Last updated on April 18, 2022 by Roger Kaufman
What are the causes of not being able to let go
In many situations in our life we are advised to let go.
But that is easier said than done. But they are not let go causes can be varied.
"If you want to fly, you have to be able to let go of what pulls you down." - Unknown
Can't let go Causes: Children
A married couple gets one Kind.
The joy is huge.
In the beginning, this adorable creature is completely helpless and dependent on the care of its parents.
Especially the mother accompanies due to the natural strong bond her child very intensive.
Both parents are proud of every developmental step their child takes.
The time comes quickly when the little darling wants to do something alone.
It's hard for some people to do that Balance between the still required support and the independence of the child.
No one should be overprotective - that robs them of their ability to overcome difficulties.
Nor is it said to be neglected and abandoned the gelass become - this overwhelms the child and discourages him.
Added to this are the demands of relatives, friends and society to take care of the child.
All of that together can do it natural suffocating sense of the right behavior.
Our society is becoming more and more complex and there are dangers lurking in it natural peoples not exist: sockets, car traffic, toxic household cleaners, Sensory overload through pictures and films and much more.
Children therefore need much more and longer support than their development might require.
This is another reason why letting go of children is difficult.
When the children grow up, the next comes Let go.
Kindergarten and school have prepared the step.
The Kind spends more and more time away from their parents.
Eventually she moves out and starts a new family.
Thank mothers it's hardto let go of the darling.
One reason is that their job is gone for the child too care for.
The mother now has more free time time, because the work in the household has become less.
As long as the children were there, there was no time for personal interests.
By the time they grew up, their mother's own interests had also fallen into oblivion.
Getting back together as a couple is a challenge for many parents live and build a life of your own.
Therefore, they want to continue caring for the adult children.
For many women, caring for the family is still a matter of course today live and to care.
If this task falls away, they no longer have a purpose in life.
That makes it difficult for them Letting go of grown up children.
Can't let go Causes: work
In our society, work is part of life.
Most People spend 9 hours a day and more at work and on the way there.
Some activities are so strenuous and take them thoughts caught that the end of the day is spent doing housework and watching TV.
Work is the purpose of life – especially for men. you identify yourself stronger than the women about their job and work.
Four beget they get their recognition and live with their peers.
Many men, but also women, fall into a hole when they retire.
They are no longer needed. The years of routine and the structure of everyday life are gone.
What are they supposed to do with all that time?
You doubt if you really hear your inner voice
- You want more security in your perception
- You want to strengthen the connection to yourself
- You want to train your fine intuition
Who are you without your work?
In the case of unemployment, this is often even more intense, since the image of the idler and loser is added.
The letting go of work is so difficult because it has become part of the personality.
It takes up a large part of our lifetime.
We say that we are bakers and not that we work as bakers.
Letting go is only possible with a distance to professional activity.
Not being able to let go causes: things
The heart is in some things.
They are associated with special memories and make our lives pleasant.
Some items, such as a house, an expensive car, brilliant jewelry, and the like, indicate our (relatively) high position in society.
letting go of possessions is difficult, because it also determines our identity.
A rich one Man is better respected than a homeless person.
With the loss of possessions, reputation can also be lost.
The letting go of things can arouse existential fears because they were also a provision for times of need.
Added to this is the sadness because something beautiful is missing.
The reasons for not can let go are also determined by feelings.
The more emotional meaning is given to objects, the tighter one clings to them.
Can't let go Causes: Death
The great teacher in letting go is the Tod. When a person dies, the time of mourning begins.
Your individual phases are stages of letting go. Even if you don't want to admit it, fight it or sink into depression: the deceased will not come back.
There are many reasons why it is so difficult to let your loved one go.
There are the deep feelings of affection and of Love, which are now no longer answered.
The live is changing because joint activities are no longer available. The mourners experience loneliness that is difficult to bear.
Your own mortality pushes itself into consciousness.
people not in one Glauben anchored to the continued existence of souls face an even greater loss.
Basically, death is a taboo subject in our society
Friends, acquaintances and work colleagues do not know how to deal with the mourner.
Not only is the deceased missing, but also friends and acquaintances.
All of that makes it difficult Let go. The situation is difficult to bear.
At death, the finality of goodbye makes it particularly difficult to let go.
The longing for the loved one is great. He leaves a void in live.
Anyone who has a pet will at some point be faced with the difficult decision of having their animal put to sleep.
While there are clear signs when it is time for the loved one to leave.
For the owner, that means one of Love to let go That's difficult. The animal should neither suffer unnecessarily nor should it die too soon.
Our animals are patient and of unconditional of Love fulfilled to us humans.
Whenever man is ready, tread that Animal the rainbow way.
Letting go is particularly difficult here, because people are about life and Tod of his animal friend has to decide.
Not being able to let go Causes: Conclusion
Not them let go can Causes are varied.
They are connected to our feelings.
They weigh all the more heavily the more intense the emotional bond with people and the identification with tasks and things.
Therefore we can't just let go, even if the head understands that it would be better.