Igqityelwe ukuhlaziya ngo-Agasti 10, 2022 ngu URoger Kaufman
Ukuba uxolelo lungokobuthixo, ngaba ubani umele abe ngcwele?
"Uxolelo lukhetho umntu alwenzayo ukubuyisela uxolo entliziyweni yakhe."
Sonke siyazi ukuba ukuxolelwa kubalulekile, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukufumana amagama afanelekileyo.
Ukuba ukhangela indlela yokufumana uxolo entliziyweni yakho, la mazwi anokuba luncedo kakhulu.
uxolelo Iintetho zizinto zamaqhawe emihla ngemihla, inyathelo lokugqibela elikhokelela kuxolo lwangaphakathi.
Isenokuba luhlobo lweemvakalelo aikido ibe apho siyakukhubaza umceli mngeni wethu ohloniphekileyo ngomonde nokuzola, sifuna olona hlobo lukhulu “lwempindezelo” ngokusebenzisa uxolo cacisa, ukuba kuphela ngaphakathi.
"Ukwenza impazamo ngumntu, kuxolelwe nguThixo." - UAlexander Pope
Ukuxolela lukhetho olwenzayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Isenokuba yimbono entsha okanye umgama osempilweni; njengendawo enoxolo ejongene nehlabathi elintsonkothileyo kunye ne ungquzulwano.
Ukuxolela kunokuba sisipho kuwe okanye kwabanye, isenokuba yinto oyifumanayo, kodwa isenokuba luphawu umntu analo. ubudlelwane ichaza indlela umntu anokuzixolela ngayo ukuze axolele abanye.
Ukuba u ithemba Ukunika amaphiko, ukuxolelwa kudla ngokuba yinto oyifunayo ukuze uhambe.
Njengomba wokomelela kunye nenyathelo lokuguquguquka kwengqondo, ukuxolelwa kungcono ukuhlakulelwa njengoqeqesho oluqhubekayo.
Umntu unokuxolela ngakumbi, kodwa njengazo zonke izisombululo ezinexabiso eliphantsi, ukuya kwindawo ehlala ihleli kufuna umgudu ozinzileyo kunye notyalo-mali olukhulu lwamandla. Amanqatha ufuna ukuhamba.
45 amazwi okuxolelwa - Ngaba ungathanda ekugqibeleni ujonge esipilini kwakhona?
"Uxolelo luphawu lokuba umntu othe wakuphatha gadalala uthetha ngakumbi kuwe ngaphezu kokungalunganga akwenzileyo." – Ben Greenhalgh
“Uxolo aluyamkeli into eyenzekileyo. Imalunga nokunyuka ngaphezu kwayo. " -URobin Sharma.
"Masixolelane - kuphela xa kunjalo siya kuhlala ngoxolo." - Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy
“Sifunda ukuba sifanele sibaxolele abo basichasayo; nangona kunjalo, asiqinisekisi ukuba sifanele sibaxolele abahlobo bethu.” - Francis Bacon
Uxolo amazwi uthando iindlela ezilula zokukhulisa uthando lwakho
"Xa umfazi exolele ngokwenene umyeni wakhe, akufuneki ahlaziye izono zakhe ngesidlo sakusasa." - Marlene Dietrich
"Phambi kokuba sixolelane, kufuneka siqondane." –Emma Goldman
“Uxolelo lolona hlobo luphezulu nolunomtsalane uthando. Ngembuyekezo ufumana uxolo olungenakucingelwa kwaye nawe Ulonwabo." -uRobert Mueller
“Yiba ngowondlayo nowakhayo. Yiba ngonengqondo kunye nentliziyo exolelayo ekhangela eyona nto isebenzayo ebantwini. Shiya abantu bengcono kakhulu kunokuba ubafumene." - UMarvin J Ashton
