Igqityelwe ukuhlaziya ngoMeyi 31, 2022 ngu URoger Kaufman
Uthando luthetha ukukwazi ukuyeka
imfezeko
Ukufezeka kudla ngokufuneka ukuze ufikelele usukelo. Koku kulandelayo, into akufunekanga yenzelwe oku kuphela, kodwa ibalulekile kwaye ngenxa yesi sizathu kufuneka yenziwe kakuhle kakhulu.
Kunye nabanye Ukunyusa "caba ngokugqibeleleyo“. Sisoloko silinganiswa ngokuchasene nale ngqibelelo kubomi bemihla ngemihla.
Kwintsapho, emsebenzini, ngokubambisana, kuluntu, emsebenzini wokuzithandela nakwimidlalo, sihlangabezana neemfuno eziphezulu.
Kufuneka sifezekise into ethile kwaye sihlangabezane neenjongo, ngokusemthethweni nangasese. Ngelishwa, ezi akusoloko zinjongo zethu, esisisukela ngokugqibeleleyo.
iinjongo isenokungabi yeyokwenene, okanye yenziwe nzima ngakumbi ziimpembelelo zangaphandle esingenako ukuzilawula. Ukufezeka kunokusigulisa.
Kule meko, ukuyeka ukugqibelela kumanyathelo alula kubalulekile.
imfezeko ithi
Kungcono ukwenza izigqibo ezingafezekanga kunokusoloko ukhangela izigqibo ezigqibeleleyo ezingasayi kuze zifike. -UCharles de Gaulle
Kodwa ukuba sikholelwa ukuba sithi kuphela xa yonke into iphelele, kumntu wonke ixesha kwaye kuyo yonke indawo, asinakukwazi ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zethu.
Ngenxa yoko, kufuneka siyeke ukugqibelela.
Abo bafezekileyo badla ngokuphelelwa lithemba kuba kusoloko kukho into esenokuphuculwa.
Ugcino alwenziwa okwangoku.
Umsebenzi ovela kumphathi awukagqitywa, nangona sele uphelile.
Ukuvolontiya kuyasigqiba, kodwa siyaqhubeka nangona sifuna ukuphumla nokukhuselwa.
Safunda sisengabantwana ukuba sifanele sifezeke ukuze sikwazi geliebter ukubayi.
Akukho mntu wasifundisa ukuba siyeke imfezeko.
Izincomo zinikezelwa kwimisebenzi egqitywe ngokugqibeleleyo.
Ichazwe ngokwahlukileyo, ngaba sizaliswe yimfezeko? Ngaba sinokuyiyeka imfezeko?
Ngaba unokuyeka ukugqibelela ngamanyathelo alula?
Xa ukuthanda ukwenza izinto ngendlela egqibeleleyo kukwenza ugule
Ukufuna ukwenza into entle okanye ukufumana izinto ezininzi akusenzi sigule.
Ukufuna ukwenza izinto ngendlela egqibeleleyo, kwelinye icala, kuthetha ukunganeliseki, ukungagqibi, ukusoloko uphikisana nawe, yaye oko kunokukugulisa.
Akuyompilo ukuhlala ujonga umsebenzi osele wenziwe okanye ufuna ukuwuphucula ngakumbi.
Emsebenzini okanye kwintsapho, uzama ukukholisa wonke umntu, ukuzalisekisa zonke iimfuno kunye neminqweno, kwaye uzilibale kwinkqubo.
Uhlala uzixakekisa kwaye ulahlekelwe zizinto ezibalulekileyo ngenxa yokugqithiswa.
Awunakuphinda usebenze ngokuphambili kunye nokufaneleka, kodwa zama ukugcina ufezekise yonke into.
Nangexesha lakho lokuphumla awuphumli.
Oku kudala uxinzelelo olubi olunokusitshabalalisa, ngokwasengqondweni nasemzimbeni. Emva koko kufuneka siyeke ukugqibelela kwaye lixesha lokutshintsha ukuziphatha okufundiweyo.
iimpembelelo zangaphandle
Kukho iimeko esingenako ukuzilawula nokuzicwangcisa ngokwethu.
Ukugula, ingozi, ilahleko enye lieben umntu, yonke le nto ingakhokelela ekubeni sixabane nathi.
Iimpembelelo zangaphandle zinokusithintela ekufikeleleni usukelo esizibekele lona okanye olubekwe ngabanye.
Ngamaxesha anje, ngokuzenzekelayo sizama ukwenza yonke into kakuhle, ngokugqibeleleyo, ukuze sitshintshe imeko.
Kodwa asinakuyisingatha le meko ilishwa ukutshintsha, kwaye le dichotomy ikwenza ugule.
Emva koko kufuneka uyeke ukugqibelela. Siza kukubonisa indlela: yeka ukugqibelela ngamanyathelo alula.
uthando nokufuna imfezeko
Zininzi izinto esizenzayo ngenxa yokuba sithanda abanye okanye kuba siwuthanda umsebenzi wethu.
