Kuchita ndi Zolakwa - Kuwona Zonse

Zasinthidwa komaliza pa Epulo 18, 2022 ndi Roger Kaufman

Nthano yochokera ku Africa - kuthana ndi Fehler

Gulugufe wonyada

Gulugufeyo anamuuza mwachipongwe kuti: “Kodi mungatani kuti ndikuoneni pafupi ndi ine? Kutali ndi inu! Taonani, ndine wokongola ndi wonyezimira ngati dzuwa, ndipo mapiko anga amandinyamulira ine mumlengalenga pamene inu mukukwawa padziko lapansi. Kutali, tilibe chochita ndi wina ndi mnzake!

“Kunyada kwako, wokongola gulugufe“Sizikuwoneka bwino kwa iwe,” chimbalangacho chinayankha modekha.

“Kukongola kwako konse sikukukupatsa ufulu wondinyoza. Ndife abale ndikukhalabe, ndiye ukudzinyoza wekha, sunali mbozi? Ndipo ana ako sadzakhala mbozi ngati iwe ndi ine?!”

Kuthana ndi zolakwika za psychology

3 makiyi othana ndi zolakwa

Imodzi mwa njira zabwino zopangira chidaliro ndikuwona zolephera monga zochitika zodziwikiratu.

1. Zindikirani mmene mukumvera

Ngakhale kuti timamvetsetsa mwanzeru kuti kulephera kungakhale chidziwitso chomvetsetsa, komabe sizosangalatsa.

Kodi mumatani ngati zinthu sizikuyenda momwe munakonzera?

Yang'anani mwamalingaliro chilichonse kapena zonse zomwe zikugwira ntchito.

• Nthawi zambiri ndimayang'ana munthu kapena china chake cholakwa.
• Nthawi zambiri ndimakonda kudziimba mlandu.
• Ndimapewa kuganizira zomwe zinachitika.
• Ndimadzisamalira ndekha, ndimawononga ndalama zambiri, ndimagwiritsa ntchito zinthu zambiri, ndimadzisokoneza

N’kwachibadwa kukhala ndi cholinga chopewa maganizo oipa.

Koma kuzembera kumadzetsa mavuto owonjezereka.

Kuphatikiza apo, kuletsa zomverera zanu kumatha kupangitsa kuti musamagwire bwino kwambiri, kutanthauza kuti simupeza zambiri.

Zi kulimba mtima, kuti asachite dzanzi komanso kuti amvedi zomwe zikuchitika.

Ndipo zedi, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zomveka kuti mupume ndikudzisokoneza mukakhumudwa.

Uku ndikudzisamalira bwino.

Koma musakhale kutali kwa nthawi yayitali; mvetsetsani ikafika nthawi yopereka malingaliro anu kunyumba.

2. Osadzitcha kuti ndinu wolephera

Mfundo yakuti munalakwitsa sikutanthauza kuti ndinu munthu wolephera.

Kuterereka ndizochitika kapena zochitika.

Kunena kuti ndinu wolephera ndi kudzidzudzula kwambiri.

Chidziwitso chakukula kokayikiridwa:

• Ndinalakwitsa zinthu zingapo pamayeso.
• Ndinalephera mayeso.
• Ndine woluza.

M'malo mwake, njira yabwino yowonera izi ingakhale:

• Ndinalakwitsa zingapo panthawi ya mayeso.
• Ndinalephera mayeso.
• Ndiyenera kulankhula ndi pulofesa ndikupanga njira.

Ganizilani za nthawi imene “munali operewera” pa chinachake.

Kodi mungakonzenso nkhaniyo kuti muwonetsetse kuti simudziweruza nokha ngati munthu?

3. Khalani ndi nthabwala

Pamsonkhano wama psychotherapist amomwe mungathanirane ndikupereka malingaliro a akatswiri kukhothi. Anthu ambiri ali ndi mantha kwambiri ndi lingaliro lokachitira umboni kukhothi, ndipo chimodzi mwazolinga za ulalikiwo chinali kudziwa msika womwe ukuyembekezeredwa ndi momwe angayankhire mafunso omwe angawakhumudwitse.

Wowonetsa, katswiri wazamisala wodziwika bwino yemwe ali ndi umboni wamilandu kwazaka zambiri, adati adafunsabe mafunso omwe samadziwa momwe angayankhire.

Wowonetsa m'mbuyomu adakweza manja ake ndikufuula kuti, "Ndinganene chiyani? Ndine munthu wolakwika!"