Last updated on February 28, 2021 by Roger Kaufman
Bringing your own behavior under control: No longer learning to let go of being angry
Impulsive people have a reputation for being honest and authentic. First of all, these are positive qualities that also prove themselves in dealing with people.
But sometimes impulsiveness is negative. if Rage, anger and ambition become so big that only a red wall appears in front of the inner eye, this leads to less than pleasant outbursts.
The keyword to cool down is to stop being angry – you can find out how here.
Reflective handling of emotions
Emotions are healthy. They serve to nurture the life of the soul. And so it's not bad at all Anger, anger, frustrations and other emotions to have.
Only dealing with the sometimes overwhelming feelings can be difficult.
To stop being angry is therefore a very understandable wish:
Because those who are prone to excessive anger block many a path through violent reactions. You can't just magic your anger away.
You have to learn to deal with it and stop being angry.
- In what situations are you angry?
- Is there a specific thing that triggers your anger?
- Is your own failure or the fear of inadequacy behind your anger?
- Do you froth when you feel cornered and see no way out?
Simply avoid the topic or issue that arouses your anger.
Avoid the topics and don't put yourself in the questionable situations. If you notice what triggers your anger during the conversation, change the subject or break off the conversation.
You can of course justify this to the person you are talking to, then you remain honest and authentic.
But don't get carried away with a discussion about why this or that in particular arouses your anger - because then you deal with the topic in question and become angry.
If you recognize your own weaknesses and shortcomings behind your anger, you should address them. If you feel incompetent and angry about it, educate yourself.
Then you no longer have to be angry in the given situation. You should always see your own failures and fears as a challenge to work on yourself.
Breathe deeply, before the wave comes
If you reflect on your emotions, you will quickly recognize when anger comes over you again.
You'll be able to spot early warning signs, so the emotional impact won't take you completely by surprise. But you always have to observe yourself and about it thinkwhen you feel what, why and how exactly.
If you notice early signs that anger is about to come, you should take a deep breath first. build mentally Distance yourself from the given situation by putting yourself in the position of an uninvolved observer.
Try to look at yourself and your (possible) reaction from the outside, so that your emotions can cool down.
A good strategy can also be to back off briefly at the first sign of overwhelming situations.
A quick visit to the restroom or a trip to the coffee shop can be used as an excuse if one is needed.
Put yourself in the other person's position
Targeted reflection on your own behavior can lead to you putting yourself in the position of the other person. Ask yourself:
- How does your anger affect other people?
- Is the image you project on others what you really want?
- Or does that contradict your self-image?
- How should you behave in order to achieve what you want, including the image you have of yourself?
Regularly reflecting on your behavior will help you achieve what you want for yourself.
Many people find help in sport.
Above all, power-intensive sports such as bouldering and climbing, parcours and the various Asian martial arts help to reduce aggression.
The sport requires a high level of concentration and is distracting.
This gives you distance to your everyday life and you can use sporty frustrations SUCCESS process very differently.
But there is also a valve: you set it Energy and strength that the anger unleashes in you. In addition, you gain a positive attitude towards life from physical activity.
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