Igqityelwe ukuvuselelwa ngoSeptemba 2, 2023 ngu URoger Kaufman
Intshayelelo Ubuxoki Iintetho ukucinga ngayo
Umakhulu undinike lento Utsho ndafundisa ndiseyinkwenkwana.
Andizange ndiyilibale kwaye yinto endisayicinga ngayo nomntu wonke endidibana naye.
"Ewe, ukuba ulixoki uya kuhlala ekho umntu ongayi kukholwa."
Wayesoloko esitsho kum xa ndenze into engalunganga okanye ndixoka.
“Akukho mntu ukholelwa kwixoki. Nokuba uthetha inyani." - USarah Shepard
"Ubuxoki buhlala buhleli, kodwa izibakala zihlala zihleli." – Edgar J. Mohn
"Amazwi obuxoki awabi nje kuphela, kodwa achaphazela umphefumlo ngobubi." - uPlato
"Ayindihluphi le nto undixokise ngayo, iyandikhathaza lento yokuba ndingakholelwa kuwe ukusukela ngoku." - UFriedrich Nietzsche
Kubo bonke ubuxoki endibuvileyo, "I liebe wena" sithandwa sam. -Ayaziwa
"Ukuxoka yinkonzo yexesha elifutshane kwingxaki engenakuguqulwa." -Ayaziwa
"Akukho nto ihlazo emhlabeni ngaphezu kokukhula kubuxoki kunye neentsomi." -UJohann Wolfgang von Goethe
"Inyaniso enesiqingatha yeyona nto ikhohlakeleyo kubo bonke ubuxoki." - UMark Twain
"Xa inyaniso ithathelwa indawo ukuthula, ukuthula bubuxoki." – Yevgeny Yevtushenko
"Izinto ziqhekeka ngokukhawuleza xa zidibene kunye nobuxoki." –Dorothy Allison
"Ubuxoki bunokujikeleza ihlabathi ngaphambi kokuba inyaniso ibeke iibhutsi zayo." –Terry Pratchet
"Kungcono ukungasebenzisi ukugwetyelwa kunobubi." - George Washington
"Kungcono ukuva ubuhlungu ngokoqobo kunokuba uthuthuzelwe ngobuxoki." -Khaled Hosseini
"Iintetho zobuxoki zokucinga malunga" yiposti yeblogi ejongene nesihloko imigaqo yokuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha okubandakanyekayo.
Kutheni kubalulekile ukuthetha inyaniso kwaye zithini iimpembelelo zokuxoka?
44 ubuxoki acatshulwe ukucinga
Ividiyo ene-44 ixoka ukucinga malunga nokuba sizixelela yonke imihla.
Kutheni abantu bexoka
Abantu baxoka ngezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo.
Kudla ngokuba lula ukuyijija okanye ukuyifihla inyaniso kunokujongana nemiphumo yenyaniso.
Ngamanye amaxesha iba yinto nje yokusinda. Kwezinye iimeko, isenokuba yindlela yokusebenzisa amandla okanye ukulawula imeko.
Abanye abantu baxoka kakhulu kunabanye. Ukuxoka kusenokukhawuleza kube ngumkhwa, yaye abanye abantu baxoke kangangokuba abasakwazi nokuyazi eyona nyaniso.
Kukho iintlobo ngeentlobo zobuxoki. Obunye ubuxoki abunabungozi yaye obunye bunokuba nemiphumo emibi.
