Igqityelwe ukuvuselelwa nge-30 kaJanuwari 2022 ngu URoger Kaufman
Ukuyeka ukuhamba - ukukhupha umsindo kunye nokuphoxeka
Phendla inyaniso ngaphakathi kwakho ngokulula Ukuyeka ukuzilolonga kubantu abagqithisileyo ubundlongondlongo yekela:
Ubundlobongela obugqithisileyo yekela - umthambo olula wokukunceda ukhulule amandla kunye neemvakalelo ezibanjiweyo.
Ukuba wonganyelwe ziimvakalelo ongakwaziyo ukuzibamba, unokuthatha umqamelo okanye itawuli esongelweyo kwaye uyisonge ngokuqinileyo ngezandla zombini.
Yenza ingxolo ngelixa usenza, ukuba oko akunakwenzeka, vele uthi “Ndiyafuna” okanye “andifuni”.
- Phefumla ngokunzulu ngeempumlo zakho, esiswini sakho nakwindawo yesifuba
- emva koko ukhuphe i-3 amaxesha ngokugqabhuka
- Phinda lo mthambo wokuphefumla ude uzive ukhululekile kwakhona, uvaleleke njengentshukumo enamandla indoda fühlt
das iyacaphukisa Into yomsindo kukuba uyazenzakalisa ngaphandle kokunceda abanye.
Kurt Tucholsky
Kuya kufuneka udlule amancinci ngokusebenzisaoko kukucaphukisa, kodwa uhlala ufumana indlela yakho ukuya kwiingcamango ezinkulu ezikomelezayo.
UDietrich Bonhoeffer
IziCwangciso zokuLwa uMsindo – Ukuyeka ukuhlasela ngokugqithisileyo
Umsindo usenzakalisa thina kunye nenkqubo yethu yomzimba yokuzikhusela. Ngoko ke, sinokufuna ukufunda ukusebenzisana nayo “ngobuchule” ngakumbi ngenxa yempilo yethu.
Kwiminyaka yakhe emine yomsebenzi, uVera F. Birkenbihl uye waphuhlisa ubutyebi beendlela zokulwa nomsindo ezivavanyiweyo. Ubundlobongela obugqithisileyo yekela, ungayenza loo nto?
NJANI ONGAKUKHO ukothuka ngoku | Musa ukuba lixhoba | Ukuchasa umsindo | Vera F. Birkenbihl
U-Vera F. Birkenbihl ubonisa indlela ongabi yi-VICTIM ngamaxesha oxinzelelo, kodwa endaweni yoko unokubuyisela AMANDLA phezu kobomi bakho ngezicwangciso ezichanekileyo zengqondo
Ukufunda ngekamva uAndreas K. Giermaier
I-Wikipedia ichaza umsindo ngale ndlela
inkathazo, kananjalo ukudandatheka, yinto ezenzekelayo, yangaphakathi, i-negative-emotional reaction (ichaphazela) kwimeko engathandekiyo okanye engathandekiyo, umntu okanye imemori.
Yiloo nto ebangela ingxaki - loo nto inkathazo - inokuba yinto ephazamisayo, mhlawumbi sisithuko. Ukuvuswa kolu vakalelo ngabanye kubizwa ngokuba ukucaphukisa ukubizwa.
Umsindo uchaza iqela elipheleleyo leemvakalelo ezingalunganga ezinokuba namanqanaba ahlukeneyo okuvuselela kunye nokuqina.
Olona hlobo lunamandla ngumsindo (kwakhona “nobushushu”), obungafane buhlale bufihliwe komnye umntu ngenxa yokuziphatha ndlongo (ngaphandle kokuba mhlawumbi... umsindo ongenamandla).
Iindlela ezingaphantsi komsindo womsindo ukungakhululeki, ukungonwabi okanye ukungonwabi. Ezi Iimvakalelo zinje ngaphakathi Iimpendulo zisuka nje zizenzekele kwaye azinakuthintelwa.
Kwibutho labantu, ukuba nomsindo kudla ngokugqalwa njengobungenabuchule.
Ngokukodwa kwiinkcubeko ezihlangeneyo ezifana neChina, ukuphulwa komthetho wokuvisisana, umzekelo ngokubonisa umsindo kunye nomsindo, kukhokelela "ekulahlekelweni kobuso". NgesiNgesi, into encinci ekwenza ukhathazeke ngokungafanelekanga ngenxa yobuntununtunu ibizwa ngokuba yi-pet peeve.
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