Ukuyeka ngempumelelo umntu omthandayo

Igqityelwe ukuhlaziya nge-24 kaDisemba 2022 ngu URoger Kaufman

Umntu myeke lowo umthandayo, kuvakala okokuqala umzuzu akunakwenzeka ukuba.

Ngapha koko, akukho sizathu sokuba. Kodwa amaxesha amaninzi isigqibo senzelwe wena, ubukhulu becala xa iqabane lakho lahlukana nawe.

Kodwa kwakhona kufuneka uvumele abahlobo okanye abantu obaziyo ukuba bahambe ngenxa yokuba umdla wakho uyatshintsha kwaye akusekho ikamva kunye.

Kwelinye icala, isenokuba yileya kufuneka ukhulule umntu ongasekhoyo.

Kodwa uhlangabezana njani nale lahleko?

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Akakho umntu onokwenza olo hlobo lomntu yekela ngubani omthandayo xa ungazange walahlekelwa ngolu hlobo.

Yiyo loo nto ibalulekile yekela, ekujoliswe kuko ukufunda indlela yokujongana nale lahleko.

das Ukuyeka umntu omthandayo kuqala ngakumbi ezinxulumene neentlungu ezininzi kunye nosizi, ekufuneka zivunyelwe ekuqaleni. Kodwa kuqala kufuneka ulungele kwaye uthathe ukutsiba kwingqele amanzi nesibindi.

Ukungena kwinkqubo ye ukuyeka kuhambe ukuza, ubani ufanele acinge ngemiphumo enokuvela ukuba akakakulungeli ukuyiyeka. Xa kucacile ukuba ufuna ukonwaba kwakhona kwaye ufuna ukuphelisa usizi nentlungu, eyona nkqubo ye yekela kuqaliswe.

Myeke umntu omthandayo

Inkqubo ye ukukhulula kuvela, ukuba ukulungele ukuthatha eli nyathelo ngempumelelo.

I-mantra inokunceda kule nto, kuba ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ulungele ukuyeka kwiimeko ezinzima kwaye uqhubeke uphinda amagama entloko yakho, uya kuphumeza oku.

Kuhlala kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo.

Sonke siyanceda abantuxa sibabona besentlungwini okanye kwiimeko ezinzima.

Ngoko kutheni ungalwamkeli uncedo kube kanye?

Ngoko akunzima kangako ukuthetha nomnye umntu uze uzityand’ igila kumntu omthembileyo.

Baza kukhangela izisombululo eziqhelekileyo kunye nawe kwaye banokuzibeka ezicathulweni zakho, ekubeni unokuhlala ujonga iimeko ngokungathathi hlangothi ngaphandle.

Kuphephe ukugxekwa njengabantu abakujongela phantsi

Ngelishwa, abantu abakwimeko efanayo abanakukunceda kwinkqubo yoku ukuyeka kuhambe faka umntu omthandayo.

Aba bantu bakwingxaki efanayo kwaye badla ngokukutsalela ezantsi kwaye banokukunceda ILoslassen hayi inkxaso.

Ngokunjalo ke umntu makangazibeki tyala, kuba umntu uzigqibela ngokwakhe ukuba kutheni emshiyile.

Ingaba kukugula okunzulu okanye isigqibo sokuqala esitsha impilo ukuqala ngabantu abatsha - awukwazi ukutshintsha imeko okanye ube nefuthe kwisigqibo.

umntu owenzayo Ukuziyeka yoyisile yaza yayenza, inokukunceda kwaye ikuxhase ngcono ngakumbi kwimeko enjalo.

Aba bantu ubukhulu becala iingcebiso ezilungileyo kwaye wafumana indlela yokujongana neentlungu.

Kwakhona kudla ngokuba njalo ukuba kunceda ukukhumbula abalungileyo Amaxesha ukukwazi ukukhumbula kwaye ngaloo ndlela ugqibezele.