"Ngobuxoki ungaqhubela phambili kwiplanethi, kodwa awunakubuyela umva." – isaci Russian
"Nantoni na ilunge ngakumbi kunobuxoki nenkohliso!" – Leo Tolstoy
"Ubuxoki obunye banele ukuvavanya yonke inyaniso." -Ayaziwa
"Wonke umntu unelungelo loluvo lwakhe, kodwa hayi ezakhe iinyani." -UDaniel Patrick Moynihan
"Ubuxoki obuphindaphindiweyo abuyitshintshi inyaniso." – UFrank Sonenberg
“Nakuphi na ukunyhashwa kwenyaniso ayisilohlobo lokuzibulala kuphela ekwenzeni umgunyathi, kodwa kukuhlaba kwimpilo nakwintlalontle yabantu. isiko. " - uRalph Waldo Emerson
Xolela uze ulibale. Isenokungatshintshi ixesha elidlulileyo, kodwa inika ithuba lekamva.” -Ayaziwa
"Ukuba uthetha ubuxoki, uba eyona nto ingcono kumntu." – Khaled Hosseini
“Sonke sikuziqithi iilwandle ukukhwazana ukungaboni ngasonye. - URudyard Kipling
"Abantu abaze baxoke njengoko benzayo ngaphambi konyulo, ngexesha lemfazwe, okanye emva kokuzingela." -Otto von Bismarck
“Ngokuqinisekileyo abantu abaninzi bangoyika kakhulu ukuba banokujongana nayo isimilo sakhe sokwenyani uza kuzibona esipilini." -Ayaziwa
"Ukungabhetyebhetye kufana nokutya ityhefu yeempuku kwaye ulinde ukufa kwempuku." - Anne Lamott
“Ubuxoki abubi yaye abulunganga. Njengomlilo banokukuthatha nawe mnandi zikubambe okanye zikuchithe ekufeni, kuxhomekeke kwindlela ezisetyenziswa ngayo kanye. – UMax Bach
“Uxokisa umntu wakho uthando, hayi kwi. Yenye yezona zinto zoyikekayo umntu onokuthi azenze. " -Ayaziwa
"Okukhona ukhusela ubuxoki, uya kuba nomsindo ngakumbi ekugqibeleni." –Mitch Albom
Imiphumo Yobuxoki
Ukuxoka kunokusisindisa kwimiphumo engathandekiyo kwixesha elifutshane, kodwa iziphumo zibi kakhulu ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Xa siqhelana nokuxoka kuthi okanye kwabanye iintlungu Ukuzikhusela okanye ukulahlekelwa, sakha udonga lokungathembani okwenza kube nzima ukwazi iimvakalelo zethu zokwenyani
ukuzivakalisa okanye ukwakha ubudlelwane bokwenene.
Ubuxoki bunokusilahlekisa buze butyhefe ulwalamano lwethu.
Ukuba uyaxoka, umntu ohamba naye uyakrokra kwaye unokuphulukana nentembelo yakho.
Ukuxoka kusenokuphumela ekubeni uxoke kuwe nakuwe ukuzithemba lahlekelwa.
“Siyaxoka xa sithandabuza, sisoyika into esingayaziyo, sisoyika ukuba abanye baza kuthini na, kuba soyikela into eza kufunyanwa ngathi. Kodwa ngalo lonke ixesha sithetha ubuxoki obunolwazi, into esiyoyikayo, iba namandla ngakumbi. " -Ayaziwa
"Ubuxoki, ngakumbi abo ukholelwayo, bunokukholisa." -Lisa Wittle
"Ndiza kufaka izithembiso zakho emlonyeni wakho kwaye ndizonwabele xa uzitshica ebusweni bam." - Anne Kuester
"Ngobuxoki ungaqhubela phambili kwiplanethi, kodwa awunakubuyela umva." – isaci Russian
“Owokuqala ukucela uxolo ngoyena ukhaliphileyo. Owokuqala ukuxolela ngoyena unzima, kwaye owokuqala ongawukhumbuliyo ngoyena wonwabe." -Ayaziwa
"Ngenxa yokuba ngelixa ubuxoki buhle, inyaniso yinto ebalulekileyo kuwe ekuhambeni kwexesha." -ULauren DeStefano
"Amagama anenkathalo ayingqokelela nje yokuhombisa okumnandi xa engaxhaswanga ngumsebenzi wothando." – Karen Salmansohn
"Ubuxoki ngamanye amaxesha buchaneka ngakumbi kunenyaniso, yiyo loo nto i-fiction ibhaliwe." – uTim O'Brien
“Abandikhathazi abantu. Kuthetha ukuba abantu abazenza abantu abalungileyo bayandikhathaza kakhulu. " –Cindy Cummings-Johnson
“Ubuxoki buyingozi njengekrele. Ungasika uye ethambo. –Dhonielle Clayton
Obona buxoki bukhohlakele budla ngokuxelwa kuthe cwaka. - URobert Louis Stevenson
"Ngaba ukunyamezela akunako ukuncama yonke into exhomekeke entliziyweni yakho?" –Bisco Hatori
"Amaxesha amaninzi ubuxoki obuthetha ngokuzithemba okuphezulu bunokuba nomtsalane ngakumbi kuneenyani ezithetha ngokuthandabuza." – Toba Beta
“Ukuba unokhetho phakathi impilo Zimisele ukufa, nyula ke ubomi. Xa unokhetho phakathi kokulungileyo nokubi, ukhetha okulungileyo. Kwaye xa unikwe ukhetho phakathi kwenyani embi kunye nobuxoki obuhle, ukhetha inyani ngalo lonke ixesha. " - Mira Grant
Chaza inyani
Akusoloko kulula ukuthetha inyani.
