."
Ukwenza oku, kufuneka sifunde ukukhupha amathemba ethu aphezulu kwiziphumo zemihla ngemihla.
“Xa sicinga ngokuyeka, sisoloko sinikela ingqalelo koko sikuncamayo. Kodwa kukho enye elinye icala leli bali. Kukwafuneka sithathele ingqalelo into esiyifumanayo ngokukhulula amandla ethu. " -Ayaziwa
Ukufezekisa oku, ndincoma ukwenza oku ILoslassen ukuzilolonga kumanqanaba ahlukeneyo alishumi elinanye:
1. Fumana ngaphantsi kokuncamathela kwiziqinisekiso zakho kunye neengcinga - iingcebiso ezili-11 zolonwabo
"ILoslassen akuthethi ukulahlekelwa nantoni na; kuthetha ukuphumelela ngakumbi.” -Ayaziwa
Xa sizifumana sisophula iingqikelelo zethu kunye neziqinisekiso bambelela uqinise, sinokuqalisa ukubabuza.
Sisenokuzibuza ukuba sazi njani ukuba ziyinyani nokuba ziyinyani ezinye iinketho inika ukubona izinto.
Oku kunokusinceda sikhulise imbono yethu kwaye siziphilise.
2. Yamkela ngononophelo ukungaqiniseki kunye notshintsho njengenxalenye yesiqhelo yobomi
“Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka nje ndiyeke ixesha elidlulileyo, ukuze siqhubele phambili.” -Ayaziwa
Xa sijongene nokungaqiniseki, siqhele ukuphulukana namandla okubangelwa kukungazi ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni na ngokulandelayo.
Isigqibo, ukungaqiniseki kwethu impilo ukuyamkela ngononophelo kunokutshintsha indlela esizijonga ngayo.
Abanye basenokuma ngelithi baphila ngendlela engalindelekanga ikamva khokela njengoko befunda ukuyeka kwaye bamkele uloyiko.
Ukungaqiniseki kwekamva lakho kukunxanelwa komntu imfihlakalo kunye nomzabalazo ongasonjululwanga wolawulo. malunga namava.
"Andifezekanga, kodwa ndiyinyani." -Ayaziwa
Kukho abantu abangasoze yekela kwaye ayikwazi ukulungiselela ikamva elingaziwayo.
Baxinga kubume bobomi apho ihlabathi sele ligqibe ngabo.
Oku kunokubonwa ngokwasengqondweni okanye kusenokuba yindlela yokuphila emiliselweyo.
Ukuqonda kungundoqo, ukuba nengqiqo kunye nezenzo zokucamngca kunokunceda umntu ukuba amkele inkalo yendalo yonke. utshintsho ukuqonda kunye nokuyeka ukubambelela ngokungafanelekanga kurhulumente - kwixesha elidlulileyo, langoku okanye elizayo.
3. Nciphisa ulindelo oluphezulu
"Kulula ukubambelela kwizinto ezingalunganga kuthi." -Ayaziwa
Es kunzima ebantwiniukuba bazikhumbuze ukuba esona siphumo sisesona sinokwenzeka, okanye kwanolindelo lwabo lwesona siphumo silungileyo, asiyi kuhlala sisenzeka.
Ingqondo ihlala ikhohlisa abantu ukuba bacinge ukuba baneyona igqibeleleyo impilo baya kuphumeza ukuba basebenza nzima ngokwaneleyo.
Oku akuyonyani kwaye kunokukhokelela ekuphoxekeni kukuzithemba kunye nokulahlekelwa yinkuthazo.
Ukulindela ukuba yonke into ifanele igqibelele okanye izinto ziya kuhlala zisihambela kakuhle kunokusithintela ekubeni siphile ngalo mzuzu.
Endaweni yoko, sihlala sixakekile sikhangela imeko egqibeleleyo okanye sicinga ngendlela esiza kusabela ngayo xa izinto zingayi kucwangciswa.
Noko ke, xa sicinga kakhulu ngekamva size sizixhalabise ngoko kunokungahambi kakuhle, siyaphoswa lithuba lokonwabela okwangoku.