Ukuthanda abantu kunokusikhuthaza ukuba sifune ukwenzela abanye yonk’ into ukuze nabo benze kakuhle.
uthando ukusebenza kunokusihendela ekubeni sizixhaphaze size sisoloko sisenza okungakumbi kunoko kufunwa ngokwenene.
Ii-freelancers zidla ngokuhlala zifuna ukuba ngcono kwaye zigqibelele.
Kubonakala ngathi akukho ndlela yokuphuma kolu hambo lungenasiphelo. Woyisakala ngenxa yamabango akho.
Kodwa uthando akufunekanga luthethe ukulahlekelwa nguwe.
Uthando alufuni ukuba into yenziwe ngokugqibeleleyo, kungekhona kwintsebenziswano kunye nosapho, okanye emsebenzini okanye kumsebenzi wokuzithandela.
Uthando luthetha ukupha, kodwa uthando aluthethi ukupha ngaphezu kokuba unako. Uthando aluthethi ukuncama isiqu sakho. Xa into yenziwe ngothando, yenziwa kakuhle kwaye akuyomfuneko ukuba igqibelele.
Uthando lukwathetha ukuba awulunganga kuphela kwabanye, kodwa nakuwe.
Ukuthanda kuthetha ukuyeka ukugqibelela.
Yeka ukugqibelela kwaye uzithande
Safundiswa ukuba umntu uyathandeka kwaye ulungile xa efezekile.
Ukuba into esiyenzayo ichaza ukubaluleka kwethu hayi into esiyiyo.
Lo mgaqo uphazamisana nokuzithanda kwethu nokuzihlonela.
Kufuneka siyiyeke le ngqibelelo ukuze sonwabe kwaye saneliseke.
Ukuyeka ukugqibelela kumanyathelo alula kuyindlela eya kulonwabo kunye nemvisiswano.
Ukuyeka ukugqibelela kuthetha ukuzifumana, ulungile kuwe, kwaye ke ulungile nakwabanye kwaye ufezekise izinto ezininzi ngaphandle komzamo.
Uxinzelelo oluninzi, iimfuno eziphezulu kakhulu zilawula ubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla.
Ngamanye amazwi, siyoyika ukungazifikeleli iimfuneko kwaye ngokufuthi senze ngaphezu koko kufunekayo.
Ngapha koko, sizama ukwenza yonk’ into ngaxeshanye nokuba sifezeke kubomi bangasese. Kufuneka siyeke ukugqibelela ukuze singatshi.
Ngoko ke, simele sifunde ebusweni bayo ukuba kwanele ukwenza into kakuhle kangangoko sinako, yaye singasoloko sifuna ukwenza ngcono.
Yiyeke imfezeko - isebenza njani?
Ukuyeka imfezeko kumanyathelo alula yindlela esa kulonwabo ngokwaneliseka kunye nokuzaliseka, ubukho obukhululekile.
Abantu abagqibeleleyo abahlali apha kwaye ngoku. Awuwonwabeli ixesha. Bahlala beswele into, bahlala befumana into engafezekanga.
Bazabalazela usukelo olungenakufikeleleka abangenakulufikelela baze baphelelwe lithemba kulo.
Ukuyeka imfezeko kumanyathelo alula kuthetha ukuba kuqala kuzo zonke uzamkele njengoko unjalo.
Ngokungafezeki kunye neentsilelo.
Ukuba ucinga ngabanye obathandayo, kudla ngokuba bubuthathaka obuncinane obenza umntu athandeke kwaye akhetheke.
Le yindlela ekufuneka sifunde ukuzibona ngayo.
Asifezekanga, kodwa siyathandeka.
Asisoloko sikwazi ukwenza yonke into, kodwa siyakwazi ukwenza kakuhle kwaye abanye bayasithanda.
Ukuyeka imfezeko kufuna ukuzazi, sibe nengqiqo ngeziqu zethu, kwaye sizithande.
Ukuyeka imfezeko kumanyathelo alula akuthethi ukuba awufuni ukuphumeza nantoni na okanye ukulahla ngokupheleleyo usukelo.
Kunoko, kuthetha ukubeka usukelo ngendlela yokuba nikwazi ukulufikelela nize nithandane ukuba usukelo alufikelelwanga ngenxa yeemeko zangaphandle.
Inkxaso yobomi ngokusebenzisa abacebisi
Uninzi lwezikhokelo zifuna ukuba ukholelwe ukuba ukuyeka ukugqibelela kunzima.
Ukuba kufuneka uye kwizifundo, uthenge iincwadi zokuzinceda ezibiza kakhulu kwaye usebenze nzima kakhulu kuwe.
Esikhundleni sokususa uxinzelelo, abacebisi abanjalo benza uxinzelelo olutsha.
