Ukujongana neempazamo-Ukubona yonke into

Igqityelwe ukuhlaziya ngoAprili 18, 2022 ngu URoger Kaufman

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Ibhabhathane Lebhongo

Ibhabhathane lambiza ngendelelo lathi: “Ungathini ukuzenza ubonwe kufutshane nam? Mke nawe! Yabona, ndimhle njengelanga, ndikhazimla; amaphiko am andithwala phezulu esibhakabhakeni, wena urhubuluza emhlabeni. Mke, asinanto yakwenza nomnye!"

“Ibhongo lakho, unemibala eqaqambileyo ibhabhathane, akubi nguwe,” waphendula ngelizolileyo umbungu.

“Yonke imibala yakho ayikuniki lungelo lokundidelela. Siyazalana kwaye siyakuhlala sizalana ngoku uyazigculela. Kanti abantwana bakho abayi kuba ziinkumbi njengam nawe?!"

Ukujongana neempazamo zengqondo

Izitshixo ezi-3 zokujongana neempazamo

Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokwakha ukuthembana kukuphatha iimpazamo njengento efunyenweyo.

1. Zivume iimvakalelo zakho

Nangona siqonda ngokwasengqondweni ukuba ukungaphumeleli kunokuba ngamava okuqonda, akusemnandi.

Ithini into yokuqala oyenzayo xa imeko ingahambi njengoko ubucetyiwe?

Khangela ngokwasengqondweni ezinye okanye zonke ezisebenzayo.

• Ngokuqhelekileyo ndikhangela umntu okanye into enokusola.
• Ndidla ngokuzibek’ ityala.
• Ndiyakuphepha ukucinga ngento eyenzekayo.
• Ndiyazintyintya, ndichitha kakhulu, ndisebenzisa izinto ezininzi, ndiyaphazamisa

Kungokwemvelo ukufuna ukuphepha ukuziva ungakhululekanga.

Kodwa ukubaleka kubangela ukubandezeleka okungakumbi.

Kwakhona, ukuvala iimvakalelo zakho kunokukhokelela ekuphatheni okungaphantsi kwamava, oku kuthetha ukuba awufumani nto ingako.

Ithath ababini inkalipho, ungabi ndindisholo kwaye uve ngenene amava.

Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo, ihlala isengqiqweni ukuthatha ikhefu kwaye uziphazamise xa uxinezelekile.

Kukuzinyamekela kakuhle oko.

Kodwa musa ukuhlala ixesha elide kangako; qonda xa ilixesha lokunika iimvakalelo zakho ikhaya.

2. Musa ukuzibiza njengokusilela

Isibakala sokuba wenze impazamo ayithethi ukuba usilele njengomntu.

Isiliphu sisenzo okanye isehlo.

Ukuthi woyisakele kukuzigweba ngokugqithisileyo.

Isaziso ngolu phuhliso lurhanelwayo:

• Ndenza iimpazamo ezininzi kuviwo.
• Andiluphumelelanga uvavanyo.
• Ndingumntu olahlekileyo.

Endaweni yoko, indlela enempilo yokujonga oku iya kuba:

• Ndenza iimpazamo ezininzi kuviwo.
• Andiluphumelelanga uvavanyo.
• Kufuneka ndithethe noProfessor ndize neqhinga.

Cinga ngexesha apho "wasilela" kwinto ethile.

Ungalihlela ibali ukuze uqiniseke ukuba awuzigwebi njengomntu?

3. Gcina uburharha

Kwindibano yocweyo yeengcali zengqondo malunga nendlela yokujongana nokunikezelwa kweembono zeengcali enkundleni. Uninzi lwabantu luyoyika malunga nombono wokunika ubungqina enkundleni kwaye enye yeenjongo zenkcazo-ntetho yayikukuqhelanisa imarike ekujoliswe kuyo kanye ngendlela yokujongana nemibuzo enokubakhubekisa.

Umsasazi, isazi ngengqondo esaziwayo nobungqina benkundla yamashumi eminyaka, uthi wayesabuza imibuzo awayengazi ukuba ayiphendule njani.

Umsasazi obalulekileyo ngaphambili waphakamisa iingalo zakhe waphinda wathi, "Ndingathini? Ndingumntu wobuxoki!"