Ngamanye amaxesha kulula kakhulu ukuthetha ubuxoki kuba inyaniso inokuba buhlungu okanye kuba usoyika ukugwetywa.
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba inyaniso kuphela kwendlela efanelekileyo?
Akumelanga ukuba uthethe inyani ngoko?
"Abantu baqala ukubakho ngakumbi xa beqala ukukhathalela kancinci." -Imvula Cooper
"Ndicinga ukuba eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu embi eyakha yathethwa kukuba ubuhle kunye nokusebenza kuyahambelana." –UDaniel Nayeri
"Owu, yeka iwebhu ephitheneyo esiyilukayo xa siqala ukuziqhelanisa nokukhohlisa." -UWalter Scott
“Into inokwenzeka nokuba bubuxoki obupheleleyo; enye ingongoma ayinakwenzeka kwaye ibe yinyaniso kunenyani. " – uTim O'Brien
“Ubuxoki buyinxalenye yehlabathi lokwenene. Azinakuphila kummandla womoya. " – Nnedi Okorafor
"Ndicinga ukuba kwezinye iimeko kufuneka ube khona ukuze ufumane inyaniso." – Scott Westerfeld
"Kuya kufuneka ukuba sivumele inyani ukuba ikhale ezingqondweni zethu ngakumbi kunobuxoki obosulele thina." -Beth Moore
“Ukuzama ukuqonda kuyakuphambana kuya kukuphambanisa. Yekela ihambe." – Karen Salmansohn
"Zimbalwa izizathu zokulinganisa, kodwa inani lokuxoka alinamda." –Carlos Ruiz Zafon
“Inyani imbi. Ikrwada kwaye ayiqhelekanga. Awunakugxeka abantu ngokukhetha ubuxoki.” – Holly Black
Iborderliners zixoka ngathi zishicilelwe
Abemi bomda banomkhuba wokuxoka ngokungathi bacwangciswe ngobuxoki.
Le yinto eqhelekileyo esithi, esetyenziswa kwiincoko zemihla ngemihla.
Umntu onengxaki yobuntu bomda uhlala exoka ukuze aphephe ungquzulwano kunye nokukholisa omnye umntu.
Umbhali weli binzana akaziwa, kodwa zininzi amazwi malunga ubuxoki nenyaniso.
Ibinzana elidumileyo lithi: "Ubuxoki abuzimeli ngokwabo." Oku kuthetha ukuba ubuxoki abuyi kukholelwa ngaphandle kokuba buxhaswa bobunye ubungqina.
Elinye ibinzana elidumileyo lithi: "Inyaniso iya kuvela." Oko kuthetha ukuba ekugqibeleni inyani iya kuphuma, nokuba kufuneka ikhutshwe kumntu ongafuni ukuyiveza.
Isaci "I-Borderliners zixoka ngathi ziprintiwe" wayedla ngokuchaza umntu olichule ekuxokeni abonakale ngathi uthetha inyani.
Ubuxoki bunemilenze emifutshane
Eli binzana lihlala lisetyenziswa ukubonisa ukuba ubuxoki kulula ukububona kwaye abuyi kuhlala ixesha elide. Kwiimeko ezininzi lisetyenziswa xa ubani ethetha ubuxoki ibe loo mntu axokisayo uyayazi loo nto.
Isivakalisi "Ubuxoki bunemilenze emifutshane" sele kukho iinkulungwane. Yaqala ukurekhodwa ngesiNgesi ngenkulungwane ye-16 xa yaguqulelwa ngokusuka kwiqhalo lesiTaliyane.
“Imilenze emifutshane” kweli qhalo ithetha ukuba ubuxoki abuhlali xesha lide kuba buza kubhaqwa.
Iintetho ezimfutshane zobuxoki
Ngaphantsi kobuxoki obufutshane Iintetho zithetha amazwi amafutshane kunye neengcaphunooko kunokutshiwo ngobuxoki.
Ukuxoka yinxalenye yobomi bomntu kwaye kuza ngeendlela ezininzi.
