Igqityelwe ukuvuselelwa ngoJuni 8, 2022 ngu URoger Kaufman
Iinketho ezahlukeneyo - ukuyeka iimpazamo kunye neempazamo zothando
Ndikuvumela ukuba uhambe emhlabeni ngaphandle kokugweba izenzo zakho.
Andiziboni izinto ozithethayo okanye ozenzayo njengeziphoso okanye iimpazamo, ndiyabona ukuba zininzi iindlela zokujonga kunye namava kwihlabathi lethu.
Andiwenzi nanye into - kuba ukuba bendikuhlutha ilungelo lakho lokukhula, bendiya kwenza okufanayo kum nakwabanye abantu.
USandy Stevenson
Ukuyeka uthando
Xa ulwalamano luphela, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ulushiye olwakho Ex-uthando yiba nentiyo engaqhelekanga kubo - ngakumbi ukuba ibingenguwe ozimisele ukuyiphelisa.
Mhlawumbi waziva wonwabile ngokwenene ekuqaleni, njengaye ubudlelwane Ukuncedile ukuya phambili.
Nangona kunjalo, emva kwexesha elithile uyaqonda ukuba oku akusekho kuwe, kwaye awuqinisekanga ukuba unokushiya njani umntu omthandayo. yekela kwaye ufuna ukuqhubeka nobomi bakho.
Iimvakalelo ezingafunekiyo zichaphazela impilo yakho yengqondo kunye nomzimba - Umsindo ikwanxulunyaniswa nesifo sentliziyo - kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuba nefuthe kubudlelwane bakho bexesha elizayo.
Ukuqaphela ezi zenzo njengezingafanelekanga kukuqala Inyathelo kwinkqubo yokukhulula.
Ukuba uzama ukufumana impendulo ehambelana nento omawuyenze ngokulandelayo, okwangoku ukwindlela elungileyo.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba njengoko ufumanisa ukuba ungayiyeka njani i-ex yakho, unokufumana kwakhona indlela yokulawula iimvakalelo zakho kunye nawe. ndonwabe ngakumbi unokuziva.
Ukuba ufuna ukufunda indlela yokuyeka umntu ahambe, unokufumana abanye mathuba kunye neemeko apho unokukwazi ukuqhubela phambili.
Amanyathelo ama-6 okuyeka uthando lwakho lwangaphambili
1. Thetha nomntu omthembileyo
Ukugcina iimvakalelo zakho kuwe kuya kukugcina ubambekile kwaye kunokukuguqula uloyiko.
Thetha nomhlobo oxhasayo, ilungu losapho, okanye ugqirha malunga nendlela oziva ngayo kwaye uvumele ukuba abe khona kuwe ngexesha lakho lesidingo.
2. Chonga iinkolelo ezisikelwe umda
xa Izimvo ngathi "Andinakuze ndibe ndedwa" okanye "Andisoze ndifumane umntu ondithandayo" ihamba ngentloko yakho, uyaqonda ukuba unciphisa iingcamango eziya kukuthintela ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ufumane into entsha.
Tshintshela ngezimvo ezixhobisayo ezinje ngokuba "ndivuleleke kwinto endigcinelwe yona" kunye "Ndiyazithanda kwaye ndikufanele okona kulungileyo."
Oku kuya kukunceda ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uyekele ngaphandle koloyiko.
3. Hlala kude nemidiya yoluntu
Ukufunda indlela yokuyeka umntu omthandayo kuba nzima ngakumbi ukuba uhlala ufumanisa ngaye.
Nangona imidiya yoluntu yindlela enye yokudibanisa ne-ex uthando Ukuhlala ninxibelelana kuchasene noko kufunekayo xa nisahlukana.
Ukuhlala kude nemidiya yoluntu ngexesha lenkqubo yakho yokuphilisa kuya kukuvumela ukuba uphumle kwaye ungahlali ukhunjuzwa nge-ex yakho uthando khumbuza.
4. Hamba wedwa
das ILoslassen kwaye ukushiya ubudlelwane kunokuba luxinzelelo.
Eli asiloxesha lokuzibetha okanye lokungahoyi iminqweno yakho.
Ukuba uziphatha kakuhle kwaye uthathe ixesha lokuthandana nawe, uya kuphilisa ngokupheleleyo kwaye unokuba sempilweni kunokuba ubunjalo ngaphambi kokuba ubudlelwane buqale.
Lonwabela unyango lwe-massage okanye omnye umsebenzi wokuphumla, yenza imisebenzi yokuzonwabisa ... glucklich yenza, kwaye ugxininise ekufumaneni ulwaneliseko ngaphandle kokuba yinxalenye yesibini.
5. Zilungiselele
Ukuhlala ebhedini imini yonke kwaye nokuhlala kude nabahlobo abalungileyo nababathandayo kwenza oko ILoslassen kwaye kuqhubeka nzima ngakumbi.
Qala usuku lwakho ngesiko elikhuthazayo lasekuseni elibandakanya imisebenzi efana nokucamngca, i-yoga, okanye ijuggling.
Phakama uzivumele utotoswe.
Ivolontiya ngomsebenzi omtsha kraca emsebenzini. Mema umhlobo osenyongweni kwisidlo sasemini okanye eselwayo.
Ukuba uhlala usebenza, unokuziphazamisa ngokukhuselekileyo ekuhlukaneni kwaye uvumele amanxeba akho ukuba aphile.
6. Zinike ixesha lokuyeka uthando lwakho lwangaphambili
Nokuba uyayiqonda indlela omphatha ngayo umntu yekela Ukuba ungayifumana oyithandayo kwaye ulandele onke amanyathelo, ungalindeli ukuba uzive ungcono kwangoko.
Usizi luqhelekile kwaye kufuneka uzivumele ixesha eliyimfuneko lokuziva iimvakalelo zakho.
Ziphathe ngovelwano kwaye ungavumeli nabani na ukuba akucinezele ukuba "uphumelele nje."
Ukuvumela ukuhamba kothando olukhulu - ukuphela kobudlelwane - ukuthanda ukuyeka
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bona okulungileyo
Ukujongana ngempumelelo neempazamo
Imifanekiso yabantwana ngesihloko sokhuseleko
Kodwa abantwana bafuna ukuvavanywa, bafuna ukulinganiswa. Mhlawumbi izinto zahlukile kubantwana kuphela? Ngovavanyo sidlulisela iinqobo kwaye ke "inkcubeko". Umntwana angayibona njani impazamo ukuba asiyibonisi kubazali/kubakhathaleli/ootitshala? Imfundo ithetha ukulwa hayi ukungakhathali. Kum, isichasi sokungakhathali kukuthatha ukuma.
@Jan Kaminsky, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngakumbi kwiimeko ezisongela ubomi.
Ndiyavuma, umfanekiso ofakwe ngasentla unika umfanekiso onokucinga ngawo.
Ndithathe inkululeko yokongeza umfanekiso owongezelelweyo ngezantsi.
Ewe, ndiyabancedisa abantwana bethu ababini, endivumeleke ukuba bakhule, ukuba bayafuna, ndibona iimpazamo njengenkqubo yokufunda.
Iimpazamo ziyinxalenye yenkqubo yokufunda kwaye ke ngoko zibaluleke kakhulu kubantwana bethu, kodwa abazali bahlala bengenelela kule nkqubo yokufunda baze ngaloo ndlela bathintele isakhono sabantwana sokuzibanga.