Iziphumo Zokubanjelwa

Ukuyeka umntu omthandayo yinkqubo enzima enokuba yindinisa. Kodwa hayi imiphumo yoko ukuyeka kuhambe zonke zinzulu ngakumbi. Okwakho impilo yengqondo ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, uya kwenzakaliswa.

Iziphumo ziqala ngokuphuthelwa, intloko ebuhlungu, umsindo kunye nentiyo kwaye kunokukhokelela ekudandathekeni nasekuziboneni.

Sihlala sikwimeko ebonakala ingenakuphepheka kuthi yaye ngaloo ndlela itshabalalisa imizimba yethu.

Iingcinga ezilungileyo zekamva eliyimpumelelo

Ngalo lonke ukwahlukana kuza enye Isiqalo esitsha.

Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukuqhubeka nokubuya amehlo ukuqinisekisa ukuba yonke into esiyenzayo izisa into entle ngayo.

Ukuba wenze njalo amandla utsalela kwindlela yakhe, uya kuqaphela ngokukhawuleza ukuba ayisiyiyo yonke into ehlala ingalunganga kwaye inzima kwaye yonke into inokuba lula kakhulu.

Kubalulekile ukuba ube nesibindi kwaye uyamkele into eyenzekayo. Ukuyeka umntu omthandayo kufuna, ngaphezu kwako konke, uxolelo kunye nokuzamkela.

Amaxesha amaninzi, sibonakalisa ukuzisola kwimeko ethile kuba nje sisentlungwini.

Kulungile ukuphoxeka nokuba nomsindo.

Into ebalulekileyo kukwamkela okwenzekileyo uze uxolele.

Shiya usizi nentlungu ngasemva

Sonke sihamba kwinkqubo xa sikhulula umntu esimthandayo.

Kuqhelekile ukuba buhlungu kwaye uve intlungu yokwahlukana.

Ngoko ubukhulu becala bayadlula abantu izigaba ezi-5 zentlungu.

Emva koko kufika ingongoma xa uyivuma intlungu yakho. Oku akubi kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kunceda ukukwazi ukujongana nayo ngcono.

Xa uyivumile intlungu yakho, ixesha lifikile kwaye nawe Winde Ukuthetha nabantu ngayo kunye nokulungisa intlungu yakho ngendlela ekujoliswe kuyo ngokuthetha ngayo.

Emva koko linda ubone, kuba ekuhambeni kwexesha izinto ezininzi ziya kuzilungisa kwaye iintlungu ziya kuba lula ekuhambeni kwexesha.

Kweli nqanaba, akufuneki uzityhale ukuba uvale ngokukhawuleza kwaye uyeke.

Wonke umntu unexesha elahlukileyo elithathayo ukucubungula intlungu yokwahlukana.

Ke kufuneka ube neqhayiya ngawe xa ufezekisa izinto obuzimisele ukuzenza kwaye uqale ukubuyisela inkqubo yesiqhelo kubomi bemihla ngemihla.

Ukuba eli nyathelo likwinqanaba le ukuyeka kuhambe kufikelelwe, ukujonga okwenzekileyo kunokuphoswa.

Xa ubambekile kwimeko enzima, ugweba izinto ngqwabalala okanye unombono ojijekileyo.

Ngoko ukuba emva kwexesha elithile ukhangela oko kwenzekayo kwakhona ukude, uya kuphawula ezinye izinto obungaziqondi kangako ngaphambili.

Ngokwenza oko, kubalulekile, ngaphezu kwako konke, ukunyaniseka glucklich ukubayi. Ukuyeka umntu omthandayo kuphela kwendlela yokwenza.

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Ukuyeka umntu omthandayo yinkqubo ende enokwenziwa nabani na.

Emva kwexesha elide lokucutshungulwa, kuhle ukujonga emva koko kwenzekileyo.