"Uxolo, yinto ehlekisayo. Ifudumeza intliziyo kwaye ipholisa ulwamvila ngokunjalo.”- UWilliam Arthur Ward
“Uxolelo lidini, oko kukuthi, ukwamkela ubomi." -George MacDonald
“Musa ukunyanzelisa ukuba kwenzeke ntoni na. Kunoko, nikela ingqalelo koko kufuneka kwenziwe. Chitha amandla akho ukufumana isisombululo kunye. " - Denis Waitley
"Abo bangenako ukuxolela bayayiqhekeza ibhulorho ekufuneka bawele kuyo ngokwabo." -George Herbert
"Akukho nanye uthando ngaphandle kokuxolelwa, akukho lubabalo ngaphandle kothando. – UBryant H. McGill
“Eyaphukileyo Freundschaft, eya kulungiswa ngokuxolelwa, inokuba namandla ngakumbi kunokuba yayinjalo ngoko." – UStephen Richards
“Iqabane elonwabileyo ubudlelwane lumanyano lwabaxoleli ababini ababalaseleyo.” - URobert Quillen
Iintetho Zokuxolela Ukuyeka Ukuhamba- Njengawe ngeli qhinga lincinci kuqinisekisiwe yekela unako
"Ukuba sibuyela umva kwaye sithathele ingqalelo yonke imiba ebesinayo, siza kuyenza le nto impilo bayagxadazela kwaye bamangaliswa. Uzinzo kunye noxolo lwengqondo luza xa silapha kwaye ngoku Ngoku ubomi." - UPam W. Vredevelt
“Kufuneka siphile ubomi esibucwangcisiweyo yekela sifuna ukufumana obo bomi busilindileyo.” – UJoseph Campbell
“Awudingi kuqina ukuze wenze nantoni na ukukhulula. Eyona nto uyidingayo kukuqonda. ” -Umntu Finley
“Uxolelo luyabonelela kwaye ke ngoko ukufumana i ubomi." -George MacDonald
"Baxolele bonke abakonileyo, kungekuphela ngenxa yabo kodwa nangenxa yakho." - UHarriet Nelson
"Uxolelo kukukhulula ibanjwa ngokupheleleyo kwaye uyeke ukuba ibanjwa ibinguwe." —ULouis B. Smedes
“Inceba yenye uthando Umba. Ifudumeza intliziyo kwaye iphinde ipholise ulwamvila." -
UWilliam Arthur Ward
Uxolo Imizekeliso Ubulumko - Funda ngobu bulumko begolide
“Njengoko ndandiphuma ngesango ndisiya kwisango elaliza kundizisela inkululeko, ndandisazi ukuba xa ndinokwabelana ngomsindo nomsindo wam ngendandivalelwe. intiyo andizukushiya ngasemva." - uNelson Mandela
“Uxolo lokwenyani kuxa unokuthi enkosi ngale nto Amava. " - Oprah Winfrey
"Ukuphosakela akukho nto ngaphandle kokuba uhlala uyikhumbula." - UConfucius
“Obuthathaka abanakuze baxolele. Inceba luphawu oluqinileyo. " - Mahatma Gandhi
"Uxolelo sisipho ozinika sona." - Tony Robbins
"Ukuxolelwa kungundoqo womsebenzi kunye nokuguquguquka." – uHannah Arendt
"Ubomi luhambo lwenceba." – Norman Abazala
Ngokufutshane kushwankathelo lwevidiyo engama-45 yokuxolelwa kwegolide
"Ingqumbo ikwenza ube mncinci, ngelixa ukuxolelwa kubeka uxinzelelo kuwe ukuba ukhule ngaphaya koko ubuyikho." – Cherie Carter Scott
“Obuthathaka akanakuze axolele. Uxolelo ngumgangatho wayo yonke into. " - Mahatma Gandhi
"Uxolelo luvumba lokuba i-violet iwela kwisithende esiyityumzayo." -
UMark Twain
