The butterfly called out to her contemptuously: “How dare you let yourself be seen near me? Away with you! Behold, I am beautiful and bright as the sun, and my wings carry me high into the air while you crawl upon the earth. Away, we have nothing to do with each other!”
“Your pride, you colorful one butterfly"It doesn't look good on you," the caterpillar replied calmly.
“All your colorfulness does not give you the right to despise me. We are and remain relatives, so you are insulting yourself. Weren't you once a caterpillar? And won’t your children be caterpillars like you and me?!”
Dealing with mistakes psychology
3 keys to dealing with mistakes
One of the best ways to build trust is to treat failures as experiences of discovery.
Acknowledge your feelings
Although we understand intellectually that failure can be an understanding experience, it is still not fun.
What is your first reaction when a situation doesn't go as planned?
Psychologically examine any or all that apply.
I generally look for a person or something to blame.
I often tend to blame myself.
I avoid thinking about what happened.
I treat myself too much, spend too much, use too many substances, distract myself
It's natural to intend to avoid unpleasant feelings.
But dodging causes even more suffering.
Furthermore, inhibiting your sensations can lead to a less effective handling of the experience, meaning you don't get as much out of it.
It takes Courage, not to become numb and also to really feel the experience.
And sure, it often makes sense to take a break and distract yourself when you're overwhelmed.
This is just good self-care.
But don't stay away for so long; understand when it is time to give your feelings a home.
Don't label yourself as a failure
The fact that you made a mistake does not mean that you are a failure as a human being.
Slipping is an action or occasion.
Saying you are a failure is extreme self-condemnation.
Notification of this suspected development:
I made several mistakes on an exam.
I failed the test.
I am a loser.
Rather, a healthier way to check this would be:
I made several mistakes during the exam.
I failed the test.
I need to talk to the professor and develop a strategy.
Think about a time when you “fell short” at something.
Can you revise the story to make sure you don't judge yourself as a human being?
Keep a sense of humor
At a workshop for psychotherapists on how to deal with offering expert opinions in court. The majority of people are quite apprehensive about the idea of testifying in court, and one of the goals of the presentation was to familiarize the target market with exactly how to handle questions that might trip them up.
The presenter, a prominent forensic psychologist with decades of court testimony, claimed he still asked questions he had no idea how to answer.
The previously significant presenter threw up his arms and also exclaimed, “What can I say? I am a wrong person!”
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