Emva kokufunda loo macebiso, umntu ofuna ukwenza izinto ngendlela egqibeleleyo uvakalelwa kukuba kufuneka enze okungakumbi, azibhokoxe ngakumbi, aze abe nembopheleleko yokuyeka imfezeko.
Abanye bacebisa ukuba ezintlanu zithe tye. Kodwa umntu ogqibeleleyo akakwazi ukwenza oko kanye, eli cebiso alincedi.
Ikhokelela kwisiphelo esifileyo. Kanye njengengcebiso yokuvumela umphefumlo wakho ujinga.
imfezeko kodwa ukuyeka ukuhamba ngamanyathelo alula kuthetha enye into.
Kuthetha ukwakha uxinzelelo oluncinci. Ukuvumela umphefumlo nomoya ukuba uphumle. Ukuphumla.
Ukukwazi ukunikezela uxanduva lwento komnye umntu, nokuba kusentsatsheni, emsebenzini, kumbutho okanye ngokuzithandela.
Udinga intembeko esisiseko nabanye abafuna ukuyenza kwaye banokwenza into kakuhle.
Kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukuqiniseka ukuba uya kuthandwa kwaye waziwe nokuba awuyityhala imida yakho yonke imihla.
Uthando luthetha - iingcebiso ezichasene nokugqibelela
Ukuzithanda thina nabanye kufuneka kusithintele ekubambeleleni ekufuneni izinto ezigqibeleleyo size sizilahlekise ngokwenza okungapheliyo.
Nabani na otshisayo kwaye ajikeleze njenge-hamster kwi-cage ubona izinto ezibalulekileyo, akasaboni uthando.
Xa ucinezelekile ngokupheleleyo kwaye ugxininiswe kukufuna ukugqibelela, awukwazi ukuba liqabane elilungileyo, umzali, umhlobo osondeleyo, okanye umntu osebenza naye.
Xa ubanjwe kukunyathela kubomi bemihla ngemihla, kufuneka ulunge kwaye uzicingele, wenze into entle kuwe ukuze ukwazi ukutshaja iibhetri zakho ukuze ube khona kwabanye.
Ngaba uyathandabuza ukuba unokuyeka imfezeko?
Siyakuxelela: ukuyeka ukugqibelela kunokwenzeka ngamanyathelo alula.
Sikwathi: Ukuyeka ukugqibelela kumanyathelo alula kubalulekile kwaye kuluncedo ukuze uphumle kuwe kwisiphithiphithi sobomi banamhlanje kwaye ukhululeke kwaye ulungile.
Emva koko unokunika abanye amandla okulandela kunye nokudala ngamanyathelo alula, njengoko uyeka indlela yokuxhobisa kwimfezeko.
Yiyeke imfezeko-nantsi indlela esebenza ngayo:
- qaphela umthwalo omninzi
- Ukuqaphela kunye nokulungisa usukelo olungenakufikeleleka
- Zilumkele
- ukuncama uxanduva
- Uziphathe kakuhle
- ziphathe kakuhle kwabanye
- Ukuyibeka ngokuchanekileyo, funa ukwenza imisebenzi kakuhle, kodwa ungasoloko ugqibelele
- Zenze uqaphele ngakumbi ukuba usathandwa kwaye uyathandwa nokuba wenza iimpazamo
- Ukwazi ukuba uxabisekile, ngendlela, nokuba awukwazi ukwenza yonke into
- Kunoko, ukwazi ukuba usezandleni ezilungileyo, nokuba kukho into engahambi kakuhle
- Okokugqibela, ukuqaphela ukuba kukho izinto eziphazamisayo esingenako ukuziphembelela kwaye zithintela into ukuba ifezeke
- Ukuthabatha ikhefu ngaphambi kokuba unyanzelwe ukuba ukwenze oko ngokugula okanye ngokungenelela kwabanye
Uyabona, ukuyeka imfezeko kuyenzeka ngamanyathelo alula. Inkqubo Vumela ukuhamba ngokugqibeleleyo kumanyathelo alula kukukhokelela kuyo nayiphi na imeko ukuba uzithande kwaye uthandeke kwabanye.
Ukubeka ngobuhle ngakumbi, kukuxhobisa ukuba ufezekise okuninzi ngenxa yeso sizathu, kodwa ngamanye amazwi musa ukuba buhlungu ukuba oko kuphunyeziweyo akugqibelelanga.
Ukuyeka ukugqibelela kumanyathelo alula yindlela ekhokelela ekuphumeni kwi-spiral ye-internal perfectionism kunye neemfuno zangaphandle kubomi obuzimeleyo, obuzalisekileyo kunye nothando.
Ingcaciso yokufuna imfezeko
ukuthanda izinto ngendlela egqibeleleyo lulwakhiwo lwengqondo oluzama ukucacisa ukubaxa ukusebenzela eyona mfezeko inokwenzeka kunye nokuphepha iimpazamo.
Inkcazo efanayo ayikho; Amaqela ophando achonge imiba emininzi yolwakhiwo.
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