Am ukuqala kokuphuma akuyi kwenzeka, kodwa ukuba ujonga ngasemva ngovuyo, uyazi ukuba wenze kwaye wayigqiba ngempumelelo inkqubo yokukhulula umntu omthandayo.

Ukuyeka ukuhamba akusoloko kulula-ukuyeka umntu omthandayo

Emva kokwahlukana, ingqondo yakho iyajikeleza.

Udlula kuzo zonke 'izinto onokuthi ubenazo', 'kufuneka ubenazo', 'yintoni-ukuba' kwaye uyaziphambanisa.

Uyamkhumbula, ukanti uzama ngamandla ukuqhubela phambili.

Uyaqonda ukuba yeyona nto ingcono, ukanti uyathandabuza.

Ngapha koko, ingqondo nentliziyo yakho zibubugxwayiba.

Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha eyona nto inzima ukuyiqonda kukuba ubomi abuhambi ngokwesicwangciso sethu.   

Kwezinye iimeko, ukuziyeka kukuphela kokhetho, ukhetho olulungileyo lokuzifumana kunye nabo siye sadelela kubo.

Nazi ezinye Iingcaphuno zothando kunye nokuyeka ukuhamba

Ukukunceda ubuyisele iingceba zakho ezaphukileyo ukuze zikuse kwikhosi entsha kraca kunye nokukukhumbuza ukuba ukuyeka akuthethi ukuba ubuthathaka.

"Ukuba uthatha ngokwaneleyo ukuba uthi ndlela-ntle, ngokuqinisekileyo ubomi buya kukuvuza nge-hello entsha." - Paulo Coelho

"Ngamanye amaxesha kuthatha intliziyo ebuhlungu ukusishukumisa kwaye isibonise ukuba sixabiseke kakhulu kunokuba sinqwenela ukuba." –Mandy Hale

"Yekela kuthetha ukwazi ukuba abanye abantu bayinxalenye yobukho bakho kodwa abayonxalenye yekamva lakho.” -Steve Maraboli

"Elona nyathelo likhulu ekuphileni ubomi obulula kukufumanisa ukuba unokuyeka." -Steve Maraboli

Ukuba awufuni ukukhumbula into okanye umntu, ungaze uthiye okanye umjongele phantsi. Yonke into oyithiyileyo ibhalwe entliziyweni yakho; xa ufuna ukuyeka into ethile, xa unenjongo yokuyityeshela, awukwazi ukuyithiya." – C. JoyBell C.

"Utshintsho olungaqhelekanga lwenzeka ebomini bakho xa uthatha isigqibo sokulawula oko unamandla phezu kwayo, kunokulawula into onayo. nqwenelainto ongenayo." -Steve Maraboli

“Ekuphela kwento umntu anokuyenza ngokwenene kukuqhubela phambili. Thatha loo mtsi mkhulu uye phambili ngaphandle kokuthandabuza, ngaphandle kokukhumbula. Khawulibale malunga nexesha elidlulileyo kwaye uye kwikamva. " -Alyson Noel

“Xa ubambe amagqubu komnye umntu, unxibelelana naloo mntu okanye ingxaki ngonxibelelwano lwengqondo starker injengentsimbi. Ukuxolelwa kuphela kwendlela yokucima kunye nokuqhawula olo nxibelelwano. " - UCatherine Ponder

"Xa ndiyiyeka into endiyiyo, ndiba yinto endinokuba yiyo." - Lao Tse

"“Ukukhulula asiyonto yaxeshanye Into, yinto ekufuneka uyenzile yonke imihla, ngokuphindaphindiweyo. " – Dawson's Creek

"Ukuba ngokwenene unenjongo yokuxatyiswa ngabantu obathandayo, kufuneka ubaqinisekise ukuba unokwenza ngaphandle kwabo." -UMichael Bassey Johnson

"Uhambo olunomtsalane lwezi ntsuku lunokuqala kuphela njengoko sizifumana sikhulula izolo." -Steve Maraboli