Ubuxoki obufutshane kufuneka buncede ukuqonda ubuxoki ngcono kwaye busebenzise iinjongo ezahlukeneyo.
Ubuxoki obufutshane bunokunceda ukuqonda nokwamkela eyakho inyaniso. Ezinye iintetho ezimfutshane zobuxoki zinokunceda ukusebenzisa ubuxoki ukukhohlisa okanye ukukhohlisa abanye abantu.
Amazwi amafutshane obuxoki anokunceda ekuqondeni nasekuphepheni ubuxoki.
Ubuxoki yinkohliso okanye inkohliso eyenziwe ngabom ukuze ikhohlise umntu.
Ukuxoka kunokubonakala kungenabungozi njengokushiya inkcazelo eyinyani okanye ukwenza inkcazelo entsha.
Abantu baxoka ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, kodwa eyona ixhaphakileyo kukuba bacinga ukuba kuluncedo kubo.
Ukuba uxelela umntu ubuxoki, unokuphumelela kwixesha elifutshane, kodwa mhlawumbi uya kulahlekelwa ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Ilizwi lokuqala lithi: "Ivili elitswinayo lifumana igrisi." Eli lilizwi elidumileyo elithetha ukuba ukuba uyakhalaza okanye uthethe ingqondo yakho, uyayifumana le nto uyifunayo.
Intetho yesibini ithi: "Idime egciniweyo yidime efunyenweyo." Le yintetho edumileyo ethetha ukuba awuchithi mali ngoku, yigcine kwaye uyisebenzise kamva.
- "Ndiyaxolisa."
- "Eyona nto imbi ngokuxokiswa kukwazi ukuba ubungafanelanga nyani kulo mntu."
- "Ibiyingozi."
- "Umntu othi soze akuxokise mhlawumbi sele exoka."
- "Inyaniso inokuba buhlungu okwethutyana, kodwa ubuxoki bubuhlungu ngonaphakade."
- "Bendingathethi oko."
- "Ubuxoki bunokukhathalela okwangoku, kodwa abunakamva."
- "Ubuxoki obukhulu okanye obuncinci bubuxoki."
- "Andikuxoki."
- “Ukuxoka kwenzeka ngamazwi nangokuthula.”
- "Akuxoki."
- "Ungandixoki ngaphandle kokuba uqinisekile ukuba soze ndiyifumane inyani."
- Yayingendim lowo.
- "Awukwazi ukuxoka ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye ulindele ukuba abantu bakuthembe."
- "Ukuba uthetha inyani, akufuneki ukhumbule nantoni na." - Mark Twain
- "Ngalo lonke ixesha uxoka, kundisondeza kancinci ukuba ndithi ndlela-ntle."
- "Thetha ubuxoki kube kanye kwaye yonke inyaniso yakho iyathandabuza."
- “Ungaze umxokise umntu okuthembileyo. Ungaze umthembe umntu okuxokisayo."
- "Kubo bonke ubuxoki endibuvileyo, 'ndiyakuthanda' yayiyeyona nto ndiyithandayo."
- Andicaphuki ukuba undixokise, ndiyacaphuka ukuba andikukholelwa ukususela ngoku.” - UFriedrich Nietzsche
- "Ukuthetha inyani kunye nokulila umntu kungcono kunokuxoka nokwenza umntu ancume."
- "Into endingayiqondiyo kukuba umntu omnye angakuxelela njani ubuxoki obuninzi ngaphandle kokubi."
Isiphelo bubuxoki
Ukuxoka asikokukhohlisa nje abanye, kodwa ngokuyintloko kukuzikhohlisa.
Umntu oxokayo uhlala kwihlabathi leenkohliso kunye nemimangaliso kwaye uya ngokuya ekude nenyani.
Ukuxoka yindlela yokuphepha uloyiko neentlungu.
Kodwa inyaniso kukuba ukuxoka kusizisela uloyiko nentlungu engakumbi kunokuba sinokucinga.
Ukuba sifuna ukufunda ukoyisa uloyiko lwethu nokuzithemba, ngoko simele sifunde ukuthetha inyaniso.
Oku akuthethi ukuba simele sisoloko sithetha inyaniso, kodwa simele sifunde ukunyaniseka kwiziqu zethu.
Xa sifunda ukunyaniseka, siya kukwazi ukuba nentembelo ngakumbi.
