Last updated on February 28, 2021 by Roger Kaufman
Get your own behavior under control: Stop being angry and learn to let go
Impulsive people have a reputation for being honest and authentic. First of all, these are positive qualities that also prove their worth when dealing with people.
Sometimes impulsivity can also be negative. If Anger, anger and ambition become so large that only a red wall appears in the mind's eye, this leads to less than pleasant outbursts.
No longer being angry is the key to cooling down - you can find out how to do that here.
Reflective handling of emotions
Emotions are healthy. They serve to nurture the mental life. And so it's not bad at all, Anger, rage, frustrations and other emotions to have.
Just dealing with the sometimes overwhelming feelings can be difficult.
No longer being angry is therefore a completely understandable wish:
Because anyone who is prone to excessive anger will block many paths through violent reactions. You can't just magic your anger away.
You have to learn to deal with it and stop being angry.
Reflect:
- In which situations are you angry?
- Is there a particular thing that triggers your anger?
- Is your own failure or fear of inadequacy behind your anger?
- Do you overflow when you feel cornered and can't see a way out?
Simply avoid the topic or issue that arouses your anger.
Avoid the topics and don't put yourself in the questionable situations. If you notice what triggers your anger during the conversation, change the subject or break off the conversation.
Of course you can explain this to the person you are talking to, then you will remain honest and authentic.
But don't get carried away with a discussion about why this or that arouses your anger - because then you will deal with the topic in question and become angry.
If you recognize your own weaknesses and inadequacies behind your anger, you should address them. If you feel incompetent and get angry because of it, educate yourself.
Then you no longer have to be angry in the given situation. You should always see your own failures and fears as a challenge to work on yourself.
Taking a deep breathbefore the wave comes
If you reflect on your emotions, you will quickly recognize when anger comes over you again.
You will be able to identify early warning signs so that the emotional impact doesn't completely surprise you. But to do this you always have to observe yourself and think about it think, when you feel what, why and how exactly.
If you notice early signals that anger is about to come, you should first take a deep breath. Build mentally Distance yourself from the given situation by putting yourself in the position of an uninvolved observer.
Try to look at yourself and your (possible) reaction from the outside so that your emotions can cool down.
A good strategy can also be to withdraw briefly at the first sign of overwhelming situations.
A quick visit to the toilet or a trip to the coffee kitchen can be used as an excuse if one is necessary.
Put yourself in the other person's shoes
Targeted reflection on your own behavior can lead to you putting yourself in the shoes of your counterpart. Ask yourself:
- How does your anger affect other people?
- Is the image you present to others what you really want?
- Or does that contradict your self-image?
- How should you behave to achieve what you want, including the image you have of yourself?
Regularly reflecting on your behavior will help you achieve what you want for yourself.
Many people find help in sport.
Above all, strength-intensive sports such as bouldering and climbing, obstacle courses and the various Asian martial arts help to reduce aggression.
The sport requires a lot of concentration and is distracting.
This gives you a distance from your everyday life and allows you to overcome frustrations with the help of sport SUCCESS process completely differently.
But there is also a valve: you set it Energy and the strength that the anger releases in you. You also gain a positive attitude towards life from physical activity.
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