“Singafumana uxolo lwangaphakathi kuphelaxa sisenza inceba. uxolelo yilonto ukuyeka ixesha elidlulileyo kwaye ngenxa yoko yindlela yokulungisa iingcamango zethu eziphosakeleyo. " – Gerald G. Jampolsky

"Ukukhathazeka kuya kukushiya ngokuqinisekileyo xa uyeka" - UJeremy Aldana

“Uya kufumanisa ukuba kuyafuneka ukuyeka izinto zihambe; ngenxa nje yokuba zinzima. Myeke ahambe, myeke ahambe. – C. JoyBell

“Lindela heuteukuba ungacinga into entle nokuba kwenzeke ntoni izolo. Awusaziqondi ixesha elidlulileyo, akusakubambi. Inokukwenzakalisa ngakumbi ukuba ubambelele kuyo. yeka ixesha elidlulileyo Ulindelwe lihlabathi elinobulungisa. – Sarah Breathnach

"Ngaba uya kuvumela ihlabathi elikungqongileyo ukuba liguquke ngelixa uhleli? Yenza oku ngeli xesha ususa imikhwa yakudala etshabalalisa uvuyo nolonwabo lwakho erfolg eneneni ukhubazekile, kwaye ekugqibeleni uvumele oyena mkhulu ukuba ukhule." -Steve Maraboli

“Ukuba umalunga nezulu fly Ukuba uyafuna, kufuneka ushiye iplanethi. Ukuba ufuna ukwenza inkqubela, kufuneka uyeke ixesha elidlulileyo elikutsalela phantsi." -Amit uRay

"Xa uyeka izinto ozilindeleyo, xa uyenza loo nto impilo yamkeleni njengoko injalo, nikhululekile. Ukunyamezela kuthetha ukuba nentsingiselo nokuxinana.” - URichard Carlson

“Wuyeke umlo. Phefumla lula kwaye uvumele ukuba kube njalo. Vumela umzimba wakho ukuba uhlale emva kwaye uthambise intliziyo yakho. Ifumaneka kuyo nantoni na odibana nayo ngaphandle kokulwa. " - UJack Kornfield

"Zama ukuthobela ukuyeka." – UTom Althouse

“Ukuyeka akuthethi ukunikezela, kuthetha ukuba ukhethe ukugxila kwinto ebaluleke ngakumbi. Ukuncama akuthethi loo nto ukuzithemba ukulahlekelwa, kodwa ukuqonda ukuba kukho iindlela ezingcono zokuchitha ixesha lakho. Ukuncama kuthetha ukungazifumani izizathu, kodwa ukufunda ukwenza izinto ngendlela esebenza ngakumbi, esebenza ngakumbi.” -Ayaziwa

“Ziqinisekise yonke imihla ukuba ulungile impilo ukufaneleka. Yehlisa uxinzelelo, ukuphefumla. Hlala unethemba, yonke into ilungile. " – eJamani Kent

“Ukuyeka abo sibathandayo yeyona nto inzima siya kuze siyenze. Abanye abantu abanikezeli uthando behla ngenxa yokuba bexhalabele ukwenzakala. Bekuya kuba kukufa okubi ngakumbi. " -Goldie Hawn

Siyeke - isebenza njani? ingcebiso yevidiyo

Kulo Umoya njengakuncwadi lwezengqondo kuninzi malunga nokuyeka intetho.

Eli gama aliqondwa kakuhle ngabantu abaninzi kude kube namhlanje.

ukuba unento ufuna ukuyeka ebomini bakho, nokuba yichapter endala okanye ubuhlobo okanye naluphi na utshintsho, zibuze kuqala ukuba sele uyivumile into oye wayiphila ngoku.

Ngaba uye wayamkela kwaye wayixabisa into eyayikho kwaye yintoni ngoku?

Ukukhulula kungokuvuma.

I-BETZ MOVES – Robert Betz