Chikondi Chopanda malire | Mawu ochokera ku Virginia Satir

Zasinthidwa komaliza pa Seputembara 7, 2022 ndi Roger Kaufman

Virginia Satir anali psychotherapist waku America komanso mpainiya mu upangiri wabanja.

Amawerengedwa kuti ndi m'modzi mwa anthu omwe ali ndi chidwi kwambiri ndi psychotherapy ndipo amadziwika ndi ntchito yake yokhudzana ndi chikondi chopanda malire.

Chikondi chopanda malire ndi mtundu wa chikondi chomwe chilibe malire.

M’malo mwake, ndi mtundu wachikondi umene umakhalapo basi—wopanda tsankho ndi wopanda malire.

Chikondi chopanda malire ndi njira yabwino yopangira chikhulupiriro. Ngati mumatha kulandira chikondi chopanda malire, ndiye kuti mumathanso kupereka.

Izi zitha kupanga kusiyana kwakukulu mu ubale wanu popeza tsopano mukutha kulumikizana ndikumanga chikhulupiriro pamlingo wozama.

Chikondi chamtundu umenewu kaŵirikaŵiri chimaonedwa kuti ndicho chikondi chapamwamba koposa chifukwa chakuti sichimasonkhezeredwa ndi ziyembekezo kapena mikhalidwe.

Wokongola Virginia Satir mawu onena za chikondi chopanda malire

Mmodzi mwa mawu ake odziwika bwino, tiyenera kuganizira zomwe akufuna kutiuza za chikondi.

ndikukufuna lieben, popanda kukupanikizani.
Ndikufuna kukuthokozani popanda kukuweruzani.
Ndikufuna kukutengani mozama osadzipereka pa chilichonse.
Ndikufuna kubwera kwa inu osadzikakamiza ndekha.
Ndikufuna kukuitanani popanda kukukakamizani chilichonse.
Ndikufuna kukupatsani china chake popanda kuphatikizirapo ziyembekezo zilizonse kwa icho.
Ndikufuna kukusanzika osasowa chilichonse chofunikira.

Ndikufuna kugawana nanu zakukhosi kwanga popanda kukuimbani mlandu.
Ndikufuna kukudziwitsani popanda kukuphunzitsani.
Ndikufuna kukuthandizani popanda kukukhumudwitsani.
Ndikufuna kukusamalirani osafuna kukusinthani.
Ndikufuna kukhala wokondwa mwa inu monga momwe muliri.
Ngati ine ndingapeze zomwezo kwa inu
ndiye titha kukumanadi ndikulemeretsa wina ndi mzake.

Quote Virginia Satyr