“Umkhwa wokuxolela ngowethu Okubaluleke kakhulu Intlawulo yokubuyisela umhlaba. " - Marianne Williamson
"Ndihlala ndifumanisa ukuba uxolelo luvelisa iziqhamo ezityebileyo kunobulungisa obuqatha." - Abraham Lincoln
"Imfesane yokwenyani ayingomsebenzi emva kokwenyani, kodwa yingqondo umntu ajongana nayo ngalo lonke ixesha." -UDavid Ridge
uxolo amazwi womsindo - “Ungaze Uphinde Ucaphuke”
"Uxolo kukuba ndincame ilungelo lam lokukwenzakalisa kuba undonile." -Ayaziwa
"Uxolelo lokwenyani aluwuchasi umsindo, kodwa lujongene nawo ngqo." - Alice Duer Miller
"Uxolo luphawu lomntu onesibindi." – Indira Gandhi
"Umsindo ikwenza ube mncinane ngelixa ubabalo lukushukumisela ukuba ukhule ngaphaya koko ubukuko." – Cherie Carter Scott
“Iziyatha azixoleli, azikhumbuli; isiyatha siyaxolela, silibale; isilumko siyaxolela, singasihili.” - Thomas Szasz
Iintetho zoxolelo Ukholo-Ukholo lushukumisa iintaba
“Ukuxolela kufana nokholo. Kufuneka uyivuselele ngokuphindaphindiweyo.” –Mason Cooley
amazwi okuxolela impindezelo - Yahlukana nokunxanelwa ukuziphindezela - kwimizuzwana embalwa
Ngaphandle kokuxolelwa kuya kuba njalo impilo elawulwa yingqumbo nempindezelo.” - URoberto Assagioli
“Kukuzingisa kuphela okwaziyo ukuxolela. … Igwala alixoleli; ayikho kweyakhe Indalo." - Laurence Sterne
"Uxolelo yeyona mpindezelo imnandi." – Isaac Friedman
Uze uxolele imibongo engokuxolelwa
ukuzixolela
Ndiyifumana njani indlela yokuzixolela ngokwenene?
Ndiyeke njani ukuzibeka ityala?
ngeempazamo endizenzileyo?
Ndilufumana njani uxolo lwangaphakathi?
ukundisa phambili
endaweni yokusoloko ujonge ngasemva?
Ndiyijika njani lento
ngaphambi kokuba ndilahlekwe kwakhona?
Le mibuzo iyandikhathaza
yonke imihla.
Kulula xa ndicinga ukuba ndiya kwenza
nezona nkqubela zincinci
Kukho into okanye umntu
lonto inditsala umva
buyela umva enzonzobileni.
ngenxa yonxunguphalo nehlazo.
usizi lothando aluhambanga kakuhle okanye luphalale;
kuba neentloni ukuyivuma.
ufunxa intliziyo nengqondo entle ngolo hlobo.
Ndiyaqonda ukuba kufuneka ndifunde ukuzixolela.
kuzo zonke izigwebo zam ezingalunganga,.
le lelinye lawona manqaku anzima.
Ngokwenene kwafuneka ndijamelane nayo ngaphambili.
Yiba lutshaba lwakho olukhulu
xa ujongene neyona nto ingaphakathi kuzo zonke izichaso,
livila ukoyisa
ngakumbi xa ulibele.
ukukhanya ekupheleni kwendlela.
Ukholo lwam luyandilahla.
ndiyidinga kakhulu
Ndihlala ngaphandle kuphela.
ngoxa ngaphakathi kuyo ngokuthe ngcembe ibuna.
Ndiyabona kwaye ndiziva kungekho msebenzi wokwenyani.
Ngaba ndisoloko ndifuna ukugrogrisa
emthunzini womnye umntu?
Ungaze wenze inzuzo.
kuyo yonke into endiyityale?
Ungaze waziwe.
ngokuba unentliziyo entle?
Asoze kubonakala ngathi ndiza kuyenza
ukuze wonwabe ngokwenene
okanye kuxatyiswa ngayo.
umntu ndinguye?
