Soyayya Mara Sharadi | Magana daga Virginia Satir

An sabunta ta ƙarshe ranar 7 ga Satumba, 2022 ta Roger Kaufman

Virginia Satir kwararre ce ta Amurka kuma majagaba a cikin shawarwarin iyali.

Ana la'akari da ita daya daga cikin manyan mutane masu tasiri a cikin ilimin halin dan Adam kuma an santa da aikinta akan ƙauna marar iyaka.

Soyayya mara sharadi wani nau'i ne na soyayya wanda ba shi da wani sharadi.

Maimakon haka, wani nau'i ne na kauna da ke can kawai-marasa son zuciya kuma marar takura.

Soyayya mara sharadi babbar hanya ce ta gina amana. Idan kun sami damar karɓar ƙauna marar iyaka, hakan yana nufin ku ma kuna iya bayarwa.

Wannan na iya yin babban bambanci a cikin alaƙar ku yayin da kuke iya haɗawa da gina amana akan matakin zurfi.

Irin wannan nau'in soyayya galibi ana daukarsa a matsayin mafi girman nau'in soyayya saboda ba a yin tasiri da tsammanin ko yanayi.

Kyawawan magana ta Virginia Satir game da soyayya mara sharadi

Ɗaya daga cikin shahararrun maganganunta, ya kamata mu yi la'akari da abin da take so ta gaya mana game da soyayya.

Ina son ku lieben, ba tare da takura ka ba.
Ina so in gode muku ba tare da yanke hukunci ba.
Ina so in dauke ku da gaske ba tare da kun sadaukar da kanku ga komai ba.
Ina so in zo wurinku ba tare da na dora kaina a kanku ba.
Ina so in gayyace ku ba tare da yin wani buƙatu akan ku ba.
Ina so in ba ku wani abu ba tare da haɗa wani tsammanin zuwa gare shi ba.
Ina so in yi bankwana da ku ba tare da rasa wani muhimmin abu ba.

Ina so in gaya muku yadda nake ji ba tare da zargin ku ba.
Ina so in sanar da ku ba tare da na yi muku lecture ba.
Ina so in taimake ku ba tare da ɓata muku rai ba.
Ina so in kula da ku ba tare da son canza ku ba.
Ina so in yi farin ciki a cikin ku - kamar yadda kuke.
Idan zan iya samun irin wannan daga gare ku
to lallai za mu iya haduwa da wadatar juna.

Tace Virginia Satar