Kutheni kusenzeka oku? Kumaxesha amaninzi kuba sibeka izinto esizilindeleyo phezulu kakhulu.
Sakha into ethile engqondweni yethu ukuba ibe yile nto igqibeleleyo, kwaye xa ingaphumeleli kwinqanaba, siyadana.
Noko ke, sinokufunda ukukhulula nokuthatha izinto njengoko zisiza, endaweni yokuhlala ukhangela umphumo ogqibeleleyo.
ich kufuneka kwakhona uyeke ulindeloesinalo kumntu wonke ngenxa yokuba ngamanye amaxesha asikwazi ukulawula indlela abasabela ngayo okanye izenzo zabo.
Ekupheleni kosuku, sifanele sikhumbule ukuba akukho mntu ufezekileyo nokuba abantu bayazenza iimpazamo xa besa kwimfezeko.
4. Yiba neminqweno neengcamango ezisengqiqweni
Ukuba kukho into ongayithandiyo, yitshintshe; ukuba awukwazi ukuyitshintsha, tshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo." - Maya Angelou
Ukuzalisekisa iphupha kunzima kwaye kunokoyikisa ngamanye amaxesha.
Kodwa eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuhlala ukhuthazekile kukugcina usukelo lwakho lusengqiqweni.
Ukuba ubeka ulindelo lwakho phezulu kakhulu kwaye alufezekiswanga, unokudimazeka okanye unikezele ngokupheleleyo usukelo lwakho.
5. Yeka ukuncamathela kuyo yonke into eyeyakho | impahla okanye abantu
"Akufuneki uhlale udityaniswe kuyo yonke into onayo." -Ayaziwa
Xa singabanini bento, ngamanye amaxesha siziva siqhagamshelene nayo.
le izinto inokuba yindlu, imoto, kwanempahla.
Kodwa isenokuba ngabantu esibambelele kubo.
Sinokubambelela kusapho lwethu, abahlobo bethu, okanye kwanamaqabane ethu.
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba kufuneka sifunde ukuziyeka ezi zinto?
Kubalulekile ukufunda ukuziyeka izinto ezikubambezelayo.
Indawo ecocekileyo ejikeleze wena iba ngakumbi ukuqamba, ukulunga kunye nokwenza ubudlelwane obungcono.
6. Yeka umsebenzi ongenakukwazi ukuwufumana
"Kufuneka uyeke eyona nto uyoyika kakhulu ukuze ufezekise eyona nto uyinqwenela kakhulu." - Lao Tzu
Kukho imisebenzi emininzi ephantsi kwaye akulindelekanga ukuba iphucuke nanini na kungekudala ixesha uzakuchacha.
Ngokutsho kophando, kucingelwa ukuba, umzekelo, inani labaqhubi beefowuni liya kuqhubeka linciphisa njengoko abantu abaninzi bexhomekeke kwiifowuni eziphathwayo kunye neengxoxo ze-intanethi.
Eyokuqala inyathelo lokukhulula izinto kukuqonda ukuba akukho nokwenzeka ngokwenene.
Abantu abaninzi babambelele kwimisebenzi yempangelo kuba benethemba lokuba ekugqibeleni imeko iya kutshintsha. Kodwa ukuba unyanisekile kuwe, kuyacaca ukuba oku akunjalo.
Eli cebiso linokukunceda ukuba uhlukane nezinto ekufuneka uzincame.
- Zibuze ukuba akhona amathuba asengqiqweni kusini na.
- Nyaniseka kuwe.
- Thatha inyathelo kwaye uyeke.
7. Beka phambili iinjongo zakho kwaye wenze ngokuvisisana nazo
"Akufuneki ube mkhulu ukuqala, kodwa kufuneka uqale ukuba mkhulu." - Zig Ziglar
Kubalulekile ukugxila kwezona njongo zibalulekileyo kuqala uze udlulele kwezinye ezingabalulekanga kangako.
Ukuze uzibeke kwindawo yokuqala usukelo lwakho, cwangcisa izinto ezingxamisekileyo nezingafanelekanga.
- Fumana umntu onokuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho kuye ngaphandle kokugweba.