Kuthatha ntoni ngokwenene.
ukuba umntu abone.
ixabiso elikum?
Zonke ezi nkxalabo
ngaphandle kokuba nezisombululo.
yenza kube nzima ukukholelwa
ukuba ubaluleke kakhulu
kuye wonke umntu okungqongileyo.
Ndiya kuhlala ndinjalo
ingcamango
kunokuba isicwangciso?
Yintoni enye endinokuyenza.
jonga ukufaneleka kwam?
Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kubambeka ngalo lonke ixesha.
ngokungalindelekanga kwam.
Ukungaqiniseki?
Ndiqinisekile ukuba andisoze ndiyifumane eyam ngaphambili.
kwindawo kulo mhlaba?
Yonke le mibuzo ngokuqhubekayo.
ndijikeleza entlokweni yam ndizama.
ukuchonga iimpendulo.
Uxinzelelo lokufumana.
ezi mpendulo zikhona.
inzima emagxeni am.
Ndingumfazi owomeleleyo ngokuqinisekileyo.
kodwa xa ndidibana nomnye.
umngeni emva komngeni,
ngaphandle kokuphumla ngokwenene
Ndihlala ndithanda ukuzifumana.
ndithandabuza ubukho bam.
Andifuni ukukhunjulwa.
njengomfazi owayesoloko esezintlungwini.
Ndifuna inkcazo yam yobuqu.
inenekazi nangona yena.
ubunzima obuninzi, wafumanisa.
Imvakalelo yobukho njengomzekelo kwabanye.
Ubomi yile nto kanye siyenzayo kubo.
Ukuba ndihlala ukuze ndizixhobise.
ziphose kolu loyiko
ndiye ndanikezela ngenene.
kukufa kwam
Nangona kukho amafu kakhulu.
yengqondo, ndiyazi ukuba andinako.
ayisayivumeli le nto.
Ndiyayazi ukuba intliziyo yam
andikwazi ukuyithatha intlungu
kunye nokungoneliseki ukuba iyazala.
Ngoko ke kufuneka ndifumanise ukuba ndizazichaza.
ukuba ndingumntu yintoni.
ndiya kuzenza iimpazamo
Ndifunda njalo kwezi mpazamo.
Nantso ke into endohlulayo kwabanye
yeyona nto indenza ndibe wodwa.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba nesithukuthezi.
lonto ihlala indiphazamisa.
Kufuneka ndikhumbule ukuba ndingubani.
ifunwa kwaye ifunwa ngabanye.
Ekuphela kwendlela yokwenza oku.
Oku kuzama ukuzixolela
xa uqaphela
ezichonga abo bathe ukongeza.
umtsalane wam wokwenyani zezo.
abafanele ukuba yinxalenye yobomi bam.
Njengoko inkungu iphakamisa ngakumbi nangakumbi yonke imihla.
Ndicinga ukuba ndiza kuzifumana iindlela zam kwakhona.
Ezinye nje iziqhuma ngaphezulu kule.
isitalato bathi bubomi.
Umthombo: Vicki A. Zinn
Indlela yokubhala uxolo olumnandi
Ndiyaxolisa ngokukuhoya qho xa ufika kum.
Ndiyaxolisa ngokuziqhawula kuwe.
Uxolo ndithathe indlela elula kakhulu endaweni yokuphakamisa umba kwaye ndiwuxoxe nawe.
Ndiyayivuma impazamo yam kwaye ndiyaxolisa nangokuba kunzima kuwe ukuhoya.
Ndiyavuma ndaziphatha njengegwala, namhlanje ndenze isigqibo sokuba siphelise kwaye sisombulule iingxaki zethu.
Ukuba uye wagqiba ekubeni uyeke, ke esi sisipho esimangalisayo kuwe.
Uzenzela wena kunye noxolo lwakho lwangaphakathi.
Xa ufumana uxolo ngaphakathi kuwe, uya kufumana uxolo emhlabeni.