- Yenza into eyakhayo neyilayo nokuba kukanye ngemini, nokuba kukupheka, ukubhala, ukwenza iipuzzle - hayi imiboniso yeTV okanye imidiya yoluntu.
"Awuyazi ukuba ndomelele kangakanani ude undibone xa ndibuthathaka." - Muhammad Ali
8. Wonwabele nyani ngalo lonke ixesha, kwanabo banzima
"Xa uvuka ekuseni, lingakanani ixesha olichitha ucinga ngezolo?" - UCharles Swindoll
Ngamanye amaxesha kulula ukulibala ukuba amaxesha anzima ebomini anokubaluleka njengalawo aphumeleleyo.
Ngokomzekelo, xa sijamelene nexesha elinzima okanye elinzima Amava esijongene nazo, sinokufumana intsingiselo kunye nenjongo kwindlela ezisibumbe ngayo.
Oku kaninzi kungenxa yokuba ubuchopho bethu bucwangciselwe ukujonga iipateni kunye nokuncamathisela intsingiselo kwiziganeko (kwanezinzima).
"Awuyi kufika ndawo ukuba uyoyika ukuthatha umngcipheko." - Michael Jordan
9. Bonisa uvelwano kwabanye | Iingcebiso ezili-11 zolonwabo
"Oyena mntu kufuneka umthande nguwe." -Ayaziwa
uvelane kukukwazi ukuzibeka kwimeko yomnye umntu nokuqonda iimvakalelo zakhe. Sisakhono esibalulekileyo sentlalo esivumela ukuba siqonde ngcono kwaye sixhase abo basingqongileyo.
Ngelishwa, uvelwano ludla ngokubhidaniswa novelwano.
Uvelwano kukukwazi ukwabelana nabanye ngeemvakalelo nangentlungu yomnye umntu.
Uvelwano, kwelinye icala, kukukwazi ukuzibeka kwimeko yomnye umntu uze uqonde iimvakalelo zabo ngaphandle kokuchaphazeleka.
Uvelwano sisakhono esibalulekileyo sentlalo esisinceda siqonde ngcono kwaye sixhase abo basingqongileyo.
10. Yenza ijenali yombulelo
"Xa ukhulula, ukhulula enye into ngaphakathi kwakho." -ULao Tzu
Kukho iingcebiso ezininzi ILoslassen. Ukugcina ijenali yombulelo yenye indlela yokugcina umbono wakho ulungile.
Ukubhala ijenali yokubulela yindlela entle yokuzisa ukulunga ngakumbi ebomini bakho.
Ngokubhala izintlu zokubulela, uya kuzikhumbuza ngento onayo ebomini ukuba ube nombulelo ngayo.
Le yindlela entle yokufumana ngaphezulu Ukuzisa izinto ezintle ebomini bakho kunye nokuzithemba kwakho iyakheka ukwenyuka.
11. Umsebenzi omtsha yonke imihla
"Ekuphela kwento engatshintshiyo kukutshintsha." -UJohn Lennon
Elinye icebiso kukubamba usuku: zityhale ukuba wenze umsebenzi omtsha rhoqo ekuseni kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uyawuqonda umahluko phakathi kokungonwabi okuhle nokubi.
Oku kukugcina ukhuthazekile kwaye akunakufane kwenzeke ukuba uthathe imikhwa engafanelekanga.
Iintetho funda ukukhulula
"Ukuba u thanda umntu, mkhulule. Xa ebuyela kuwe, kufuneka ahlale engowakho.” -Ayaziwa
“Ekuphela kwento esiphume kuyo imbali sifunda ukuba asisoze sifunde." -Will Durant
"Ukuba uhamba esihogweni, qhubeka." - Winston Churchill
"Ayisiyo iminyaka yobomi bakho ebalayo. Bubomi kwiminyaka yakho. " - Abraham Lincoln
"Kufuneka ufunde ukuphulukana ngaphambi kokuba uphumelele." - Mark Twain
"Umntu kuphela ongazange enze iimpazamo nguye ongazange enze nantoni na." - Albert Einstein
"Kufuneka ufunde ukusilela ngaphambi kokuba ufunde ukuphumelela." - Michael Jordan